Opening the eyes of a teen age boy
My son is 15. He has been my dads pride and joy since the day he was born. Dad taught him how to fish and ride a horse. He has been his best friend forever. My son has his first real girlfriend and is all wrapped up in her and friends (this started 4 months ago) How do I open his eyes so that he can see he is missing the last few weeks of Papa's life and will never get them back?
We have been very honest about Papa's health and his prognosis. He is aware of how much time there is. We have lost many family memebers in the past.... so he knows that death is final.
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Maybe this girl that has come into your sons life is a good thing for him right now,she could be providing him sole comfort at this sad time.As for spending time with his mates this might be his way of distacting himself from the emotional pain he would be feeling.I'm sure his loyalties are in the right place towards his family.
12 years ago. Rating: 10 | |
At 15, there is no death, the 15 year old brain had not matured enough to think anything beyond living. Born into a world where everyone is waiting for him and nurturing him he can not feel anything but life and good. He is not old enough yet to realize what death is regardless what you think. Right now the important this is the girl, she represents life. His grandpa that he loves dearly, in his 'behind the mind' will still be there. as the years go by, death and the dying become more of a conscious thing. What he is doing at his age is perfectly normal. remember, he's only 15, he has no idea what 'time' is, let along eternity. Let him deal with it in his own way. we all go through this when young, i did, I am sure you did too. He knows but in his own way. Death of a loved one as time goes on becomes more heartfelt and understood.
12 years ago. Rating: 10 | |
I agree with what several of the other people have said, in that maybe it is denial...just not wanting to face the pain of losing someone. But, maybe if you sat down with him and had a heart to heart with him, and explained that it would mean a lot to your father to see him and for him to know he came. Sorry to hear of what you are going through.
12 years ago. Rating: 9 | |
When I look back my youth, it was all about friends. I, when I was 16, was the only one in my family who missed to witness my grandma's death because of the same reason your son has now, friends. My guilty feeling for her still exists. You keep trying, he might listen. If not, he will feel the same as I do.
12 years ago. Rating: 9 | |
The only way to find out is to take him aside and talk to him. Find out how he feels about his grandfather and the declining health. Find out if he is uncomfortable seeing him, talking to him or about him. If you can satisfy you questions about this, you may begin to understand why he is doing what he is doing. You may also find out that you need to reinforce some issues such as spending time with grandfather instead of playing with the friends. After all, the friends will be there next week but grandfather might not. He may need to adjusting to his thinking right now. This is a rough time for you, it would be very easy for you to act out of the emotions you are feeling, so be very careful for your sake.
12 years ago. Rating: 7 | |
I was the same age when my Father died. He had a heart attack and I never had a chance to say I love you. Over 40 years on I still regret that and still miss him. If this girlfriend is also his best friend she will help him through this. You are all in my thoughts and as I right this I am thinking and caring for all of you.x
12 years ago. Rating: 6 | |
I think your son is staying away because the grief is too intense. He leans toward life and the powerful feelings of love that a fifteen year old can have. I think most kids act this way. I think it's natural.
do your best to get over any angry feelings you might have toward him. You need him now and he needs you. (even if it doesn't show at the moment)
I am sorry and wish you well.
do your best to get over any angry feelings you might have toward him. You need him now and he needs you. (even if it doesn't show at the moment)
I am sorry and wish you well.
12 years ago. Rating: 5 | |
I have to agree with most of the answers here as well, it may be that he want's to be distracted right now. It may be the best thing for him. Maybe just have a talk with him that's all I would suggest.
It's extremely difficult for teenagers to deal with death, they think they are immortal anyway. You may want to spend a little time with him, and just let him know how important you feel this time is for him, and that he may regret not spending more time with him later in life?
You're in a tough spot, but the decision has to be left to you kid. He may not be able to handle it and that's why he's not around? Hope it all works out Jenn.
Jenn
It's extremely difficult for teenagers to deal with death, they think they are immortal anyway. You may want to spend a little time with him, and just let him know how important you feel this time is for him, and that he may regret not spending more time with him later in life?
You're in a tough spot, but the decision has to be left to you kid. He may not be able to handle it and that's why he's not around? Hope it all works out Jenn.
12 years ago. Rating: 5 | |
I ususualy pick up on what friends mean to my kids during hard times... I think I have been focusing on what I think my dad needs... Thank you for "opening my eyes" to my son. They did spend some good belly laughing quality time together today. Thanks again!
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