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    I give the F*^% up....

    Earlier this week the hospice Nurse pulled my mom and myself aside and told us that we are now looking at weeks and not months for my dad. Today the dr. came to the house and told us we are looking at days and not weeks..... My brother is planning on bringing his kids to stay with mom and dad for a week next week... Dad is hallusonating, talking to his died mom, cant walk and lays with his eyes open thinking they are closed (screaming I cant open my eyes.... Not to mention he doesnt know where he is..... Why cant my brother see this is a bad time for the kids to stey? (without him.. he wants to drop them off)

    0  Views: 583 Answers: 6 Posted: 10 years ago
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    I am so sorry Jenn. I agree with arryoudini...your brother needs a talking to.Can the kids and your brother stay somewhere else rather than at your parents? Your still in my prayers.
    Jenn

    He lives 8 hours from my mom... He plans on leaving them in mom dad and my amazing other brothers care at moms. God bless Ron (amazing brother) he has moved in with mom and dad to take care of them. Ron will tell him piont blank.. "Hell no, you cant leave the kids here". Then I am sure he will drop them off at my house (3 hours from mom) Making it impossible for me to be there for mom and dad. Mind you I have 5 brothers. 2 selfish asses, 1 saint, 1 father of 3 little girls and 1 in Japan. So me and Ron take care of everyone. (my husband I so awesome to be so supportive through all of this).
    Sorry my Bostonian Mouth takes over when I am stressed... I dont mean to offend anyone.
    dwayne1716

    ONLY ONE SURE THING ABOUT HUMAN RELATIONSHIPS IS DISSAPOINTMENT HERE IN ALABAMA AN ORGINIZATION WITH NO STRONG TIES TO OUR STATE GAVE A MILLION TO A TORNADO RELIEF ORG. PEOPLE CALLED IN A RADIO PROGRAM COMPLAINING THEY SHOULD HAVE GIVEN MORE. YOU WILL BE HAPPIER IF YOU EXPECT THE WORST OR NOTHIMG AND ARE PLEASANTLY SUPRISED WHEN PEOPLE DO THE RIGHT THING
    Jenn

    What???? I have know idea how this relates....
    Jenn we are not offended by anything you say. This is a very hard time in your life and if you are a little short fused who's to say anything bad. We would be too.

    You do need to talk to your brother, tell him he is obligated to see your father one last time before he passes. Leave the GD kids home with the wife and come alone. This is not the time or the place for children and who better to take care of them but their mother. She will get over not seeing Dad-in-law - unless she can find a sitter for the kids (such as her Mom or Dad) and then she can come alone too. This is a time for ADULTS ONLY.

    Hang in there sweetie, we're all behind you 100%. Saying prayers for the best.
    Jenn

    Sometimes I wonder what I would do without the suport I have found on this site. Thank you SO much.
    6dogs4us

    I agree with that wholeheartedly. That just goes to show you that basically, people need people. We can be like an extended family for you during this time. You can be brutally honest about how you are feeling and we will understand and stand by you not matter what. We will not judge you, because at some point each and every one of us has been right where you are now. We understand how you are feeling.
    OK, I didn't take the time to read all the replies so if anyone asked already, sorry for the repeat....

    Jenn, how close do you live to your mom? Is it close enough that your bothers kids could stay with you?


    Love to you my friend. Stay strong!
    Jenn

    I am 3 hours away from mom.. But closer to him than my mom... I told him to bring them here and not there. But as usual he has his head up his ass.
    Colleen

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    Does he think this will be a "unique experience" for his kids or something? What the hell....your mom has no time or extra energy for these kids. A united from from the siblings may make him see the selfishness of his actions.
    There are no words at a time like this to make your pain go away. Your "faith" will get you through this challenging time in you and your families life. You know, the sacrifices you've for your Dad, your conscience will be clear when the final day comes. Just know that there are people out here that feel your pain. You will survive this terrible ordeal, because you have too.
    Call your brother and tell him not to bring the kids. I would throw in a few four letter expletives while making that point.
    Jenn

    Idid call him and tell him if he HAD to have someone keep the kids to bring them to my house... He promptly called my mother and told her I was histarical.... Like she is not dealing with enough right now..... Booo Marc!
    ed shank

    Does Marc have a wife? Maybe you can get thru to her? He obviously is insensitive to what's going on. Perhaps one of the other brothers can talk to him? Your Primary focus, I would think right now is your Mom and Dad. If the kids show up you'll have to make the best of a bad situation. Stay calm.
    So your brother wants to leave his kids at Dad's house and go somewhere else for a week? I agree with ed shank. You need to tell him strongly there is no way to do that.
    Jenn

    I copied this from another reply......
    I did call him and tell him if he HAD to have someone keep the kids to bring them to my house... He promptly called my mother and told her I was histarical.... Like she is not dealing with enough right now..... Booo Marc!
    schubee

    Sounds like he is a mama's boy.


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