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    Were you ever bullied at school?

    or were you a bully?I was very timid and painfully shy as a child,i was the ideal target for bullies.Funny how things change though,now i wouldnt let anyone push me round

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    Yes.  I was a little skinny English girl, dressed like one as well... in little English shoes and boots with matching coats and dresses plunked right smack dab in inner city Edmonton.  Bulls Eye!


    I remember each and every one, first and last name... and it still ticks me off.


    Mind you... I can run fast!

    leosmaml

    Funny isnt it how the bullies names stick with you?And ive been left school 34 years!!!!

    No I was never bullied and I was always taking up for the one's who were.I remember in jr.high school taking up for this poor girl who alway's wore the same outfit because that's about all she had and here 45 year's later she still remembers that I was there for her.Could'nt stand bully's.

    leosmaml

    lovely answer
    Bob/PKB

    Somehow, it's not a surprise to read this about you. You are the guy who would care. Thank you.
    FISH-O

    I wish you were my friend in school. :)
    lambshank

    a shame there are not more people like you Rick, it takes guts when your young to stand up to the bully's

    Oh sure.  Lots of kids are targets at school, for lots of reasons or for no reason at all. Too skinny, wearing glasses, freckles, red hair, fat, poor at sports, too smart, not smart enough, too tall, too short, too rich, too poor, a brother in trouble, a father in jail, a disability, a house in the slums...the list is endless.

    leosmaml

    its true Ducky,but when you think back where the hell were the teachers?A kid thats being bullied isnt going to say anything but surely some of the staff mustve known what was happening
    Ducky

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    Well, we didn't even call it "bullying" back then. They were just the "brats" of the school, everybody knew them, and as I remember, we were just told to stick up for ourselves. I used to "talk my way out of the taunting" and make friends with them. I don't think that I am warped because of it...oh hold on just a minute...oh, so that's it!!!
    Ah hah!?
    I also would add that I don't understand it when I see someone on television, now in their 30's, 40's or 50's still crying about having been bullied in school. Sorry, but I just don't get that. Didn't someone say, "Whatever doesn't kill you, makes you stronger"? (I think that is how I must think.)

    yeah, when I was bad at a sport, people teased me

    leosmaml

    i can understand how you must have felt x
    lambshank

    I know where your coming from Desirae, I was never good at sport either, those were the days I would "wag" and go to the beach instead

    I was the target of much ridicule, we didn't have much money and mum made my uniforms, she didn't sew well, so I always stood out, I was pretty scrawny too so in high school I soon learned to take up smoking, only the "bad" kids smoked so they left me alone. I wagged school a lot too, had a great suntan but not a lot of education!

    Poppy3

    What a shame lambshank - I was lucky not bullied at school - none of us were really but I remember once when my Ma was in hospital I had the school shirt on and it had an ink stain and the teacher took me in front of the class like an exhibit and pointed this stain to the class - I cried. Also once the housecraft teacher put me in a cupboard with a bad egg and said stay there you are a bad girl - I probably was - we were all a bit like that - so funny. Didn't do the smoking thing then but when we were in sixth form we had to go to this place in the attic to study - study we bunked off and went to the pictures as we said in those days. So many stories huh!! As leosmanl says children can be cruel but I worked for nine months after my retirement and was bullied then - this was big time.
    tabber

    lambshank, god bless your prescious heart for surviving that bullcrab. i work with kids that were bullied and it makes me mad. your mom making your uniforms touches my heart!!! I love her!!! lambshank maybe you might consider writing a book about some of your experiences as a kid. LOL!!!!

    In high school a trouble maker would lean on me . He had to take 11th grade over because he failed too many classes. Thats a shame.

    lambshank

    zorro,thats true karma

    i was mostly the fat kid no one wanted to play with so i was ridiculed. pushed round by others. fought my way through school till i quit. couldnt take it no more. funny how stuff sticks to you, im still a loner with no real friends.

    lambshank

    carmaxable,you have lots of friends here,I don't have many people I consider to be friends either, I know a lot of people but thats not quite the same is it.
    tabber

    carmaxable you truly brought tears to my eyes, because i am working with a fat kid that has no friends. i am so proud of you, that you are here with us all on this beautiful website. Take care, don't give up hope for meeting friends in your neighborhood. Go to some even that you like and just be there. Don't expect anything. If you see a friendly person ask them, "what do you think about this." Be hopeful, be open. I love you and so does everybody else on this site. I love these people!!!

    you are a lot like me Lambshank!!I wasnt a smoker then though(the smokers  WERE hard!!) I reckon in some ways theres nothing so cruel as children

    lambshank

    leosmaml, your right,but there are some pretty nasty adults around too,I think our department has cornered the market on them!!!

    Thankfully - never just hate bullies there are too many in school today.

    Poppy3

    I feel so sorry for some children and their parents - if you are not wearing the right labels - like school is not a fashion parade - the kids are likely to be bullied and the poorer parents under pressure to buy the designer gear - put them all in school uniform like we were with the navy blue bloomers - kids like to be the same and should be at school which is for learning. How lucky we were.This is where I understand what Cleveland Rick is saying about poor girl same clothes.

    There was a mean-spirited girl in P.E. sophomore year, but it never amounted to anything. A girl wanted to beat me up in elementary school, but that didn't happen, either.  I wasn't the kind to PO a classmate; teachers were another issue.    :) 

    ClevelandRick

    I wanted to thank you for your comment on my answer to "country B's" in getting the job and I also left a comment to your comment on her question "I got the job"
    Bob/PKB

    Thanks! I'll look for it.
    tabber

    you are a smart and creative soul! keep it up!

    dopy, I went to a catholic school, the nuns were really cruel with some of us, worse than the other kids, also bullying in the workplace is really a huge problem, I have also experienced this, it got to the point of private investigation instigated by the department I work for, federal police also became involved and the person responsible was dismissed, it can be serious stuff and unfortunately a lot of people don't recognize that they are even being bullied, we run courses now to provide employees with the information and avenues available for them to be able deal effectively with this, I have no sympathy and now Im older will not tolerate bullying in any form, for any reason.


    Hey, have you noticed, I finally found out how to use the spell check...YAY

    yes but i avoided the bully and the bully never saw me again. i do not like fighting.

    lambshank

    tabber, me either and I will avoid conflict where possible, but there are times you just have to stand up for yourself

    Yes and bullied at work even with people over 50 years old once a bully usually always a bully sad to say.

    FISH-O

    It's odd how it doesn't seem to end. My Aunt says it's jealousy. You are probably too good at what you do. :) Seriously.
    tabber

    Courage to you man! for having to tolerate those four letter word people.
    Bob/PKB

    Realize that younger employees are threats to the security and peaceful routine of the older employee. The youth come, just out of college, thinking they have all the answers and new ideas; often they look down on the seasoned vets and try to change procedures without really knowing what the requirements are for the task at hand. Coming into the workplace and not being respectful of people who have been there for 10 years is definitely not going to win a popularity contest for anyone. Many employees get along with each other well, no matter what the age differential is. BUT there are always some who will say and do whatever they know will antagonize a co-worker.

         Looking back on junior high, I would say yes. But the bullies were nothing like the bullies we hear of today. It was never physical abuse, but verbal. They could only do it at school because besides the telephone, and these kids most defiantly didn't have my number,  there wasn't any technology that we have today. I had health problems, so the kids would just make fun of the problems I had. I had long thick hair, so I would find gum in it. You know the saying "Stick and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me". Well, that's not true. Words hurt too. I can remember everything that was said as thou it happen yesterday. These kids left their mark on my adult life. I can't remember their names, but I do remember their faces. 


         I remember right after high school I me a young lady. She was a patient at Cleveland Clinic, and I was going for a tests for an operation.  We started talking, and as she talked about her family, I realized her brother was one of my bullies. I never said anything to her about him. After my operation, she would come and visit me in my room.  I just thought, given this guy's sister is having health problems, how on earth you could make fun of someone else problems. You of all people should have understood.  



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