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Yes, you can.  What people need to do, is just remember that sex is just sex, and it doesn't need to have any other significance or baggage tied to it. Years ago, when I was younger, I crossed that line a couple times with friends who were women. In both instances, we were more like drinking buddies, and had that common bond. If you are both single, and of age, the only rules that apply are the ones in your head. A lot of those so called "rules," are no more than what you attach to the act of sex. For the fact of the matter is, no one else has to know about it, and it is no one's place to judge it. It is simply what often occurs between consenting adults of the opposite gender, who choose to do that. I've also known other women who have done that with other people. Like I said earlier, it is all in what you want or don't want to attach to the act of sex. A relationship is built upon a lot more than simply sex. This isn't the 1800's or Victorian times, although too many of us don't seem to realize that.

If booze wasn't involved in our decisions, it would have most likely been a more awkward thing between friends. But, with me, we all knew it was nothing more than that. I think it goes on more often than people realize, as now that I think back, I had a couple more make that offer, but the timing just didn't work out for it to happen. It doesn't make anyone a bad or immoral person, it just illustrates that we are no more simply human beings finding comfort in one another for a few hours.

I had it explained to me once that no matter how a woman feels before she has sex with a man, once the deed is done she’ll be in love with him. I believe that’s fact. The feelings are often not reciprocated…...

Yes, according to some answers.

For you, this was the price of satisfying your curiosity, pretty high for you than for him probably.

So many good answer and comments!

It seems to me that if at one point sex becomes the price for friendship it is not that the friendship suffers, the friendship was never a genuine friendship.

It's easy to give advice to forget it, don't do it again and move forward but this is the only thought I have.

Did you still do it if you had all this sea of advice before?

Didn't know this site was a sex forum.

Hello everyone - yet again missed you all - not a good year for me. I have also had difficulty finding you as my toolbar has changed I used to have a rectangular box with "ask a question" inside it but it has disappeared. Hoping you are all happy and coping in this mesmerizing mess of a world albeit I am really an optimist.  I will try to answer this as I see it with trepidation.     There is love without sex. - There is sex without love. - There is friendship without love. - There is friendship without sex. - There is friendship with sex and there is friendship with love and sex.      If any of these make sense. I have stayed friends with men I have had sex with -  ? what's love got to do with it? Although I did think most of the time there was love and of course there is that thing called "in love" but definitely knew on occasions it was purely sex a women realizes this from the body language of the man - excuse the pun. What is love? there are so many definitions. It depends how strong the feelings are i.e. friendship, respect and love. Compatibility is the key.     Many people are chaste even though they are married and will say they love and respect each other and are the best of friends - their souls meet which is the greatest love of all.      Religion and spirituality are two different entities.         

i would be honored if a friend asked me out for a valentine meal