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Just do what feels right. Delegate the duty to another family member or friend if it is just too much and you are overwhelmed. You can always dictate if needs be.

1. Simply thanking them for thinking of you at this time of great loss in your life.

2. If they are really close to you and/or your family, you might also want to tell them how much it mattered to you that they were there for you and your family, and how they have always shared the good and bad times with you and your family. Say everything from the heart and say it simply.

Sorry for the loss of your mother.

Willie Nelson has a video on you tube called Precious Memories 7 mins long I want it played at my funeral . Each life touches another in special ways. Each of those who came to say good bye had their own experience with your loved one .It was a gathering of friends and a letter saying how nice it was that all came and shared the day will be greatly appericated.If you watch Willies video as you write the right words will surely come . Loss leaves a huge hole in  ones life ,there arent words to properly say what a persons life has meant to you . I am sorry for your loss .