ed shank
17 Answers
Shootah
Best answer!
I think I'd take it easy, being sure to be kind to myself. Rushing into another relationship wouldn't be for me either. But, everyone is different. Some people feel they need to be in a relationship almost as though it validates them as a person, others are secure in going it by themself. I guess it's an individual thing.
| 12 years ago. Rating: 16 | |
FISH-O
Ann
As a woman, I would get involved with community work and Animal organizations, I would not look for another relationship. But men are different , they are usually lost without a woman in theire lives.Especially if they were married for a long time before beeing divorced.
| 12 years ago. Rating: 17 | |
I had a dog for about 10 years and I used to take it with me when volunteering for community events.....
Then I met her.
She's afraid of dogs so......?
Oh, Hello Ann!
daren1
i think i'd start with a nice vaction to the carribian islands , maybe take a couple weeks and sort out what you want in life.. after a long marriage i think the last thing i'd do is get involved too quickly in another relationship, why not play the game for a while and enjor you new status... theirs plenty of women out their..
| 12 years ago. Rating: 15 | |
Vinny
Oh man---> I do believe I would want to take a long breather before I did it again.. Just to collect my thoughts, reason with wtf went wrong and why it didn't work and then maybe go serious mate searching.. But I don't know, maybe just a companion or two to make life enjoyable again without the commitments.
| 12 years ago. Rating: 14 | |
jhharlan
DNanners
I dont know what I would do , I have been with my hubby since I was 16 and I am now 46 . but I do agree with several of the answers that have been given!!
| 12 years ago. Rating: 13 | |
Benchong
Daisy!
do everything I couldn't do married, live!
| 12 years ago. Rating: 12 | |
I did try and date, but men tried to control me. Tried to tell me what my interest should be. They would tell me, they loved everything about me, then try to change me. To many head games. I don't play, I have no interest in games.
I'm like my dad, he never told my mom what she could or couldn't do. He didn't like some of her interest, but that was okay. It was hers not his! He never tried to tell her she couldn't have it.
My dad ruined me I guess. I am stuck here in the deep south with a bunch of cavemen, you will not see them at my door. I met some really wonderful men up north. If I ever make it back up there, maybe I'll date. Maybe.
I don't get lonely. I have friends that can not live without a partner. That was never a big deal for me. Since I have never had a true partner, I don't know what I am missing. It's hard to miss what you have never had. I do think it would be nice, have someone with to do things with. I don't think that person exist, not for me. Its like a fairytale. I can't settle for 2nd best. That's like wanting a steak and settling for a burger at Hardee's.
I have friends who's lives are wrapped around their extended family. Some are happy, some aren't. One will not leave her husband, fear of being alone. She hates her life. She isn't living, she exist.She has wasted 20 years, out of fear. It breaks my heart. Life is to short.
kimba
Messenger
Bob/PKB
While I would not be actively seeking another relationship, I would be open to the possibility. It sounds like we divorced because we just weren't into each other anymore. I would be like a kid in a toy store....so much to see and do; what do I do first?
I would want to be active....bowling, golf, tennis, dancing, bicycling, swimming, hiking.
I would want to take some enrichment classes: painting, pottery, jewelry, guitar, harmonica, banjo, flower arranging, cooking, fly fishing.
I would want to lighten up on the "stuff". Have a yard sale, call AMVETS....just go more barebones with the stuff. Get my photos onto DVDs.
I would want to take a couple of mornings or afternoons each week to do some volunteer work. Join a Bible Study. Do some short trips.
I would want to take college courses in writing, literature, history, religions, law courses, counseling courses.
I would want to go to movies, concerts, plays. I would want to try acting and modeling.
I would want to spend time with family and friends.
It would be so nice to have a husband to share some of this with, but taking time to enjoy being with myself is important. It might be more fun to have different friends for different activities.
I've been single since 2003, after 16 years of marrige. It was hard the first 18 months; Then, I got involved in a disastrous relationship for about 4 years, and have pretty much been alone for the past 3 1/2 years. At first I didn't want to marry again, but now I do.
ed shank, you have a great marriage. Why are you asking this question?
| 12 years ago. Rating: 11 | |
I also would like to fly a helicopter!
Thanx Guys.
mycatsmom, I don't know where to find a person to do all that stuff with. I go alot of places alone, too. Usually I'm OK with it, but going to a club to hear a band is awkward. I have a friend who has been bowling with me since March and we've been to the golf course a few times, but we are not a couple (darn).
Headless Man
fjoel
I feel sorry for those of you that feel tied down by marriage, I feel free as I want and so does she, we enjoy doing things together but can do as we please on our own.
| 12 years ago. Rating: 8 | |
mycatsmom
When you're newly divorced, you don't know who you are. Don't jump from the frying pan into the fire. Join a Christian singles group. There's some pretty decent people there, and not as many drunks as in other singles groups.
| 12 years ago. Rating: 6 | |
mom
I would think after a failed marriage, good or bad ending, I would have lost myself somewhere along the way. It would be a time in my life spent redefining who I am and figuring out what I would enjoy and want to fill my time with. relationships could come later on once I felt more grounded within myself.
| 12 years ago. Rating: 3 | |
