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    Birthday invite.....

    The name of the child, the time and date and then this...


    "We know its not tradition


    Please do not think of us brash,


    But instead of a birthday gift L$$$n would realty like some cash.


    The choice is yours,


    He's got everything he needs


    And he will certainly appreciate


    Everything he receives. 

    +6  Views: 816 Answers: 7 Posted: 8 years ago
    ROMOS

    And this kid with the cash
    will show you how brash
    he has been with his stash?
    FISH-O

    Maybe he is saving up for college?

    7 Answers

    Well, it's the truth but a little tacky. Welcome gifts and thanks for every one. Get the word out that cash is needed some other way. Family and close friends can spread your needs....

    FISH-O

    I think they are Greek which does not make them tacky ... I guess.
    Bob/PKB

    Ethnicity is an issue? My brother-in-law is Greek, and his family is warm and generous
    FISH-O

    I was just thinking that all of the Greek weddings that I have been to they actually ask for money.
    I am at a bit of a loss Bobette.
    Bob/PKB

    Me, too. Maybe it's a Canadian - Greek thing? The in-laws are from Arizona....maybe the temperature difference?
    FISH-O

    It very well could be. Arizona is warmer than here ... :D.

    I think that's hugely tacky. Don't children like getting STUFF?  Maybe a couple movie tickets and some theater-sized boxes of candy...being Greek has nothing to do with it.

    FISH-O

    I am sorry about the Greek thing but, as I explained in my comment on Julie's thread.... I have experienced this type of note in Greek wedding invites before. And, then my foster daughter's wedding invite. I am just trying to get a handle on the situation.... the kick in the pants is, there is a rule in my son's school, if you invite one child to your birthday party, you invite the entire class.
    I don't want to say no but, how many of these parties does he go to? It's a bit odd.

    Also, with the Greek thing. The people are very good looking (Perfect teeth, bone structure... it's amazing), work hard, are completely respectable and outgoing. I am actually British.... we just hope for the best or are born into it. I feel I may be a bit out of the loop just as far as traditions go. I basically picked Greece as that is my only reference point on this particular subject.

    My son usually picks out a present based upon what his friend likes. Giving money is just a bit out of our spectrum.
    Bob/PKB

    I completely agree your son should pick out a present for his friend. I don't like to give money; shopping for or making a gift is much more fun! AND, a personal gift will remind the person of you. :)
    FISH-O

    I RSPVed..... yes. The children just want to play together and celebrate. Maybe my little man could buy something small-ish that fits in the envelope and then throw in the bill. ..... What-da-you-think?
    Bob/PKB

    I'm cantankerous. I would give the LEGO, just like your son wants to give. I really doubt a six year old demanded cash from his classmates and friends. ?????
    FISH-O

    I am thinking you are correct. There is no possible way to own far too much Lego. ... We are definitely going to our favourite store. ... What kid asks for cash?
    Bob/PKB

    Yeah FISH-O! You go (to the store), Girl!!!
    (There is no such thing as too many LEGO or K'NEX. My son built a 3 foot tall Eiffel Tower with K'NEX for Open House at school when he was in 3rd grade (went along with some report....) They are both a wonderful "toy" that should be in every kid's toybox.
    FISH-O

    I forgot about K'NEX. We have been having a great time with Kapla Planks (Wooden rectangle blocks) ... they are simple and fantastic at exactly the same time.
    We are both on the same page. There is a lot to be said about building and creating.
    Bob/PKB

    Recently, I supplemented a small gift with $10. The party was at a place with an arcade. The child (8) had the whole thing changed to game tokens, and the party was over! I couldn't find the thing he wanted to give him, which he'd be enjoying today.
    I'll look for those blocks. I have the LEGO and K'NEX in the garage, and my eldest will play with them on occasion
    FISH-O

    Don't give up the Lego or K'NEX. Your grandchildren will love them.

    I actually made a long trip to a Lego store in search of windows and doors. I love building as much as my son and we spend hours together on projects. ... Building positive memories.

    His Dad and I are trying our best. Our living room is filled with creations.... It would kill someone from a design magazine.
    Bob/PKB

    Who cares what a design expert thinks. My walls have drawings and painting my kids did in elementary school; my Christmas tree topper is from preschool times. I even have my handprint in plaster from when I was 6 hanging. I love those reminders of my kids or even my own childhood. Pictures of the family everywhere. Your home is perfect!
    FISH-O

    These are the things that make our lives large.
    In my home I have a staircase up to the second floor. The walls, all sides, are filled with photos, things my children and friends made, and odd ball things collected from trips.
    It constantly reminds me of who I love.

    We probably have twin houses :)
    Bob/PKB

    :-) yep

    ....here is a penny for his thoughts.

    Well ,If I got that invite, I would decline! 

    clu

    Too bad the child's parents are asking for money!
    FISH-O

    I think it's a bit unusual. I make parties that the kids attending get much more than they give. I am on the fence at the moment. The parents actually are very nice.

     The parents suggested giving money as an option, but they also said. the choice is yours.


     Usually, only immediate family members or the nearest and dearest friends are familiar with what type of movies, games, clothing,  toys and so on,   a child likes or  has in his/her possession, and everyone else must  guess 


     I don't think gift certificates were readily available when the majority of the members on aka were raising young children, so gifts were preferable.   New technology is expensive to keep up with so I think cash or a gift certificate are practical gifts to give now that we are in the 21st century.  Times have changed!


     Extra tidbit of info here:


     My son grew up in the 90's when the most popular toys were all rechargeable or  battery operated gadgets and cost  a fortune to maintain.  I couldn't afford to spend money on extra batteries nor did he show much interest in these types of toys......and my son didn't need four boxes of crayons one year for his birthday when he still had two boxes of  unopened crayons from his birthday the year before.


     It's not that my son and I didn't appreciate the gifts  he received for his birthdays but  15/16/17 years later, what we remember most are the people who celebrated his birthdays with us and what we did for his birthday parties like roller skating and ice skating.  


     


     

    FISH-O

    My son always chooses to give Lego. No one can have enough Lego. It is impossible. I always include the gift receipt.
    I do suppose what was rude 20 years ago is not rude today.

    Thanks CB.

    (He is attending another birthday party on Sunday ... the parents just sent an invite and we will buy Lego) > This is the fourth birthday party this year. :) ... If this keeps up Lego will send me a Thank You card :)
    country bumpkin

    Moderator
    I didn't say it was rude.
    FISH-O

    I didn't think you said it was rude at all. You have brought a new perspective to this conundrum and I thank you for that. I was completely perplexed until you wrote your words.

    In my ancient world of growing up asking for anything is actually rude. It does not apply to anyone else. I am an old dog learning new tricks.

    Thank goodness for a different view. :)
    country bumpkin

    Moderator
    I think my views are different than a lot of other peoples views on here. I'm not sure if it's always a good thing, but I'm okay with it. :)
    FISH-O

    You should be ok with it. At first I was, "What the heck?"... I began to change my mind with your words and Bobette sank it home.
    My son is going tot the party because he wants to and he is going to do his gift giving thing because it makes him happy. My viewpoint is a non-issue and I am side lining the way I was brought up. ... That is a great thing! I really don't need to be such a poop. :)

    I'd ignore the $$$ request ... and get him this as a combination [go fly a kite hehe] response / gift !  ;D


    ""

    FISH-O

    Ha ha and very very cool.

    Geeez. These people have got front. In other words they are saying we don't want your junk gifts. L$$$n would like to pick something that is worthwhile to him. Saves you running around choosing a gift.

    FISH-O

    It does save us a bit of time. :(
    Bob/PKB

    True, but I think FISH-O's little boy has fun picking out just the right LEGO for his friends
    FISH-O

    He does have fun and we go to a special store.... the journey is part of the adventure.
    Bob/PKB

    Exactly!
    FISH-O

    My son also pays attention to what his friends like, for example, if his friend likes Mine Craft, we buy Mine Craft Lego. If his friend likes Star Wars, we buy Star Wars Lego. .. and so on.

    My son gets a big kick out of buying the perfect gift. He thinks about the gift.
    Bob/PKB

    That's exactly why I would continue to enjoy that shopping trip while he picks out a special gift for his friend. He KNOWS what to give!
    FISH-O

    You are correct Bobette... He's going to the party and he will buy the perfect gift.

    My son has a friend who is on the spectrum and when his friend came to my son's last birthday party, the child declared, "I know you are going to love this gift! It's the best gift!" ... and he was correct. The gift was a volcano making kit. Very cool.
    My son in turn gave this friend a magic kit for his birthday. His friend was over the moon as he loves magic and one other friend declared, "Now you can turn your Mom into a frog!".

    We made a day of finding that magic kit by travelling into Granville Island, having lunch and sight seeing as well.

    The gift giving part is fun.
    Bob/PKB

    Those are wonderful memories that money can not buy.


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