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    dealing with grief

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    Sorry to hear that. I'm assuming you are trying to express you are dealing with grief and not asking how to help someone deal with grief?

    We all go through it in our lives. These are the stage you will go through. Keep people close who can help get you through the stages.

    1. Denial and Isolation.
    At first, we tend to deny the loss has taken place, and may withdraw from our usual social contacts. This stage may last a few moments, or longer.

    2. Anger.
    The grieving person may then be furious at the person who inflicted the hurt (even if she's dead), or at the world, for letting it happen. He may be angry with himself for letting the event take place, even if, realistically, nothing could have stopped it.

    3. Bargaining.
    Now the grieving person may make bargains with God, asking, "If I do this, will you take away the loss?"

    4. Depression.
    The person feels numb, although anger and sadness may remain underneath.

    5. Acceptance.
    This is when the anger, sadness and mourning have tapered off. The person simply accepts the reality of the loss.
    Buddy sometimes grief will virtually kill you, or will kill you, I went thru grieving so bad I became sick phyically sick I mean, then came the grief with depression , I would in the strongest terms say to you seek help clergy, close friend family, or professionally , this is nothing to fool with
    Each person responds differently. Sorry for your lost, hope all will be well with you.
    I don't know what your situation is but the best advice I can give you right now is to just take things one day at a time.
    Death of a loved one is probably one of the most difficult things to go through in life, I sure hope you get help if you need it. Here are some site if you'd like to check them out.



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    Hang in there!
    maybe paste this to your hat, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change ,the courage to change the things I can,and the wisdom to know the difference.
    I am sorry to hear of your loss or future loss. I have found great comfort here at this site.. when I question thoughts or decissions I am having to make, I just "ASK", and the group here always has wonderful advice and a kind word... The only thing I have to offer for an answer is dont spend too much time alone.
    I think grief is very painful to go threw.There no quick fix,if stay alone for a will,over time the pain should ease off,it a wound,the suffering come with it,It will only get better as time goes by,You cannot hide from it,sorry about your pain in your heart.But God only give as much that you can bear.THERE ARE BETTER DAYS AHEAD.GOD BLESS YOU.
    There's no magic formula or special words to make it easier no matter how well intentioned those around you are. Prayer will give you strength and time will help in the recovery process. Grieve and cry, it's only natural. I wish you well.
    the only words that helped me came from a crisis line counselor. "In time you will feel better," she said.
    "How much time will it take,"I screamed".
    "It will take as much time as it takes, but it WILL end," she said.
    we hung up from the call and I hear her voice in my head to this day. the phone call was about 25 years ago. I am over the pain of loss now but I can go there all too easily.


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