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    You grew up like this and lived to tell about it. Is this you?

    My curfew was the street light, when it came on, I went home. My mom called my name, not my cell. I played outside with friends, not online. If I didn't eat what my mom cooked, then I didn't eat. Sanitizer didn't exist, but you COULD get your mouth washed out with soap. I drank from a garden hose and survived. I rode a bike without a helmet, getting dirty… was OK, and…… neighbors looked out for you as much as your parents did.

    Ahh, the good old days, do you miss them?

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    melandrupert

    very good Colleen TU for that
    Spaceghost

    Very good Colleen, that brings back a lot of good memories, T.U. for you my friend.
    mycatsmom

    I didn't have a bike and I had to sit there and eat everything on my plate if it took all evening.

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    I grew up in a small town in NH. There was nothing there. A one firetruck town, tiny post office, 2 churches, one general store that had food left over in it from the civil war. We got our milk from the farm a few miles up the street. We had my fathers old peddle bike with a huge metal basket in the front of it that 4 glass gallon jars fit into. Riding to get the milk was the worse part because of the huge hill you had to go up. You could peddle 1/2 way up but had to walk the rest of the way up pushing this heavy old fashioned bike. Once at the top of the hill, back to peddling. It was one heck of a workout. The ride back down the hill was like an amusement park ride, scary/thrilling. You went down the hill at what? guessing 20-25mph with 4 gallons of milk weighing down the front of the bike making it hard to steer it or control it. You just held your breathe, hung on and flew!! LOL Great ride :)

    Entertainment in town was if 2 kids had a beef with each other. Then it was, "Meet you at the ball park 3:00 Saturday!" Really, that became the time to settle beefs. If you didn't show, you were a chicken. Everyone always showed. We took our licks as our friends cheered us on. First one down to even one knee lost and the fight was over. We handled our problems without it turning into a riot or a shooting.

    We fished off the top of the dam and no one ever fell in and we swam without swimming aids. I personally climbed trees to almost the top. Would fall out of some, hit the ground and have the breath knocked out of me but as soon as I could breathe again, I'd get back up and climb that sucker again.

    We were always outside. My mother allowed no hanging around in the house unless it was raining. We got 2 hours of TV on Friday night and 2 hours on Sunday night when we watched the Walt Disney movie of the week.

    We were in bed at 7:30 pm on school nights and 9pm on Friday and Saturday nights.

    Today, these kids have every hand held device made, computers, cellphones and personal TV's and still come to this forum saying they're bored....
    doublehelix

    the thing is they don't know 'how' to use these devices to benefit from...it's why they're bored..
    Colleen

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    They're bored because no one taught them how to get outside into the fresh air and use their energy and imagination.
    matheneyg

    Colleen you talking about the bike with the big basket out fron I remember them my 1st job was making del. with a bike like that Groceries and even rolls of roofing materials worked all week 6 days made 10 bucks spent it all at the movis on Sunday watching all the Jap monster , space flicks Godzilla repticlicus , mothera, mysterians
    LOL good memories
    It's like it was another life altogether.Things were so different & so much simpler.There were virtually no supermarkets here in Oz back then.I was sent to the corner shop for everything.It was 2 miles away & if my bike wasn't broken I didn't mind.Otherwise I walked.Tv wasn't allowed until 6pm.(Post 1960)& turned off at 9:30pm on the dot.But that was life & we didn't know any better.I still say it was a good life in semi-rural Qld,& sometimes long for it.
    My God, I just had a flashback and I don't even do drugs!
    Colleen

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    Hahahaha, you're missing your childhood now, aren't you? ;D
    6dogs4us

    Not quite like yours, I wasn't brought up in the country, more like a small city. We played marbles, rode our bikes around the neighborhood, played badminton and croquet. I was a reader so more times than not I would curl up with a book for hours rather than play with the kids. My grandparents had a camp on Webster Lake, so I was shipped up there for the summer and out of my mother's hair. There were kids there too, to swim and play with. Life was good.
    Colleen

    Moderator
    As a child I was a ferocious reader. I read anything I could get my hands on. It was my escape from my reality. Books that proved to me there was a better life out there. Being a Pisces, I loved the water as a child.
    6dogs4us

    C, I'll have to check out Webster Street again as I don't remember a rock house on it. If you can give me more details I'd appreciate it.
    Thank you Colleen for the insight into what it was like in the real world of your childhood.

    Mine was similar, just throw in riding a horse bareback (without a saddle) when your skinny legs stuck straight out to the side as you were so small.
    Three sometimes four kids on the one horse. you go to the dam to give the horse a drink, horse puts its` head down and four kids slide over the horses neck. I remember being so small I had to stand on a log to get on the horses back.Wouldn`t change it for quids.
    Colleen

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    Oooh, yes! We had horses too. We rode them everywhere. Even back then though, people could be dicks or stupid...whichever. They use to come up on me as I way riding down the road and lay on their horn. We had well trained horses though so the horn never bothered them. Whether the people were trying to warn me they were coming up on me or they did it to try and startled the horse, it doesn't matter. Hitting the horse behind a horse is the stupidest thing anyone can do.
    mycatsmom

    I begged my dad for a bike, a swing set,a basketball net on the garage, and a horse. He said no to all 4, b/c he said no to everything .
    My childhood was entirely different. It was interuppted by world war II. Thousands of us were shipped to Germany on cattle trains and we only had the clothes on our back. It is a very long story.
    country bumpkin

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    I'm sorry to hear this,Ann.
    robertgrist

    That war was horrible, I lost so many family members in concentration camps. I saw their photos and heard many stories about them when I was a child. Many surviving relatives with numbers scrawled in tattoo on their wrist came to stay with us. All were welcome.
    melandrupert

    Ann my heart goes out to you this is a very sad up bringing and no fault on your parents perhaps one day you could share this as I think every one would be very interested in this subject but if it is still painful I would under stand you were one of the blessed ones that survied (((hugs for ever)))
    Ann

    Thanks Mel.This war was hell for us. Hitler was an evil man. I will probably tell everone my story in time. Too many bad memories.
    Ann

    Robert, this was the war of a very disturbed and evil human beeing. My heart goes out to you, losing so many relatives to this evil man. I have lost one uncle in a concentration camp in Dachau. That is nothing compared to what you lost.
    Colleen

    Moderator
    "Too many bad memories."

    The best way to get them out of you so they have less power to affect you is to remove them by speaking of them. Tell and receive the good positive energy from the people who listen and empathize. Let that energy fill the spot that the horrors have filled for so long.

    You survived it all Ann, you were stronger than it. Keep building that strength and take all the power away from those dark memories. (((hugs))) to you.
    Ann

    Thanks Colleen. I tried not to think about it, but sometimes it comes back to haunt me. I have dealt with it in my own way. I cannot change the past only the future.
    Ann

    Thank you country bumpkin
    Bevs

    I'm so sorry you went through this Ann. I can't even imagine, even though I've read about in history, how people can be so cruel. I'm so glad you survived brave lady!
    Ann

    Thanks Bev. There were thousands of people who suffered the same fate. God kept us safe through it all.We had no possessions, but we had God and each other and we survived.
    Jenn

    You really did survive... And obviously grow into a strong women.. You inspire me.
    Ann

    Thank you Jenn. You have your share of problems too and so many people on this site and I consider myself fortunate, because it is behind me, while many of you still try to overcome health and other problems. I consider myself lucky to be part of all the wonderful people on this site.
    Tommyh

    Ann,You just broke my heart & I'm big tough Aussie bloke.I'm typing this with tears in my eyes.More power to you girl I hope you live a very long & comfortable life.
    Ann

    Thank you Tommy that is so sweet. I have moved on from there a long time ago and I am happy where I am
    right now. I wish you and your family well.
    melandrupert

    thank you ann for all that was said on your terrible life but as you said we live in the present not the past you are a great Lady and I take ny hat of to you for being so strong pat your selve on the back you deserve it xxx
    west-bus

    God bless you Ann. There was always something I wanted to ask you but I was afraid to, I didn't want to throw you back to those terrible times. Now I don't need to ask and I thank you.
    i feel sorry for the kids today. they are missing so much. we had time to make our own fun. seems like everybody is on a schedule.no time to just be a kid
    We would play under the big mesquite tree for hours with those plastic soldiers, cowboys and indians. Then around 3:00pm everyday (during the summer) the snowcone truck would come by and we all would get one.Coconut/Banana is still my favorite today. But you have to get them from road side stands today and I miss the cone shaped cups.
    I have really enjoyed all the comments that every one has put I was in Boarding School till I was 9 yrs then we moved to the country wow loved it went out in the morning and only came back around 5pm only by then I was hungry I use to ride my dads bike witch was far too big for me and my legs couldnt reach the pedles we use to make dens out of anything that was to hand and at Christmas in our stocking was always fruit and a inexspencive toy and I was over the moon I think I enjoyed the snow more out door girl and known as the tomboy I fought with all the boys and my Mother always said one day you will kiss one I thought she was mad. just goes to show you Mother knows best. on Saturday we had Saturday morning Pics and we use to screem and shout brilliant days I think the children are really missing out on adventure and I think they are wraped up in cotton wool too much I know we live in different era but there were still gang fights bad men" as we called them" I think the Media has alot to answer for
    Ann

    So many fond memories of your childhood.I was a tomboy too and used to get in trouble. Almost everyone on this site misses the good old days. Remember the song "Yesterday, all my troubles seem so far away" by the Beattles? I love that song.
    melandrupert

    yes I certainly do Ann new would have been a tomboy just as well you and I wernt friends as we would have got into so so much trouble thanks Ann
    We all came from different backgrounds, all had different experiences. But one thing we all had in common was that being a child back then we certainly a whole lot different that it is now. The other thing is - it made us what we are today. Here we all are sharing a little bit of our lives with each other - that's a good thing.
    melandrupert

    How true is that I loved my childhood as I can see everyone else did I wonder what the children of of today would write would it be computors facebook I am sure it wouldnt be of adventures like we had
    You could get into fights with the neighborhood kids, and the dads would get together and tell you both to fight it out. Lawsuits weren't ever mentioned.

    If you got in trouble with the police they would just take you home to face the wrath of your parents. You could drink and drive with an open container, the drinking age was 18 then 19 and finally 21. I could walk into a bar on the strip and buy a few beers when I was 15 or 16.

    There was no such thing as zero tolerance. I know I brought up some different situations, yes I did get into some trouble. I also remember the good things, you mentioned many of them in your question. Good one thumbs up.
    My kids are being raised with the can rules and in a supporting community. That is way I stay in this town... They do have thier play stations but they are only for when it is too hot to go out, or late night when Daddy is sleeping. We dug a whole a couple of years ago filled it with water and called it our pool for a few weeks.. We get dirty and sweaty.... Parents can help their kids have a real childhood it just takes work and an interest in your kids.
    Yes it was so much simpler then, born in the UP of Michigan, raised in small town. Remember exploring the woods and seeing falls river... bringing home baby skunks to my mother, yikes. Lots of winter sports, ice skating, skiing, toboggoning. But then after leaving home, I had to grow up and went through my knocks... but as the song goes, "I will survive"
    Chesapeake Bay was the playground of my childhood. The nature there gave me many glowing memories os sand, foam, boats and fun in and around the bay. I loved everything about the bay and wildlife there. By the time I was 7 it was all gone, my life had gone through traumatic changes and the world I knew as a child was stripped away from me by fear and unimaginable cruelty in an environment where death, intimidation and intrigue competed for my life and all I knew. What I lived through was so bizarre that no one could or would consider it anything but a child’s fantasy and lunacy to this day. I know what happened, there is no proof, not a shred of evidence and no one wants to know except the shrinks whose interests consist of how I am sleeping, eating and behaving. I don’t frighten anyone, no bad habits and I try to maintain myself as an uninteresting average person who doesn’t stand out in a crowd.
    There is this place in your life where you realize that the only thing that really matters for you is the present. It is in the present, here and now that there is peace. Nothing else really matters because this is the only safe refuge there is in your life. I suppose it would be nice not having to learn that too early in your life by the weirdness I went through especially. It closes off a lot of options and can more easily lead to a fateful ending no one would seek to share, because its too frightening to consider.
    Colleen

    Moderator
    I'm sorry you lost your childhood Robert. I'm sorry too that your adulthood has been so affect by whatever it was that went on. There's no such thing as "fixing" something like that. You can only live with it and live around it the best you can. In spite of it all, you always found the strength to survive and that makes you greater than those who had the childhood you didn't have. That happy, tranquil childhood that should have given people a great foundation to becoming a strong solid person, yet as a adults they struggle daily to find the strengths you have. I see a lot of intelligence in you. Much of what you post here is deep and meaningful. Whatever your trauma was/is, you seem to have moved above it because your mind has depth and does deal with things from a logical and rational place. Have faith that you're handling it well. Others would have given up and succumbed to their fate. You did not. That's something to be proud of.
    Life was simple in the 50's and 60's what will the kids today talk about to their kids when their 60, can it get that much worst or will they say the same thing.
    When I was young I could invent games from very little. We could go out to play morning till night and there was no need for anyone to worry. I watch kids these days and they have everything and still are looking for more. If they lost everything they would not have a clue how to have fun. I wonder what the children will be playing with in 10 or 20 years.
    Colleen

    Moderator
    Hopefully 10 - 20 years from now they will still have a childhood. I think it's time to do away with the electronics and teach kids how to use their imaginations again.
    friendindeed

    Colleen the problem is things can never go back. Unless parents see the need to teach kids how to play again
    Colleen

    Moderator
    I know FID, hopefully this new generation with see the error with their parents thinking and bring things back around to teaching kids to use their own minds and imaginations.
    Sure does get you thinking don't it? I grew up during the 60's,like Colleen said every parent on the street was also your parent.Now you are lucky too know the people next door.Same thing with the streetlights,when they came on,it was time to head home.I sure do miss those days.WHAT HAPPENED!!!!!!!!!!!
    Colleen

    Moderator
    Apparently our generation decided it wasn't all that great and changed the way kids were raised and became friend to them rather than parent.
    My life wasn't as innocent as what I'm reading here. Had two deranged parents, and grew up in the city. Got my ass beat at least once a week by some thug on the block. Learned that people basically sucked. I reflect back today and am happy that the hate I was accustomed didn't follow me through life.
    Colleen

    Moderator
    Ed, honestly, outside of the city bit, your life was my life except it was almost daily beatings from my father. I have precious few good memories of my childhood. But I do have to look back and find the few good ones to try and keep balance in my life. It's what keeps me from being the nasty person I could have been ;)
    ed shank

    Shitty when you only have those kinds of memories. My step father stopped beating my ass, after I shoved a 25 down his throat, literally. I told him I'll do 5 years you'll be dead forever. I was sixteen. He left an hour later.
    Colleen

    Moderator
    It's too bad that child abuse wasn't more recognized back in our days. Now they've gone the other end of the spectrum and kids are obnoxiously spoiled for lack of discipline. Maybe someday we'll get it right.
    ed shank

    How true, don't hold your breath on getting it right.
    Based on today's protective lifestyles presented by those that are ruining our kids I have no idea how I could have possibly survived childhood. Somehow, I survived, I lived through a great time, I had sooo many friends in my neighborhood, we were together every day.. Many I am still friends with today.. We have this same discussion many times.. I can't tell you how many times i fell out of a tree.. LOL
    Ducky

    Moderator
    Ah, so that's it! :)
    Vinny

    On my butt, not my head!
    Everybody here pretty much covered it so all, I can say "THOSE WERE THE DAYS", footloose and fancy free, HERE'S TO THE GOOD OL DAYS!!! THANK YOU EACH AND EVERYONE, ESPECIALLY YOU COLLEEN FOR THE QUESTION THAT BROUGHT SOME GREAT MEMORIES!!!
    I understand very well. Sounds like my youth. Carefree, time to be creative (get into trouble),play Cowboys and Indians, soft ball in an empty lot, hop-scotch in the street.
    I also remember the ice cream truck coming by on summer afternoons and all the kids in the neighborhood running after it.
    Playing Kick the Can and other games that did not require batteries or internet hookups. I don't remember any kids being scared of strangers (we probably should have been) or being advised not to near the auto of a stranger. Life was good in lala land. Then we had to grow up. What a journey!
    Yes indeed i do remember those days and just to tell you something I find funny now but not at the time I was a skinny little kid growing up, very picky eater, my Mom came up in the depression, you did not waste and you ate what was put before you. Well I love home cooking and vegetables now but as a small kid did not care for them much then. My Mom in trying to get me to eat would tell me of all the starving children in China. Well finally one day I piped up and told her well then pack mine up and mail it to them. Hmmmmm one of the many worst whippings I got LOL.....
    good our generation decided to become fiends with their kids, to a friend i can talk about my fillings my worries to a parent wich think the kid is belong to him i can not
    Colleen

    Moderator
    True. Parents might want to be friends with their kids but kids find it hard to be friends with their parents because kids still will want to do the things they should not be doing. These things they can not share with their parents like they share with their friends, their peers.

    My childhood was spent "in the country", where we had dirt under our feet when we went outside, not sidewalk.  We had a huge yard to ride our bikes (my dad had a trucking company), a vineyard of small proportion, and a corral with sheep, a cow, and a horse.  We had toys and games inside, and a swing set and small swimming pool during the summer.  The neighbors were a "home run" away, and we had an assortment of imaginative, sometimes competitive games to play. If we lacked anything, it was contact with more kids.  


    Our town was known as the raisin capital of the world, and there were, and still are, churches of nearly every denomination and faith.  We had "mom and pop" stores and restaurants. My favorite restaurant, "Bruce's Lodge" had an airplane sticking out of the roof, and the "Cornet" store was my favorite store. Patterson's Drug had a soda fountain, just like Woolworth's used to have.  

    I can just hear the kids of today telling their grandchildren about some video game they mastered and was so proud of........... sad.
    Colleen

    Moderator
    Well, that's not too far off from Pinball hero. I remember when it matter who could master pinball and get the highest score. Of course that had a lot to do with the movie Tommy.
    Don't forget we didn't have seatbelts or car seats either. Dad drove the car at 60 mph and I stood up in the back seat!!!!!! OH yea, two parent( male and female) family!!
    Colleen

    Moderator
    Yes and sitting in dad's lap and helping to drive was the norm also. I see the two parent (male and female) comment. I'm sorry to see you think the new family is not a mark of good progress and think only opposite sex parenting works. This is not true. Children raised by same sex parents are actually a tad ahead of children raised by a mother and a father. The studies have been done and continue to be done that proves this. I think to keep two parent families a positive, it should more stand over single parent families and broken homes more than what the sex of the parents are.
    mycatsmom

    60!? Everybody here in Michigan drove 80 all the way up north........after expressways were built.

    to sum up your statement in a whole, it has alot to do with the laziness of the parents. when babies have babies after they still lack the quality,skills,knowledge,and respect that we were brought up to respect and uphold. they are raised and babysat by the internet,t.v.,and the overall break down in our social webbings. today your neighbor would rather rip you off and stab you in the back than to offer a helping hand. we had no cell phones, no internet.and didnt idolize dolls and action figures that are a close second to being escorts and hookers. eventhough abuse of a child is never a good thing or a welcome thing, our parents and grandparents used to have us pick out our own switches when need be,without being able to threaten them with calling the cops or child protective services.. and to this day my siblings and i use please and thank you and no and yes ma'am or sir.

    sadly.. it is the kids of yesterday that allow the kids of today to be what they are..and they have done the kids of today no favours..>>>>>>>>>>><<<<<<<<<<<<

    I miss them, except that my parents told me to "go play in traffic."

    ROMOS

    Boo hoo, I don't believe you.
    Clonge

    Why do you think I'm HERE? I was able to dodge traffic!
    terryfossil 1

    If your that good Clonge,maybe you should try out for a rugby club..>>>>>>>><<<<<<<<..

    Worse, simpler than this and I am here healthier, saner than average :)

    HI I GROWED UP IN THAI LAND AND CAMED HERE SCINCE I WAS 3 OR 4 IN 2000 MY FIRST FOOD I AUSTRALIA IS BEEF PIES AND LAMIGTONS WHAT A BUTTIEY FULL THING I CONVERDED TO ISLAMIC I BELEVED IN BUDDHA I HAD I STARNGE DREAM I HERD GODS VOICE OR GABRILE THE ANGEL TEALLING ME  SOME YHING TO CHANGE MY RELIGEON SO I TOKE IT AS A SIGHN FROM THE HEAVENS.MY FIRST PRIMERY SCHOOL SINGH DARN BORING BUT FREANDS MAKES IT FUN WHEAN I WAS IN KINDIE I WHOULD LOOK UP IN THE SKY AND I WISH I WAS FREE ,THEEN DAYS AND YEARS GONE BY I WHEANT TO HIGH SCHOOL I HAD OLD FREANDS AND NEW ONES I MEENT A FREAND WHOMS NAME SAYID EL-SAYID MY FIRST MUSLIM BROTHER FROM AND OTHER MOTHER HE TELLD ME A BOUT ISLAM .SCHOOL WAS CHOTIC TERD FACE AT SCHOOL FAR OUT SOORRY FOR SAYING THAT JUST MY EXPRASION.WHEAN I GROW UP I SHALL GO TO TAFE TO BE A PLICE MEN OR A FARMER IN AUSTRALIA GROWNIG AVACADOS AUSIE MADE AND A NICE FAMILLY TELL I DIE AND MY LAST BREATH I WILL SAY GOD THANK YOU SO MUSCH AND TEARS COME OUT OF MY EYES GOD I LOVE YOU.IAM 15 YEARS OLD ICANT TELL YOU WHAT YEAR IAM SHY TO TELL SO ASK GOD IN JUDEMENT DAY PEACE AND BLESSINGS BE WITH YOU TELL THE VEARY END FROM WALTHER P38



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