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That's pretty young and who can tell when the numbness wears off and the pain begins . I am sorry for your loss . May God grant you both strength and comfort in the coming days . About all you can do is pray for strength and try to be ready when the reality hits him . You will both need each other and together hand in hand you will travel these days and one day the sun will shine again even though you think it never will .I hope you have some support and a friendly shoulder . Write again it helps and you will find here compassionate people from every country and walk of life . Each with a story of their own ,some joy some sadness ,some laughter ,and many tears . Talk to us and I promise you between the tears some how you will make new friends here . God Bless you !!!!             Bill

poor baby.  At seven, you are kinda in an "in-between" age, no longer so accepting of everything your parents say, maybe due to increased exposure with other school-age kids?  For instance, believing in Santa Claus or the Tooth Fairy.  So, at seven, there is the cognitive ability to evaluate situations, and that may factor in to how your boy reacts to such a loss.  Also, by seven kids know what death is, they are aware of it's permanent nature.  I think alot of it will depend on the kid, their personality, their coping mechanisms, support system i.e., an adult they can trust and depend on, as well as the situations that lead to his father's death.  An accident no one sees coming is going to weigh differently on one's suffering than say, a long term illness.  All I would do is just be there for your boy, and try to let him work through it in his own way.  I hope that doesn't sound cold, that's not how i mean it.  Let your child grieve in the manner most suitable to him.  I imagine for some, it's asking alot of questions, others may just shut down emotionally, or express angry, fear, anxiety... Just keep your head up, and your arms open.  You likely know your son better than anyone, apply that knowledge and watch for anything signaling that he may be experiencing significant difficulties going thru the grieving process, and seek professional help if necessary.  There's a book out there about the phases of grief that pretty much everyone goes through, and I'm sure there's more specific literature regarding a child's grieving process.  Those would be helpful for you, so you have a clearer picture of what's "normal" and what would be cause for alarm.  I wish I could hug you and your little boy right now.  Take care.

We all need to learn trust in God hands, there are time when it seem impossible to go over the mountain. Just ask God too give you the strength,too walk through this hard time, May God carry you and bless you.