14 Answers

Make a plan.  If at all possible, ensure that you have a support system.  Set your plan into place and stick to your plan no matter what.  It can take a while but it is worth it.

Also be prepared to hear a lot of horrible words and accusations. 

Best Wishes. 

11 years ago. Rating: 14
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Take the bus, Gus. No need to be coy, Roy. Talk to the man and tell him how you feel. Counseling may help. Try and then blow, Joe.....

11 years ago. Rating: 13
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I think you REALLY need to get some help and support and not try and deal with this alone..Please don`t do anything rash that potentially puts you and your kids safety at risk...It`s not easy..and it`s going to have a devastating effect on lives if it`s not handled with a lot of care...I think you already sound well out of your depth...but with help you can mend the situation...or leave without a mass fallout!...PLENTY of People out there to help you..friends?Family..marriage guidance domestic violence trained people(If that`s an issue)...Take some deep breaths and plan who is best to help you!

VERY GOOD LUCK!  xx

11 years ago. Rating: 13
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Leave without telling him. Pack up when he's gone to work. Sometimes it's dangerous to tell men you are leaving them.

11 years ago. Rating: 12
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What is it that makes you unhappy? Does he know your unhappy? Is he unhappy? Children should not grow up in an environment that is hostile, or where no affection is shown towards one another.

11 years ago. Rating: 12
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Well do not cut the break lines on their car because you will end up in jail.

11 years ago. Rating: 12
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Just slip out the back,Jack.

Make a new plan Stan.

Drop off the key Lee.

And set yourself free.

11 years ago. Rating: 11
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GET Counselling. Regarding the  the way out  involving the " KIDS" .You never said  If  he  was  hurting you or the kids ? If  it   is  that  you  fell  out  of "Love" No way back .Get advice see a "lawyer " I wish you well and the poor kids "Stuck in the middle !!  I feel for them .

11 years ago. Rating: 11
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Such a short question about your  very complicated life situation cannot be properly answered here. Please seek counselling or legal/lawyers advise.

11 years ago. Rating: 10
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Vicky, without knowing WHAT is causing the unhappiness in your marriage, this is an impossible question to answer.  Is he verbally abusive, physically abusive, cheating on you, ignoring you?  Do you have a close friend that can help you or at least support you during this time?  Have you been to a lawyer?  Have you gone for counselling?  Do you have access to money? These are just some of the issues that come to my mind, without knowing details.

11 years ago. Rating: 9
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Jesus is the answer.

11 years ago. Rating: 8
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Sounds like you've already made up your mind to leave...you do not need his permission to leave...get a lawyer and get a support group or join one (there are many groups available)..start with the Salvation Army or similar group, source your local community services...talk with friends and/or someone at your church. Talking with a lawyer will help you see the steps you must take...do not be overwhelmed by this. Get yourself lined up with a safe place to be. I wish you strength and Peace.

11 years ago. Rating: 7
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Well, dear, the simple answer is obvious.  You get a divorce.  Make an appointment with an attorney. Include in the settlement that your husband will pay your attorney's fees.  BE REASONABLE in what you want .

11 years ago. Rating: 6
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i no it's hard if you have kids but alway's do wutz best for your health cause if you jacked up in da head you can't really give your shorty wut they need cause it don't matter how much you try to hide it they know so give them a healthy parent

11 years ago. Rating: 4
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