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    Darrel, my 12 year old shepherd, was "diagnosed" with lung cancer today, via a blood panel and lung exray. He also had a large, cauliflower-shaped mass nearly closing off his windpipe.  He'd been eating less and less of the dry food that was ground to a powder before being mixed with warm water and canned food (because his teeth were broken and nearly all gone), and ate nothing last night.  He had gone from a bit on the chubby side to almost gaunt.  Last night, he wouldn't get up and I covered him with a warm blanket.  Two of us lifted him into the car this morning and he was taken out on a stretcher at the vet's. 
    The vet offered to give him antibiotics and pain medication, telling me he could probably have a couple weeks of "good life".  OR, I could euthanize him. 
    Darrel has always been gentle and mellow, never demanding attention (jut waits his turn :D). He's been a great companion and is simply a sweet dog we found abandoned and covered with tics when he was about 4 months old.  He has lived at my mom's for about 3 year.  I generally see him only during the weekend. 
    What would you do for YOUR pet, given the scenario.  

    +11  Views: 1442 Answers: 17 Posted: 11 years ago
    Bob/PKB

    Not everyone agrees with euthanasia for pets. My purpose for asking was to get input from people whose opinions I generally respect.
    melandrupert

    Bob I am speaking out Loud everyone is thinking of you and your family xxxx
    FISH-O

    Bob; I am sure that this message is arriving a bit late. I hope you are ok. Darrel sounds like a wonderful dog. I believe that well loved companions don't actually leave you. Their love stays with you. Hugs from the Fish.

    17 Answers

    Oh gosh Bob, how sad for you and your family.The time has now come for Darrel to finish up in this world.Don't prolong his suffering any further.Give him hugs and tell him how much you loved him and have him put to sleep.

    Bob/PKB

    That's what I did, PL. I sat on the floor with his head in my lap and petted and talked to him til he was gone. I'm getting his ashes and plan to spread them in my flower bed. Thank you for your friendship and caring response.

    My heart goes out to you and your family and Darrel.
    There is no point in prolonging Darrels agony. in my opinion.
    You did the best you could and Darrel wants to go. I think you schould do what is best for him.
    I know this is a very hard decision to make. I had to do it  last year and I did it for Chester because he was suffering so much.
    Through it all, we each learned, loved and did the best we knew how.
    When I think of the past, it is with gratitute for the beautiful times we had together.
    God bless you all.

    Bob/PKB

    The decision was easy, Ann, after seeing his throat and exrays. Losing him and having him ill was hard. Our vets have the pets left with them mass cremated and buried. I am having Darrel cremated separately and will spread his ashes in my flower bed. My son's puppy died this morning at the vet's. He had parvo. My youngest son's dog disappeared a couple of weeks ago and can't be found in spite of much, much effort. It has been a rough time with the pets. Mom is in the hospital again...thank God I have faith. And thank YOU for your kind words. I remember how sad you were when Chester passed; know your sorrow was shared then as mine is now.
    Ann

    At last Darrel is at peace. I am sure you have many beautiful memories of him.
    I am sorry about your sons puppy. That is heart breaking.
    I remember years ago when my son picked up a puppy that was wandering aimlessly on the street. He did not have a collar and no one claimed him. We took him to the Vet and he gave him all the shots. Month later we learned that he had distemper, that the Vet missed and we had to put him to sleep. We were devastated.
    I hope Your other son finds the dog that disappeared and that your Mom will be alright.
    I will say a prayer for all of you.God bless.
    Bob/PKB

    THANK YOU, ANN.
    melandrupert

    Bob/PHB my if dosnt rain it poured I am so sorry for your sons puppy thats a nasty desease and then loosing another dog and your Mom in hospital my thoughts are with you Bob and I will say a prey for you and you your Mom and your son and I do hope they at least have some better news in the comming god bless you and your family xxx
    itsmee

    <3 Ann

    Sorry to say Bob,but it's time,with his windpipe getting blocked and all.Tell him what a good friend he has been over the years and let him go.I know I'm missing out on not having a pet,but I could'nt deal with that with the way I am,that would just send me over the edge,seeing that I walk a fine line as it is.Give him a big hug for me...

    Bob/PKB

    I couldn't bear to think of him suffering through a couple of weeks either, Rick, and was with him during his final moments. My son's little 2-month old puppy stayed with the vet (he has parvo virus). This morning, the vet called to tell me "Thunder" didn't make it through the night. Add my son's 15 year old Ashley (who we found as a very young pup) getting out of his dad's yard a couple of weeks ago and not being seen since, in spite of flyers, ads, and constant calls and visits to shelters and vets. I am beside myself with grief for our pets. Now add my mom going into the hospital with congestive heart failure (again) the night before. It's always something in life. I hope you are doing well, and totally understand the "fine line". Keep your faith.

                           IF IT SHOULD BE.


    If it should be that I grow weak


    And pain should keep me from my sleep


    Then you must do what must be done


    For this battle can't be won




    You will be sad- I understand


    Don't let your grief then stay your hand


    For this day more than all the rest


    Your love for me must stand the test




    We've had so many happy years


    What is to come can hold no fears


    You'd not want me to suffer so


    The time has come, please let me go




    Take me to where my needs they'll tend


    And stay with me until the end


    Hold me firm and speak to me


    Until my eyes no longer see




    I know in time that you will see


    The kindness that you did for me


    Although my tail the last has waved


    From pain and suffering I've been saved




    Please do not grieve, it must be you


    Who has this painful thing to do


    We've been so close too many years


    Don't let your heart hold back the tears.

    Ducky

    Moderator
    Awwwww... *sob* :(
    Ann

    This is so true and so emotional.
    Brings back memories of my dog Chester who I had to put to sleep almost one year ago to stop his suffering. It was the right thing to do, but I will always miss him.
    millie111

    I know..I want to cry too...:-(
    Bob/PKB

    You just want the tears to keep flowing, and so they shall. This poem is perfect for all of us who love our pets; there was never a moment I would have prolonged Darrel's life if there was no CURE for him. He had the most lovable face; just a gentle, mellow boy who was always a joy.
    Dollybird

    I had tears in my eyes before I got to the last verse.

    The last dog  I had  was a miniature chockapoo she was blind starting to lose weight we took her to the vet my dad he  just could not take her in the exam room so I did it for him she was a sweet little doggie we named her penny so the vet put her to sleep I held in  arms and she licked my hand so release  him so he can have some peace

    Ducky

    Moderator
    I also had a dog named Penny. She was so named because she was a copper color. She was so friendly and loved everyone. She escaped out the side door and ran onto the street, head first into a car. She died instantly and I was so sad. :(
    whovin

    That was pretty hard thing back in the 60's we had a Scottish terrier the Minute you opened the back gate to walk in to the back yard he would run down the sidewalk my Dad finely grow tired of chasing him so he gave him to a good family
    Bob/PKB

    I had a Penelope, who we called "Penny", a doxie-terrier. She slept UNDER the covers, and parked herself in my mom's chair at work all day long (Mom could never lean back in her chair). One night, a friend was at our house for dinner and Mom had broiled some really nice T-bones. She put the steaks on our plates as we were washing our hands for dinner. When we got to the table, my friend's steak was missing......you know the rest. :D We had her for 17 years. I was the one who took her to the vet to be euthanized, held her and loved her beyond her last breath. My love and sympathy to both of you, Whovin and Ducky; losing our pets is ALWAYS traumatic and devastating.
    whovin

    You're welcome

    Allow him to sleep is the best way I could put it......

    Bob/PKB

    I'll email you. It' been a rough week.

    Bob I am so sorry to hear this if I was you I would have put to sleep the sooner the better I had a cat called Hugo and he wasnt well couldnt breath took him down to the vet asap he said that he would do xrays and take blood the time we got back in the afternoon he couldnt breath I was screeming at the vet saying that he should have called me and I told him there and then to put him to sleep I would never never want to see any animal suffer like my poor Hugo needless to say the vet said I was waiting for you to come sooner well cut a long story short we never went back to him! at least yr vet knew what was going on but he should advise its not fare on the animal to suffer will be thinking of you but please take him asap thank you xxx

    Bob/PKB

    I well remember the touch and go with your kitties, Mel, and all you did to keep them alive and well. You and yours were in my prayers.
    Darrel went peacefully. The vet gave him a tranquilizing shot first, and about ten minutes later, the euthanizing shot. His head was in my lap and I know Darrel knew he was loved and not alone.
    God blesses us with our pets; it's up to us to care for the blessings, even when it's hard. Letting go of Darrel wasn't a hard decision. Holding on would have been inexcusable.
    melandrupert

    Bob/PKB you are in my thoughts and I know Darrel is on that rainbow bridge I do hope he meets all mine that have died! lol they would have great fun I am glad he is not suffering now and i am thinking of you you gave him a good life ans saved him from the streets pat yr self on the back for taht love as always mel xxxx
    Bob/PKB

    Mel, thank you for all your good thoughts and prayers here today. I have my son's dog with me and my cat. My last dog, Bruce, is at my Mom's (this is just the way it has to be). Bruce will be getting a lot more love...Mom wants to know if she can bring the big lummox inside when she gets home. :D We'll see if he can be trusted...I'm thinking he can. Have a good weekend, my friend.

    It's always terrible when you lose a pet but it is time to let him go.  Two more weeks of agony, feeling sick and not eating,  makes no sense.  (It's difficult to know if the medication would help or hinder.) You have to take your heart out of this decision and think, logically, what is best for your pet. Don't prolong the agony....yours and his.

    Bob/PKB

    My eldest son went with me to the vet's yesterday afternoon and we left his puppy to be treated for parvo virus. Andy and I were with Darrel during his final moments, and I am having Darrel cremated separately; his ashes will be spread in my flower bed. I enjoy the flowers and will know that Darrel is there, too. Thank you for your compassion, Ducky.

    The oly way to go Bob. I was faced with the same dilema last year after having the dog for 17 years.It's tough on you but much easier on the animal.

    Bob/PKB

    It is hard for those left behind, no doubt. We have one dog left at my mom's and he, too, is what I call a "reject" dog...no one wanted him. He is definitely feeling the loss. Dogs are pack animals, so Bruce is going to need more attention and affection.

    ""                                                                                                                                         As above....allow this most honorable friend a dignified passing beyond the rainbow bridge...we love you Bobby girl. Peace to you and Darrell from me...and I'm sure all of us. Big hugs darlin' and be of courageous heart.



    Bob, "the last greatest gift" that you can give to your pet is Euthanasia.  I had to do the same for our beloved Buster, 5 years ago.  He had degenerative disk disease, and at age 13yrs. had lived a very good and active Border Collie life.  We ruminated over this, and tried different medications over a two year period.  My best buddie is a veterinarian, who would not take a dime for his care for as long as I owned him, over 11 years!  So, finances was not the reason to put him down.  There is a Quality of Life Scale that the veterinary medical community uses for the purpose of evaluation of an animals suffering.  I think there is no question in my mind, I am somewhat informed, as my Veterinarian friend and I taught a class at the vocational high school that I taught at in Veterinary Assisting.  Give your beloved pet this last great gift.  It will hurt to lose him, however, you need to consider his quality of life.  You will be glad that this selfless gift was given, afterwards.  You will grieve, but be proud that you did the right thing for your pet.  Be strong, and have the memories of him as he was in his prime.  We put a memorial plaque above where we laid our Buster to rest, in our yard.  We think of him almost every day, and it has already been 5 years.  Since there will really be no replacement for the worlds' best dog, we have not considered it!  My heartfelt sympathy goes out to your family during this most difficult time.  I could only wish that our society would enable this "last greatest gift" for our human loved ones when it is their time.  God Bless

    Bob/PKB

    Thank you so much for your kind, intelligent, and compassionate answer. Your Buster was very blessed to have a veterinarian for a friend of his "master". When Darrel didn't eat at all, I knew in my heart it was time for him to rest. Darrel always had a happy face and wagging tail to greet me when I was at my mom's. I had trouble FINDING him the night before, and covered him with a blanket to stay warm. My son and I then took my mom to the emergency room and were there until 6 A.M. the following morning. The rest of the day was devoted to Darrel.

    Oh Sweet Bob,


    I am so very sorry that you have this difficult choice before you!   I have been in a ver similar predicament at the holidays (3x).  Twicw I believe I made the right, slefless, and courageous decision to say "goodbye for now"...and once I waited until the bitter end.   I regret the bitter end- He was a great comfort and joy in my life- but my sad circumstances and need to hold on were selfish.


    It is so very hard to say "goodbye for now" to a being that loved you unconditionally- that you, too, tried to love unconditionally.  But holding on only makes for regrets.  Every being should be allowed to release their soul to " the other side" with dignity,


    Whatever you decide-  I have been there and I understand.


    God Bless You and Darrell- I strongly believe their is a heaven for animals- and, if we never meet here we will meet playing with Darrell and Bijou there!


    All my love and support,


    Doo


     


     


     

    Bob/PKB

    The choice for Darrel was not hard, Doo, because I saw how sick he was. While not an old dog, his illness was obvious. I will always remember him as the gentle, not-so-obedient, "goofy" and lovable friend he was. We learn from our experiences, Doo. Bijou knows you needed him and I'll bet he gave you the comfort you needed (Dieszal, the big oaf, does for me); our pets forgive because they are devoted to us. Our friends and family are not.
    doolittle

    went to heaven when she was ready....It was a beloved cat who I let suffer too long. I think it's devotion and a shared unconditional love that out animal friends share with us. I know my current cat and I share it. Thank God for animals!
    Bob/PKB

    Amen. One of His better creations.

    I am sorry to say this to you but you have been cruel to your pet for allowing this to go so far. Surely you must have noticed his deteriorating condition and his silent suffering. Please show mercy to him and let him sleep in heaven.


     

    millie111

    I don`t agree wb..Bob has rescued and loved this dog and he`s just been diagnosed as very sick!..Yes I personally think that the kindest thing to now now is to have him put to sleep..two weeks of a "possible" good life to me would not be a risk/option I`d take.My heart goes out to Bob..it`s the hardest thing in the world to agree to..but you`ve given him a great life Bob...I`d let him sleep now...(Huge Hugs to you)!:(
    west-bus

    He was found abandoned when he was ca. 4 months old. That was twelve years ago and not 12 days ago. I can only comment on what she writes and this I have done.
    Bob/PKB

    Actually west-bus, you got a brief overview and don't know any of the details. My decision was made prior to this posting; the question was put to akaQA to get an idea of how others around the world would react in a similar situation. If there is ONE thing I am NOT to my pets, it is CRUEL.
    Ducky

    Moderator
    "I am sorry to say this to you BUT"...

    Nothing like making someone feel even worse, right west-bus? Why do I often get the feeling from you, that being nasty gives you some sense of contentment?
    millie111

    You could never in a million years call bob cruel...wher did u. Get the impression that the dog she loiked after and rescued was sick before? 1/
    12 years of. Love N selflessness on he'd part and then wen diagnosed sick... She did the hardest thing possible!! Don't judge her wrongly ...I thlnk what she did was heartbreaking anc my heart goes out to her hugetm
    Time!ob so brave ! !!
    Bob/PKB

    millie111; what I did was not heroic by any means. Anyone who would do differently I would question their motives. My question was just to get people's thoughts on euthanasia. It seems we all agree on pet euthanasia. west-bus has the right to voice an opinion.
    millie111

    I meant no harm with my comment to Wb... I 'm with ducky on this one..I just felt that the comment was insensitive and was hitting you while you're low Bob...it just seemed to me as lacking compassion ...maybe I got the wrong end of it?..but I couldn't see you being criticised when I know that you are a very caring person!..I send peace! Xxmillie xx
    Bob/PKB

    Millie/Ducky, I didn't appreciate the accusation from WB, and I totally appreciate you two knowing "who I am". Some people, as you both noticed, seldom see their feet, and I'll just leave it at that.
    west-bus

    To Bob. 20.11.12

    As I read your posting it was as if Darrel was beside me, a once loving and happy creature full of life and now this, thin and bony and so very sick and unable to stand up for his master. You had been to the vet and had the diagnosis and prognosis and now you were on this forum asking what I would do! I am deeply sorry for causing you distress at a time of great grief. It was a spontaneous and hasty reply given in a moment of anger. I don’t wish to say any more.
    Bob/PKB

    Thank you west-bus. Like I said, you got a very narrow picture of what was going on and your response was not illogical.

    Poor Darrel. That's very sad for your family . You will know what to do when the time comes . And Darrel will let you know when he looks into your eyes. Best of luck.

    mycatsmom

    post addendum : Sorry you had to have him put to sleep, but you did the best thing. And sorry your mom has another bout of CHF. I went thru that more than once with my mom. It sucks to be middle aged, b/c then your parents, pets, and aunts and uncles start dying. Keep thinking of all your blessings.
    Bob/PKB

    Thank you MCM. Faith pulls us through all things. Darrel never showed signs of struggle until that last night. I think I was there for a reason...not my typical Wednesday.

    There is only one decision you can make and i know in your heart you know what that is, it's heart breaking and  Darrel's suffering will be a peace, God bless MsBob.

    Bob/PKB

    Thank you, bulletman. It's been unanimous to give Darrel the release we deny our human counterparts.

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    melandrupert

    Bob/PKB thought this was really Apt xxxx
    Bob/PKB

    This is truly a beautiful sentiment, one I will remember and pass along to everyone who loses a pet. Thank you, Mel.
    Ann

    Mel, This is so true. Thank you.
    Bob/PKB

    Thank you for your care and concern, Mel. I really appreciate it, more than you know. Mom didn't get to come home today, and tomorrow is a "maybe". At least my sister and I are communicating and working together to get Mom care and for us to spend more time with her, too. Good for all of us.
    Dollybird

    This is beautiful, and the words so true, go find unloved pet etc.

    Bob Here is ,                  A Pets Prayer.


                                              My people are so precious Lord,


                                              I know you think so too.


                                             And I know you want me here,


                                            To Love them just for you.


                                            They take such gentle care of me.


                                            And have such tender hearts,


                                            Please use me Lord to comford them,


                                            When ever their tear drops start,


                                            They face a lot of battles as they,


                                            Live and work each day,


                                            They need me Lord to make them,


                                            And show them how to play,


                                            The world is full of people, But,


                                            Some times friends are few,


                                            Please let my Love and Loyalty,


                                           Remind them Lord of you !


                                           And when my final moments come,


                                           Lord tell them as we part,


                                           I was an made to order gift,


                                           Right from your loving heart.


                                                        AMEN.


                                          


                                             

    Bob/PKB

    That is beautiful, Dollybird. I am sitting here with Peanut, my old gray kitty, hogging my lap. She is such a comfort.
    I hope we all are looking at our pets with a little more thought and giving them a little more time after this. It's so easy to take them for granted.
    Thank you for a "purr"fect prayer for our pets.
    Ann

    Dollybird this too is beautiful and brings back so many memories.Thank you.
    lindilou

    Thank you for reminding me Miss Dollybird. xo


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