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    Do you ever worry, like a lot, about what people think of you?

    I'm sort of getting better...especially when I'm relaxed, but man can I get myself in a tizzy sometimes!!!

    +4  Views: 1054 Answers: 12 Posted: 11 years ago
    varon

    EXCELLENT QUESTION MONKEY
    monkey11

    Thanks, Varon! Sometimes hearing from others can be a big help!

    12 Answers

    One thing I have learnt in life is that not everyone is going to like you and that it's really none of my business what they think of me either.Sure it might bother me once in awhile but for the ones that don't...I go out of my way to be friendly with the intention of irritating them...lol. I know that sounds bad but keep your enemies close, at least you know what their up to. I had an old man that didn't like me because I was dating a guy he detested so every time I saw him walking down the street I would say hello knowing full well he would just grunt and keep going.He was so miserable he would cross to the other side of the street to avoid me, so I would walk out on the road and say hello. I found it quite entertaining not to join in his misery. The thing is you have to realize you can't change what people are going to think of you but you can change how you react. Smile and have fun with life.
    monkey11

    That is so good, Mom! My brother (who is so wise) once told me, "Jenn, you are not going to get Melissa to like you, so you may as well give up! Not everyone is going to like you and you can't please them all, so just enjoy the friends who do appreciate you!" He always had good advice! He has had to overcome being misunderstood and hated unjustly, so I guess I should really listen to that!

    I suppose it could be fun to go out of your way to be nice to them! Maybe they would even see the humour in the whole thing! Thanks, again!
    Not sense I was a teenager then not much.
    Look at my pic do I look like I worry.........lol
    monkey11

    Looks like either you worried your head off, or laughed it off!!! LOL
    Deep down we all want to be liked. At times in my life I didnt even like myself. So yes I do care what others think of me. As a Christian if I set a bad example then I am letting God down.
    doublehelix

    GO friendindeed, I know I like you :) your one funny guy
    doublehelix

    wait , was it you who used to comment on the jokes and stuff, i remember a similar username, (pranks and ....) ?
    friendindeed

    Yes doublehelix....Love a good joke...Thanks for comment
    monkey11

    Thanks, Friendindeed! Some days it seems easier to not worry, other days not as well. But, I'm working on. I am doing much better, but I too have had a hard time liking myself from time to time!
    friendindeed

    Good monkey. If we can have at least one good laugh each day we will feel good
    monkey11

    Love to laugh! Makes a world of difference!!
    yes, that used to bother me alot too, but the other people are probably worried that people are noticing them and looking down on them,or being judgemental of them.
    monkey11

    Ya! I try to tell myself that! Sometimes it works, sometimes not. Like if the person looks really confident or something. But then I had a friend tell my Mom that I always look "calm, cool and collected"! Sure have them fooled!!
    eggplant

    That's the way to go, love. Stay calm,collected and cool. You'd be surprised at how much people don't criticize you at all. It's mostly in your head.
    Don't follow the crowd. Always, do your own thing. You'd be surprised at how much people will admire you.
    I'm past that. I couldn't give a damn.
    monkey11

    That's great!

    Thanks for the comments you put in "mycatsmom" 's answer! I am finding that there is a lot to be gained from being myself! For one thing, I'm more at ease and so I can enjoy life more! I actually had an emotional breakdown a few years back from being someone that I'm not. I'm finding out slowly that I am okay, and I can be liked. it does feel good!
    eggplant

    Hooray!
    monkey11

    If I could TU your comment I would because it made me smile!! Thanks!
    NO
    monkey11

    Good on ya!!
    AS "THE CANDY-MAN" & "THE CHAIRMAN OF THE BOARD WOULD SAY" (I GOT TO BE ME)!
    monkey11

    No kidding! I mentioned in one of the other answers that I actually had an emotional breakdown because of trying to be who I wanted to be, not who I am! I'm learning that I am okay!
    Depends on the people. Family members - maybe. Acquaintances - couldn't care less. If they don't like me, chances are I don't like them either for good reasons.
    monkey11

    Sounds fair enough. It's those that are going to be there for us that we hope don't mind being around us.
    No need to worry your head off as to what that 'stranger' thinks of you when you know your 'friends' love you for who you are :)
    monkey11

    Aw... thanks! My friends have been so great to help me over my hurdles and to begin to love me. My family has been great too!

    i really do not care 2 shakes what people think of me,,they either like me or not,,their problem not mine..>>>>>>>><<<<<<<<....

    Ducky

    Moderator
    Why is it their problem?
    terryfossil 1

    because Quacker when 1 or 2 people do not like each other it is because 1 or both have a differance with each other ..so their problem..in my case i do not care if they like me or not.that is not my problem if they like me or not..it is thiers...>>>>>>>><<<<<<<<
    Ducky

    Moderator
    I think that everyone likes to be liked, even those who pretend that it doesn't matter to them. Knowing that people don't like you, can't be a happy experience.
    Nope. Never. People who don't like me, don't visit or call. People I don't like are not welcome and they know it. There's something to said about being an opinionated, arrogant, bastard; It keeps me in a good place between the ears.
    monkey11

    Yay for you! That's great if you can just be you and not worry!

    I used to let it bother me but not anymore.

    Ducky

    Moderator
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