So sorry for your loss.  I lost my mother almost a year ago and was devestated.  But I know that she had had enough - like someone at a party saying 'I'm tired, I want to go home now'. How selfish to want her to carry on just for me. Since her death I have become much closer to my sister (in Somerset, England) and my brother ( in Santa Monica, California) - I live in France. The three of us plan a little get-together in the UK for her 95th birthday in October, nothing special, just a celebration of her life which I know she would approve of.  She is as important to me now in death, as she was in life - what a wonderful legacy she left us.  It hurts right now, but give it time sunnyB, your mother-in-law had a good life, and she had a good death. The sun will not stop shining, she will live on in your heart.

Excuse me for coming in right at the end of this very interesting debate, may I just mention one little thing - in an "emergency" a woman is likely to approach the loo backwards and therefore doesn't have a good view of how things lie - whereas men (most of the time) will approach it forwards so they can see how the situation lies before they commit themselves!  So it is only reasonable to expect the men leave the seat ready for the women to use.

I was born in the Elizabeth Garrett Anderson Hospital in London.  It was the final months of World War II, bombs were dropping overhead and I was born on the chaplain's desk which was underground !!   I always claimed this made me a true cockney (born within the sound of Bow Bells) but I'm not sure if that's true.

something makes me think you believe you already know the answer to your question... are you going to tell us... and why?

ooh, delicious! I'll have a pink one please if there are any left.

wear insulated gloves and drop her if she burns you

probaby not if you need to ask the question.

the prob in the Uk is the political situation (blue, tory, Cameron, etc) which influences blue skies turning them a sort of dirty-grey. This is why i've moved to france - et voila, le ciel est bleu - toujours!!!   (blue sky always!!)

Hey, I just clicked - and will keep doing so.  What a brilliant idea and thanks for posting.

There are 3 possible answers:  1) you're in the UK.  2)  you're feeling a bit down and 3) um... omg...i forget...  and this was the most important one!  i'm so sorry, i really should have put it first but i'm having a senior moment right now!!   but if is really bugging you, there are 3 possible solutions: 1) move 2) cheer up, 3) ...  er.... please come back in 3 weeks if  it's still a problem.