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I just wanted to let you know how the funeral went on

Well we left at 4am to arrive at 10am we got just out side of essex and we only had 43 miles left to go when my Hubby says I dont want to frighten you but you the head casketts went last year on the truck well it seems be doing the same thing by overheating we put the hot air fans on (oh Colleen) why wernt you with me!) and it still was rising the temp gauge anyway by now we are looking for a road stop and it was 1/2 7am so we had pleanty of time so we pulled in hubbie cracked the bonnet up and slowy released the cap of and by the way he had his best suit on and and it was raining cats and dogs he was socked he he had to buy a bottle of water ( grumpy old man started to come out) how much! for a litre of water 2.58p uk money just to empty it out and refil with warm water as he didnt want a cracked what ever!!! 1 hr later we are now heading off on the M25 the UK guys will know what this means...of course there was a accident and it was on our exit yes our exit ...so the good old sat nav sent us somewhere else we finely got to our destination by 10 mins  we get out both soaked and finely enter the crem we had a lovely woman preacher who spoke of Mom when she was in the Army and pointed out Quite Right that the woman in the forces at that time only received half the pay as the men ( which I dint know) I was so proud of my Mom she did 6 years and what a brave woman she was by this time my Brother and I were boohooing there were many things mentioned which brought back memories when I was a child, and how she met my father when the war had ended my Mom waited in Lyons Corner cafe in London it was quite famouse in its day it has been in many a films sadly spy films!!!!! in black and white.....I feel ok sometimes then others I will just burst out crying and I feel soooo alone I know I have family but it seems silly I feel like a orphane now thank you again xxx

Get some rest Mel you've been through a lot... love, blessings and peace..daren

Thank you for the story ,I know it was difficult to write . I am honoured that  you thought of us in-spite of your grief and shared the story of the day . That took courage ! I am hoping the days for healing will be kind and the journey be a sweet one as you recall the moments of a life time . God Bless.                                                   Bill

Oh Mel - what an ordeal to add to everything oh yes and that M25, just a nightmare  - how things just happen this way. So glad to hear you got through it all and sad how all the memories come flowing back. Hey you know you mentioned Lyons Corner House - yes so famous in those days - My Mum met my Dad in Hyde Park - then speakers corner everyone gathered around to listen to various speakers on boxes. She was with her friend and met him and then went again and what do you know met him again then they went out for tea. It will take time for you but you have support thank God, take very good care of yourself and avoid the M25 if possible. Sending love to youxx.  

Mel;  I do know how you feel as I lost my sister 2 1/2 years ago and I am now an only child.  I feel cheated some days and others I can barely think about her without a big sob-fest.  I feel like a very whimpy person because I just can't let it go.

They do say it gets easier.

I am right there with you ... and thank you for your story.  It does seem as if the world around you crashes all at once some times... I have a few stories like yours.

Big hugs and lots of love, Fishie

AYE ma wee lassie "Oh tell old Romos I am not "grumpy Its my wife who"s Grumpy  got it from her mother. take care Mel Love from Josie And "Grumpy".Hee

Now take care of yourself and your family.......{:D

No need to feel alone darlin, you have your grumpy old husband , the grumpy old KOTF, and all the other grumpy olds here in akaQA, not to mention the grumpy youth too, always thinking of you and yours..R.

I'm so sorry, my thoughts and prayers r with u, God bless you. I know you'll always remember your mother.

Ahh Mellie . Just know we are here for you! Just relax    say   bye and know we are here  I hope  it rains when my end comes  because it is cleansing and can be gentle or  rampaging  Peace Be With You!

It was a relief seeing you back on akaqa and more of one seeing you here now and telling stories. Hope you're holding up OK................

Mel, I believe even though you mom is gone in the physical her spirit is still with you, still watching over you. My mom died in January too. That following summer, in July I found green tomatoes in a flowerpot outside my patio. When she was still alive and suffered from Alzheimers, she always picked green tomatoes and put them in the same flowerpot. There was no one else here at the time. I felt it was a message from her, that she was still here in spirit. That was 16 yrs. ago. It will take time to ease the pain that you are feeling right now. Make sure you take care of yourself . We are here for you anytime you feel overwhelmed with grief.

May God be with you and your family. Love and prayers, Ann

remember all those good times, treasure the things your mum achieved and value all you have, take care xx

Your said you were very proud of your mom.  I'll bet she is very proud of you.  
Cry as much as you need to, Melandrupert. She was your mom. It's OK. 
Love you.  Bob/PKB
 

The first year after someone is gone is the most difficult. I call it the Year of First's. Then things become less difficult and remembering only the good times shines through and begin to really help you heal. I am very connected to both my parents on a spiritual level now, as I'm sure you will be fortunate to experience also. Lots of hugs and take care.

Mel- I apologize for responding late..the procedure didn't go so well and I had to return to the hospital...i am slowly getting better- In any case I am so sorry you had that drama on the way to your moms service!  and it is totally normal to be laughing one minute and crying the next...or find yourself lost in memories! We are here for you- and will be! No matter your mood!  You're wonderful and don't have to be a pillar of strength. You just have to be you!  My prayers continue for you and your family!!!!!!