My son went down a few years ago(hes out now and has calmed a lot since).Stupid as it may sound,i think in some ways it was worse for me than him  He says the boredom drove him daft,for me it was the  seeing solicitors,trying to deal with the aftermath etc.At the time i backed him all the way, (he did something while drunk)but when he was released i made it quite clear that if he ever did anything similar again he was on his own.One other thing,i found out who my real friends were,i was glad of certain peoples support

Oh Jenn.I I so wish i could make things better,i keep rereading your comments here and i just want to give you a hug and try and make things right.Be nice to yourself,youve gone through so much,take it a day at  a time.You achieved so much caring for your Mam and Dad,well done,not all daughters would do that.As for the person who screwed you over?They caught you when you were so terribly vulnerable .But things have a way of coming back to bite you ,what goes around comes around.Something or someone will hurt them.And your stepfather?Hes so terribly wrong ,Im just one of the people here who think a heck of a lot of you.My love and thoughts are with you x xJ

I disagree with the statement(unless ive taken it out of context,if so i apologise).If i lost either my cat or my dog,especially my dog,i would be absolutely devastated.To me it would be a tragedy.I bought a plaque for another dog i lost,it says"not just a dog,my best friend,i miss you".Shes been dead four years but to me it says it all

I do wonder if you amke your own heaven and hell

We will, but only if its free range.Seem to be eating less meat lately now i think about it

Revenge fantasies?Bide your time then go get your own back when that person thinks youve forgotten.....Thats mine at the moment anyway!!Itll keep.....

Thanks Ducky,struggling again ,itll pass xx

Theres only one person that can answer your question and thats you.Your friends cant tell you ,neither can your doctor.Yes,i am an alcoholic,in recovery eleven and a half years ,but im only one drink away from being drunk.I wish you luck

Only just seen your post PL.Im so terribly sorry,my love,thoughts and condolences are with you x

Difficult one Bob.If hes had a "problem with alcohol" in the past it may be that just one drink is too many for him.My honest opinion?Ditch him.If he realises he may have a problem and wants to do something about it then back him all the way.But while hes still drinking you will never be his main priority,alcohol is always going to come first.Harsh but true,sorry x