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    Shuld I Dump him?

    I recently found some text on my husbands cel. to another woman inviting her for a pastry coffee or dinner. He swear up and down that it was a inocent move and nothing happen. just that I dont trust him anymore. So should I dump him??

    +1  Views: 326 Answers: 4 Posted: 13 years ago

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    If you wish to dump him thats your choice.It is unfair to ask anyone to make this decision for you. A right thinking man would never put out a message like this . The fact that it is open ended with more than one choice for the woman means he is fishing willing to take anything coming his way.  This indicates a exploring move typical of a wandering man. No matter how it turned out for him its a garbage move .What ever you do is your business and this decision rests solely with you. There is no defense for cheating it  is the lowest behavior there is .In my book thinking and doing are much the same thing. I will allow no one in my circle who can not be trusted. Better for me to be alone than in the company of a cheat. Thats whats best for me . Do as you please its your life ,but rember that a wandering sex pardner can kill you these days with their bad choices .

    Dorisita

    Wow you r so right... thank you so much, "it is, what it is" I would had never done something like that to him. That is why it hurts me so much and I want to dump him.

    I would not check on other people's text messages.   That's snooping, and snooping is a kind of cheating too.

    Lupe

    I know a woman who does this with a guys phone. They are not married. She is a control freak.
    Chiangmai

    I have been married to my wife for over 30 years and I have never checked her phone messages, emails, or her purse.

    Do what Benthere suggests above.

    Congradulations!!!!!! Now do some work on you its time for personal spring cleaning . When you close that chapter it should be closed,realy closed . When you take stinky garbage to the curb the truck may take the trash , but the can still stinks . Clean every inch of the can inside and out. When your life heart mind body and soul is sparkling  and clean ,only then are you ready to offer who and what your are to someone new . Raise the bar and require more of those you allow in .Good Luck !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Tommyh

    Spot on Bluesman!100%.

    Not true!!! I have been married for 3 years, and If you dont want to check  on your partners , that's sad!!  they will spit  on you! trust me!!


     



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