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I think if he took your cash he,s neither rich nor offended, then  again maybe that,s how he,s rich .Don,t  lose any sleep over it.

he asked you so he should pay , perhaps maybe you should pay the tip..

I would have payed for mine too.. Unless it was understood that this event was a gift tto the family.

Itsme you did the right thing even if he thought at the time you shouldnt have done that he will always remember that you paid for your meals you did the right thing!

If he invited you ,why did you stray from the normal of a host gift? I guess I don't get it! Maybe he was offended by the money.

He IS definitely rich. You can tell by the house, the yacht, the fabulous mountain cabin, the two top of the line mercedes, the rings, etc. : ) 

I think all those marks of wealth are very important to some people. I have never given it much thought until just lately ... now that I'm feeling kinda poor. 

See this sort of confirms my thinking that its good to avoid family at Thanksgiving . Too much drama! Best to beg off and mind ones own business, stay home . Family gatherings are a walk through a mine  field at least  with my family. The fall out from this will be long lasting  and for what a free meal and 50.00 bucks . Sorry most times the best course of action is doing nothing . I hope the food was good . I have no idea what manners and social graces  dictate here . Good Luck ! Bill

Do you seriously mean that you handed the man $50.00 after the meal, IN HIS HOME?   I thought you were paying your share IN A RESTAURANT!?  No one has ever offered me money for a meal in my home.  Why would they?

Ducky

Oh, oh, I get it...misunderstood. I don't see anything wrong with that at all.

I think I am understanding this.  You should just invite him over for a nice evening and have a talk.  Or take him out to a lovely little restaurant for a special lunch.

It's ok to make a mistake and it's ok to try and help with expenses.

Your heart is in the right place and you just didn't have time to do something else that was special.  Next Thanksgiving isn't that far away.

xoxo Fishgirl

I think you did the right thing.The only other course of action would have been to offer to pay half.I'm seriously surprised nobody else offered to chip in.ROMOS is right,don't lose any sleep over it.

He didn't really invite us OUT to dinner. The usual way for our family dinner is that he has it at his house. We all bring pies and things. I always add something special like a table decoration or something pretty that I have painted. 

Ducky

Well, now we have a whole new slant on this one, don't we?

Ducky

Okay..confused me too...:)

I don't like a lot of things so going out is a nightmare sometimes,when it comes to eating . So I understand the vegetarian thing . Heart was in the right place ,so put it to bed and move on . I wish you a good holiday and the best of the season . Bill

My Hubby usually offers the price of our meal to the host after dinner on the sly.  The Host can then choose to accept it or not.  Sometimes we let everyone know before the meal how payment is going to be made.  Like, Dad's taking us all out to dinner means Dad pays.  Or lets go out to dinner means we all go Dutch and then you can decide if you can afford to go or not.  

We used to go out every year to a local restaurant till it closed many years ago. We all took turns as to who was picking up the tab for dinner that year. We now all congregate at my place, I love it. It's not cheap feeding 33 hungry and thirsty people, but worth every penny.

I will not double click again. I promise. 

It's all okay itsmee.  Don't give it another thought.   :)

In the UK its normal to split the bill by the number of couples, so the men usually pay an equal share. Although we have some English relatives who live in Australia and when they came over to visit we all went out for a meal and they didn't offer to pay anything, (tight bast  ds) so look out for them if you live in Australia.