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    I'm pregnant and I don't know if I should keep the baby? And I'm only 16.

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    I hope you don't abort this baby because you will have to live with this decision for the rest of your life. Plenty of people in this world will want to adopt this baby and give it everything you may not be able too. You should ask yourself what will make your conscience feel better,is it knowing you gave a child a wonderful gift of life or taking away the gift of life? My mother was only 13 years old when she got pregnant with me and she wasn't worth sh-t as a mother but I am so grateful to her for not aborting me. She had 2 other abortions after me and I always wonder what it would have been like to have a sister to grow up with. Also my mom regrets to this day taking the life of her children. It is totally up to you what you want to do but I hope this may help you with what you decide.
    melandrupert

    cb you have a great mom I would be so proud of her she must have had it hard god bless her :-)
    I just went to a baby shower for a 15 year old friend of my son and niece. She has decided to raise her child, with the help and support of her parents and friends. The daddy is in and out of the picture. She thought about terminating her pregnancy on the day she found out she was pregnant. But knew that this was her baby and she was responcible for its health and well being. SHe then thought she could adopt the child out... But after talking to her family and friends she realized this child will have everything she needs to have a strong future. If you dont have the support you may want to concider adoption... My 38 yr old best friend waited until she was married 2 yrs ago to have sex for the first time only to find out she is unable to have a child of her own.. There are many amazing couple that can give your child a wonderful home... FIRST TALK TO YOUR FAMILY... but dont let them convince you to do anything you feel you can not do..... Lastly.... I lost my first child... if the doctors had known the true nature of my pregnancy deficulties at the time they would have asked me to terminate my pregnacy.. I thank God I did not have to make that choice.... I know I could not live with the knowledge that I took the life of my child. Good Luck!!! Best wishes and please keep us posted. LOTS OF LOVE!
    Here are some sites that you may want to check into. You may want to consider putting your baby up for adoption, but every mom that I know that kept their babies never regretted it.



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    Thats a huge decision to take lightly and make a quick decision. I hope you can talk to your family about this and seek some outside advice like what robertgrist suggested. Don't do something that you will never forget and forever regret.
    Abortion is a very drastic step to take.You will always wonder what your baby could have been.Little kids can be such a joy.Please consider this carefully & get some help.Your mum is a good place to start asking for help.
    Planned Parenthood affiliates provide educational programs to nearly 1.2 million young people and adults each year.
    Planned Parenthood has more than four million activists, supporters, and donors working for women's health and safety and our fundamental reproductive rights.
    I suggest you contact Planned Parenthood already to learn about your rights in this matter before talking to anyone else. Your rights and your right to choose what to do is true Americanism. Protect your rights to choose by becoming informed about your rights. If you choose to keep your child there are many people and support organizations to help you. Learn about this and choose the happiest way for yourself.
    country bumpkin

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    Robertgrist has given you some very good information. Planned Parenthood will help you.
    Talk to someone you can trust, it's hard to handle this at your age.
    adoption is always a great alternative,their's plenty of women who can't have babies . who would love and help you through the procedure..
    Please don't abort your baby! you need someone help on deciding what best to do,for you and the baby,I'm sure there are plenty of people that will want too help you.
    there are some good people here. good luck with your decision.
    you will learn to cope. you will love the child before (s)he is born. don't kill your unborn baby. my daughter is nearly 13. if she got pregnant and aborted, i'd do my mind. i would raise the child until she was ready. don't do it. please don't. please keep your child.
    please dont give your baby away! when i was 18 i hd a baby girl. my dd wouldnt let me brin her home from the hospital. instead he had children services take my baby. i never got her back. that was 38 years ago. the thing is, i used to look at babies nd wonder is that my child, i now look at grown women the same way. could she be mine, where is she and whole slew of questions. i loved her before she was born. i believe i still do. just dont do any thing you may regret. dont go through your life wondering and hurting like i have. im sure your parents will love your child as much as they do you and will want to share in their life. good luck, honey. i will keep you in my prayers.
    melandrupert

    thank you for sharing that carmaxable my preyers are with you too :-)
    Adoption is easier said than done and Abortion is the easy way out,if you feel you have support and you are mature and mentally strong enough to bring a child into your life you must be prepared for what lays ahead.Ask yourself if you think you are capable of loving,nurturing.providing and caring for a child .Given your age this is a huge resposibility and can be overwhelming,even for more mature women.Also take into consideration your schooling and future employment options,a baby can disrupt your plans.No one can make this decission for you as to have a baby or not to have a baby,the choice is yours.Whatever you decide to do is your buisness.I wish you strenghth in whatever you choose to do.
    DO NOT ABORT. So many loving couples out there waiting to be parents. This is the biggest decision you will ever make in your life. It can haunt you as long as you live. Thank you for sharing this with us. Do what YOU think is right. Advise should be welcome, but in the end YOU alone call the shots. Good luck. Pray.
    YOURE A YOUNG GIRL IF YOU WOULD HAVE WRITTEN MONTHS AGO I WOULD HAVE STATED KEEP YOUR LEGS TOGETHER AND ENJOY YOUR YOUNG LIFE WHICH IS WHAT I SHOULD HAVE DONE BUT I DIDNT EITHER. THE FATHER OF THE BABY DIED BUT I MARRIED SOMEONE ELSE HE CHEATED ON ME HE WAS AN ALCOHOLIC HE BEAT MY DAUGHTER I GOT PREGNANT HAD A BOY WE DIVORCED BUT I NEVER REGRETTED MY CHILDREN. DONT MAKE THE SAME MISTAKE AND GET MARRIED TO ANYBODY BUT THE BABIES FATHER IF NOT STAY SINGLE RAISE THE KID YOURSELF IF YOU DESIDE NOT TO DO THAT CONSIDER ADOPTION MANY LOVING COUPLES ARE TRYING TO ADOPT A NEWBORN BABY.
    eggplant

    Keep your legs crossed, dear.
    Do What You FEEL is Correct`
    You can never "undo" an abortion surgery. It's a done deal--FOREVER. You don't want to live with that decision. Your baby needs you!
    it's worth more alive...human trafficking is a problem until they're are more people so hold hands if you don't kill somebody. After you decide there after you could keep your legs together until you realize that life should not be as cheap as they've made it. Throw away banana peels not babys.

    Hi My name is Aimee I'm 34 yrs old Happily married 8 yrs this yr .  I only have half a uterues and due to that there is a 15% chance of me ever getting pregnant so if you are unable to keep your baby how do I say this can my husband and I have it if you want to contact me my facebook account is Aimee Susan Rodriguez my E-mail is tealdoll3411@aol.com please find me on facebook first then E-mail.


    Between my Husband And I we have over 300 family members if you help us you and the baby will be family as well and you will help make our dreams come ture and fill our home with baby cries not mine Thanks Aimee&Evelio Rodriguez



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