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    To call Family Services or not to call family services... that is the question......

    A child is left outside to play alone and wanders into the neighbors yard with large dogs. The same child also sits in the road while mommy and daddy are watching TV inside or taking a nap. 


    This child is 7 and has down syndrome. She will not allow the people in the neighborhood to bring her back to her house. She becomes very argumentative. 

    +9  Views: 928 Answers: 21 Posted: 12 years ago

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    Make the call............

    Call now.

    Jenn This sounds so awful expecially as the child has Down's Syndrome. Maybe she is known to Famliy Services already and if so they should be checking on her and also what about her schooling. She would presumably be at a special needs school and they should know her family background etc. Yes I would be inclined to call the Family Services - it is also worrying why she does not want to go home?

    Jenn

    I dont think it is that she does not want to go home.. she does not want us the bother her or tell her what to do.
    She goes to school at the school I sub at. It has great special needs services.
    Poppy3

    Oh sorry Jenn - didn't realize this. Still worrying for you. Perhaps you could mention it to the school just to see that she is OK sometimes Down's Syndrome can only become aggressive contrary to the popular opinion that they are aggressive per se but it is usually in reaction to people not being kind to them and (or maybe she is protecting herself in her mind) I am in no way suggesting you or your neighbours - just strange Parents not bothered.

    Call family services, it" might" bring the parents to their senses.

    west-bus

    hi ROMOS Forgive me for not spotting earlier the announcement of your super fast century. I am impressed and my warmest congratulations to you, you are a good honest contributer for this sight and I wish you well .

    I agree with all replies.

    Why wait a minute longer a childs life could be in danger.

    Poppy3

    daren, I so understand what you mean as people are sometimes too quick to contact social services or family services as it is a great fear that the child may be taken in to care and sometimes unnessarily - on the other hand if the child is already known to them, they could monitor the situation carefully and hopefully for the good of the parents and child as we do not know circumstances at home.
    daren1

    You know you probably right the family i'm sure has enough on their plate without child services snooping around..
    Poppy3

    Daren - I still think someone should be looking out for this seven year old child - and how long has this been going on. Who needs social services snooping around - haven't met a good social worker yet but I do not want this child to have too much on her plate either and in the end her life may be in danger. School, relatives etc. may also be of help sensitively as I have said. Did you read my response correctly as I did not condon what is happening here.
    daren1

    Some years ago i was driving through dorchester section of boston and their in the middle of the street was an infant crawling in the middle of the street, so i stopped my car and put on my flashers and called 911, i dared not to pick up the kid in this day and age people could yell anything ,kid toucher, kid knapper. so i just waited for the cops to show up and was told it was the right thing to do..
    Poppy3

    daren - you did the right thing - you did not ignore it. Although, far more easy to solve than this situation. If Jenn and the neighbours are worried there is something wrong and sounds like with good reason Even a child/family psychologist would be of help as I said how many agencies are already involved.
    Jenn

    Wow thanks for the conversation you guys have had. We live on a dead in road. And we all look out for one another. I think the parents have gotten a little too comfortable with the "safety" of the neighborhood. I dont think they are bad I think they have gotten LAZY!

    I agree with dopey. This is very sad. Before you make a call to Child Services you might talk to the parents of this child and tell them your concern and also tell them that you will have to call child services if the child is not beeing taken care off. That might be a wakeup call for them and they might keep her from roaming unsupervised. 

    911 works.

    Get on the phone Jenn.her own folks have obviously lost interest in her.

    Those parents are not watching that child! Really would any of you allow a 7 year old to wander near dogs or sit in the road? No, you would not! Call Family Services before it is too late! Please.

    Absolutely make the call! If you are concerned with repercussions from the neighbors ask that your name not be given to the family or ask other neighbors to make the call too.

    Call now, don't be sorry later.........

    I'd make the call. What those parents are doing is absolutely wrong...and I believe there is a strong possibility that their conduct is actually illegal.

    When a child is in an kind of danger and the parents don't care, it is a reason to call Family Services on behalf of the children. Safety first! I know the struggle you're going through. I had to do that with the next door neighbors son when the Nanny locked him outside the house one night. He came to my door and I called the police. The police came and found the Nanny drunk and still drinking Vodka. Family Services made the Nanny leave all the parents could say to me was, "Why did you call the police, gee thanks, now Family Services is in our lives!". I know I did the right thing for the child. It's a tough call to make but make the call. You just might be saving a child's life.

    Have the parents refused to take care of the child when someone has called to alert them to their daughter's whereabouts?  

    Jenn

    Yes.. the child will be standing in the street... or in the neighbors yard and the parents will look at you and say.. "she doesnt leave the yard"...

    Hi Jenn This must be real hard call for you! first of all do you know the parents to talk to! if you do then have a word and tell a white lie by saying everyone is concerned and are going to call the child help line and if that dosnt work then call them yourselve I am syaing this as My son works with downs and he said they are very difficult children but exstreamly loving and freindly I am worried that this child is neither of these 2nd if you dont know them and are unaproachable then by all means make the call! this must be upsetting for you as it would be for me! try and talk to the child but dont look into there eyes as this for them is off putting my heart goes out to on this jenn let us know how you get on! xx

    Call!

    Calling Family Services, would not be my first reaction.  I would be running over to their house, knocking on their door and then it would go something like this....Hello, hello, do you know that "Suzie" has wandered into the neighbor's yard, where the dogs are?  Do you know that "Suzie" is sitting in the middle of the road?  (You mention that the parents are napping or watching TV while the child is unattended...is that fact or neighborhood speculation or how do you know that?)  As you know, Family Services wants ALL of those details.


    The parents will react, one way or another....they'll be panic stricken and run outside to the rescue or they'll be unconcerned.  That would determine what I do next.  If this is ongoing and you have spoken to them before, then and only then, would I make the phone call.

    Jenn

    The child has been taken back to her house but 10 of 14 neighbors.. Yes we have woken the father from a nap to bring to his attention that his daughter was not home.
    Ducky

    Moderator
    Jenn, thanks for the additional info. Based on that, I would make the call. Hopefully, everyone who has witnessed this, will also come forward. I see that as neglect, on the part of the parents and yes, Family Services should know about it! They will decide on a course of action and you are better "safe than sorry". Good luck, Jenn.

    Call child services, dont give your name, or phone no, call from public phone, if you must. If you have word with the parents, and nothing happens, regarding the  child, then you could be first person, blamed for calling Family Services.There are bad people out there, any thing could happen her.

    I work in this type of service, and yes I would want to be informed so the matter may be investigated further, perhaps the parents need assistance, but certainly the child's safety is paramount and requires immediate action

    This sounds like wilful neglect. If something happens to her then they are relived of responsibility. I would take pictures  so it would not just be deniable accusations. Sad that they dont seem to care ,parents lack something these days ,compassion . Good luck 



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