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    Would you look down on a prostitute?

    Can something like this be left in a womans past

    +6  Views: 2212 Answers: 42 Posted: 12 years ago
    Poppy3

    kimba - yes I feel sure "something" like this can be left in the past. Many people have put far worse things into their past. Depends on the person's psyche and maybe some psychotherapy.

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    The oldest profession in the world..  There are different categories of this. 


    Call Girls, Escorts, Whores.   All prostitutes but I don't put Call Girls and escorts in the same category as whores. These are the street walkers, bar hookers, sluts, two bit whores,  etc..  There's a certain 'class' that is tied with the elite call girls and escorts. 


    My opinion is that if made legal and controlled by the state, there would be less divorces and possibly less spousal abuse.  The male has a natural instinct to propagate, made morally wrong, many males seek their instincts secretly and end up in divorce and abusing their wives due to guilt.  I really think state controlled legality on prostitution is a good thing!  Girls in the profession must have periodic health checks and carry a state issued 'license' and pay taxes like everyone else.  same for male prostitutes. Street whores should continue being arrested until they clean up their act and either become licensed or get another job..  


    I will probably get flamed for this but, I am the forum demon, I'm used to flames... LOL

    jhharlan

    I agree with too much that you wrote...TU!
    Daisy!

    Vinny, that's an Italian name, you look Italian too. I read Italians have hot blood. I always wondered about that, I'm not wondering any more!!
    Headless Man

    Sex outside of marriage is wrong in my opinion and will lead to suffering and regret somewhere in life
    Vinny

    Randy, Oh Randy.. :) That's because you live by the bible. This is ok but in modern times you need to change. You drive a car, not an ox cart, you use a computer not papyrus, you wear a shirt, not a robe. I don't live that 'sex before marriage' is a bad thing. I had sex way before i was married..! You will try out a pair of shoes before you buy it, they only last a couple years or until the next shoe fad comes around but you won't try sex before you buy it for life.. Isn't that a bit antiquated? I don't think god wants us to not have fun or not practice using our tools before we build a house.. Sex is NOT a bad thing, its a wonderful gift that we have to enjoy for life! I believe god wants us to enjoy all the wonderful things he gave us. After marriage, then sex is between you and your partner ONLY! So many good people live with such guilt for no reason other than the bible's teaching that is written for the understanding of ancient teachings that in this day, the modern world it makes no sense! I lived with my current wife for 24 years before we got married, we had sex the whole time, yet I don't feel i did anything wrong nor do i think I am suffering as a result of it.. :) Live your life as you see fit, you have your opinion but in today's world, you are a religious minority..
    Poppy3

    Do you know I find it so strange why so many people live together for years and once they get married - they get divorced shortly afterwards.
    Vinny

    Not always Dopey. My wife and I lived together for 24 years before we 'tied the knot'.. We married in 2004. Do the math. we got married, personally I didn't feel any different but to her, she feels complete. I'm ok with it. Many times though i try to rationalize why we waited so long, I can only say we were too busy. We hardly ever took time off to enjoy each other, she is retired now, i still work but have slowed down the pace. You are right though, divorce does happen a lot when long time common law partners get married.
    Poppy3

    Vinny not always you are right - but it does happen quite frequently which I find surprising what does that bit of paper do? Seems it changes the dynamics. I feel it is quite often necessary to live together before marriage.
    Vinny

    Dopey, the way i figure it, people live together for years, they have no door out, once they have paper one or the other can file for divorce. This makes things final- Breaking up isn't final enough, when the law is involved then its complete. This is what I think. Your mileage may vary.. :)
    Poppy3

    Yes Vinny - During the first World War - Prostitutes were brought in to look after the wounded soldiers during the time of Florence Nightingale - women did not look at private parts in those days.
    YOU ARE TOO COOL FOR SCHOOL.
    mycatsmom

    To Dopey, You mean Ladies did not look at mens' private parts.
    mycatsmom

    Re: living together. There's a higher divorse rate among couples who live together before marriage,than couples who don't. I don't care if couples live together , but I'm just saying.....
    Poppy3

    Vinny - wow really strong opinion going on there. How about the men getting health checks - At one hospital where I worked there were many men who came from USA to get medication and treatment. I do not split hairs - call girls, escort girls, prostitutes all the same as that terrible word you use "whores" - of course whores both men and women - girls on the street do not have the flash cars to crawl around in. Has it not been said that we are all whores.
    Poppy3

    mycatsmom - you are right I left out the "men's"
    Vinny

    Poppy,
    The word 'whore' is one of the oldest words - it is used to describe women that will have sex for money and even without. modern use of the word pretty much describes the latter. But I'm sure you know that.
    As for men getting 'checked out' I agree! If women get health checks, so should the men. Therefore, a man should also have a 'safe sex' card issued by the state. I see nothing wrong with this but on the other hand, most men probably wouldn't bother and end up looking for action illegally anyway. Like many vices, smoking, over eating, alcoholism-- it's up to the person how they live their life. Still, I see nothing wrong with sex before marriage. I see problems with 'street sex' but only as a medical opposition. But, it's their life.

    There are all kinds of prostitutes.  I would most likely look upon this person with an immense amount of curiosity. 

    I don't walk in their shoes so it's not my place to judge them.  I have been in situations where they have intimidated or truly terrified me.

    Daisy!

    ME TOO! I helped a hooker in the ER, a year later she spots me at the county fair. How she remembered me??? She only wanted a hug, it really scared me. It could have gone the other way, she could have been PO!
    I was at the hospital in Texas, a nurse PO a teen hooker. She waited till the nurse got off work. The girl shot her in the stomach. It killed the nurse, 36 year old with two little kids at home. It was video tape by the hospital.
    This is what was going through my mind when I was approached by this woman at the county fair.
    FISH-O

    Oh my goodness. The last one I met was in an art class and she just wanted change but I did work in the inner city for a long time...they tend to yell at you a lot. Even when you aren't looking in their direction. It seems that some of them are very angry.
    Headless Man

    They're not in harmony with God.
    FISH-O

    You are correct Randy Palmer... it is unfortunate and not a good thing to wake up to every morning. I just can't imagine.

    I agree with kimba.  There are many women in Asia that get into the trade in order to take care of their young ones.  Hence, to me, I think it's more honorable than some crooked CEO in a U.S. company that totally screws up his company and shafts all the investors in the process.  At least, with a prostitute, there's no facade as to how she makes a living.


     

    Headless Man

    Sin is sin both are equally wrong.
    Ann

    Randy, that is a matter of basic survival. You have never been in theire shoes to understand what some people have to resort to, just so they wont starve to death.It is a real tragedy that happens in underdevoloped countries all the time.
    Chiangmai

    To Randy: What do comparable poor women have in the U.S.? Welfare $$, food stamps, unemployment insurance, State Assistance, foster care for children, federal assistance for handicapped people, and emergency housing help.

    What do they have? Nothing, except a few mouths to feed. You do the math, Randy.

    Like Ann said, it's easy to judge when you're not them. "Never judge a man until you've walked a mile in his moccasins."
    Poppy3

    Headless Man - What is that saying "I worried about my shoes until I met a man with no feet"

    I feel more sorry for them and wonder why they are in the situation they are in.

    I've known several and they were just people to me. I'd never have know what they did if they hadn't confided in me.....

     I cant look down on anyone.. ppl are ppl no matter what thier lifestyle... No better no worse than anyone else.

    kimba

    I agree jen, the only time i really look down on someone is if i hear that theyve hurt an animal
    Headless Man

    You mean my dad was worse than a whore, because he butchered cows to feed his family.
    Poppy3

    Headless Man - not worse than but same thing - maybe this woman had to feed her family.

    Yes, certainly, but  it can be left in your past if you grow and mature from your experiences.   Look for the right man and focus on him only, as an integral part of your life.   Time to settle.................

    jhharlan

    Why is a man needed? I've made it alone for many years with only male help every once in a while...
    michmar118

    Very true, jhharlan! That would be IF you wanted one but not "needed"one. LOL
    Poppy3

    Once in a while would do me too, couldn't cope with the heartache nowadays - a friend maybe, - a handy man would be good too. jhhartan.

    women and men have different reasons for this occupation. Some for the money, extra income, drug addition, college, survival.... doesn't matter. I find it heartbreaking.


    No, I do not look down on them.


    I do agree with fish girl, some have scared me. A few pass through the ER and they can be very scary. Some show up beaten, raped and broken. It's not a glamorous profession. To much Hollywood. No one grows up wishing to be the Happy Hooker!


    Yes, a woman can leave this in her past, it will take time to get over the psychological damage.

    Headless Man

    So true.....TU

    I don't look down on them ,i pity them.You ask can something like this be left in the past.It can, but will probably take some time to get your self worth back and to give your body and soul the respect that it deserves.Once you have your morals in place,there should be no looking back.

    I think I would if I were standing on a ladder.

    I agree with Vinny. Prostitution schould be made legal. It is for theire own protection and also protection against sexual disease. Pimps are very violent and abusive and that would eliminate the pimps. They would have to get a checkup every month for sexually transmitted diseases, They aso have to pay taxes and the likelihood of beeing murdered or beaten would greatly diminish.These girls come from broken homes, a violent past and have no family support. just girls that no one considers as human or important. Its pretty sad.

    Poppy3

    I agree with Vinny too Ann and also you.

    Sorry, yes. I think society on a whole looks down on them.

    kimba

    I know what you are saying is right eggplant and it is such a shame that society is so narrow minded. I myself have an appreciation for them, they are supporting themselves and not hurting anyone besides themselves.
    eggplant

    Not true. How about the spread of STD diseases? If you're a male then I guess you would appreciate them.
    kimba

    This is what i mean about narrow mindedness, not all prostitutes are dirty. I can give you a 100% guarantee on that one
    Headless Man

    If you were the wife of one of the men who see them I'm sure you would feel different.
    Poppy3

    And who is worried about that? Eggplant it would appear not them.

    If she's a crackhead, meth head, yes. I read a story years ago about an orphanage in France during the WW 2 run by nuns who resorted to prostitution to feed the kids. God doesn't drop loaves of bread out of the sky. They sacrificed their dignity for the children. How could I pass judgement on someone like that.

    Headless Man

    I could tell stories where God did just that.
    The nuns sinned and lacked faith in God.
    ONIHR777

    ASK MOTHER VINNY.

    I can't imagine anyone wanting to be in that kind of a lifestyle. Empathy is the only way I could explain what I feel towards anyone that has been in a place like that in their life. 

    What about the men who pay them?Are they all innocent? If the men didn't pay then the girls would have nothing to do & nobody to look down on them. Maybe this answer is just to simplistic for some people but it takes 2 to tango.


    I should point out that many years ago I met quite a few of them during my cab driving years. They were never a problem in the cab,they all paid the fare & were pleasant & cheerful.

    only if you are on top. ;-) 

    Well JESUS didn't so I guess I can't.  There are far worse things a person can do.

    I f she was a lot shorter then me yes,

     I wouldn't look down on anyone we are all sinners in need of forgiveness, no sin is worse that another sin.


    God will forgive us all if we just ask and have the faith to believe.

    I am leaving today for Paris. I will be visiting the rue St Denis where I shall be looking at many of the ladies on show, but I will not be looking down on them. Their profession may not be one that we would choose for our daughters, but as ' someone'  said   'let those who are without sin cast the first stone'.

    Poppy3

    nomdeplume - many years ago - I had a swiss boyfriend who had a flat in the attic of a house on the Rue St denis - so beaufiful overlooking the Parisian rooftops and when we went out of the house there would be the prostitute/s in the doorway/s. Hope you had - I just loved it. You are so right about that first stone.

    All are goood answers  so   no need for mine  cause  I go with the majority on this  Live and let live, judge not lest you be judged.

    Never...There go I but for the Grace of God

    ONIHR777

    THERE BUT FOR THE GRACE OF VINNY GO I.

    NO.

    I am thinking that if I walked in the shoes of someone that had to do that for a living I couldn't live with it.  I can only hope that someone who had to do that could find peace and live beyond it...find joy, find love and love themselves.


     

    never, i hated my shoes til i met a man with no feet..

    No I do not look down on them Jesus did not either. How brave are they!!! - too scary for me never know what psycho you will meet It takes two to tango but better to dance as one and I do not mean alone.  We used to say when we were earning £11.00p per month for a 48 hour week that we'd earn more down the road in Soho. But not for us.They do get health checks.Get rid of the pimps -  let them do it by choice and of course without the men there would be no prostitutes as Tommy says it takes two to Tango - . 


    Once in Stamford Hill - mainly Orthodox Jewish Territory - A conservative manifesto if that's what it is called said "we will take the dirt off the streets pertaining to Prostitutes "- better I thought to take the Rapists x 2 of old ladies, one demented  and muggers taking their pensions at the post office of course, I was on the phone. There is a sort of "Red Light District" here - they are called " ladies of the night", one Jewish man told me.  

    No , how could I sin is sin! The Bible says that all have sinned , A prostitute washed Jesus feet with her hair. So if he did not condemn then how can I . I would help them in anyway that I could.

    HEY MOTHER TERESA THE BIBLE ALSO SAID TREAT OTHERS THE WAY YOU WOULD LIKE TO BE TREATED. IF IT DIDNT ITS A GOOD GOOD WAY TO LIVE. EG. THE HIGH AND MIGHTY   OR THE  UNEDUCATED OR WORSE THE IGNANT.

    hector5559

    My school was st, Teresas,

    Only if I was on top.



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