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    Why do youngsters these days disrespect their elders ?

    +11  Views: 4470 Answers: 27 Posted: 7 years ago
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    Spaceghost

    Audrey, WELL SAID, you are right about those grandparents, I was raised by my grandparents and SOOOO glad I was.

    audrey

    I believe in following the ways our grandmothers and grandfathers where taught, by God teachings. We have gotton away from teaching our children the most important things in life. Love, forgiving, understanding, and giving. We teach them by them watching us. Like in all things we learn respect when we give (teach) respect.

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    I don't believe they were raised the way we oldsters were! We were taught to respect our elders. Times they are achangin'!

    Ashligh16

    Agree 100% ole hipster!

    Coach

    Did I catch some Dylan in there Hipster? Yeah baby!

    Spaceghost

    True, VERY TRUE, Thank you ole hipster.

    ole hipster

    You sure did!

    ole hipster

    You're quite welcome Spaceghost!

    Kids lost their respect from their parents Dad and mom both work , and hire babysitters ,child care workers to do the parenting, parents feel guilty then spoil the children, Then kids don't get what they want throw a fit on parents ,parents respond by giving in to the kids and the cycles goes on and on. And all the experts can't seem to agree as to why the children are the way they are. Simple they have no role model.

    Spaceghost

    Very good answer matheneyg, NO role models, that can do it. Thumbs up for that.

    Parents show no respect for others so why do the young need to do it. Monkey see, monkey do!
    Spaceghost

    Good point eggplant, thanks for your comments.

    I'm am 48 years old. My wife and I have been married for 25 years and have just had our first child. Yes we look at how kids are turning out now compared to when we grew up and ya its scary. I think the biggest thing I noticed through the years is the way parents want to be with there kids. I've seen parents at work that say damn I've gotta go watch my kid play ball tonite or gotta go to a school play. Then the parents that say wow I have to watch my kid play ball tonite can't wait, hope its a good game. my mom and dad went to my games and plays and atleast looked like they were enjoying themselves. And I do know that if I got in trouble at school I was in trouble when I got home I will open doors, give up my seat, say yes sir no sir, and my little girl will learn to have respect like that too..

    JDB

    Thanks Spaceghost I never though something that small could turn your world around like she has. I still look at her when shes sleeping in my arms and think wow I did that. Shes 8 months now

    Ms Sinclair

    Congratulations! You sound like you're going to be a great dad.

    Spaceghost

    JDB, I really believe that you and your wife are going to be GOOD and UPSTANDING parents. Be stern, but be there for you child, she will respect you for that. Thumbs up. Thank you.

    Spaceghost

    I agree Ms Sinclair, I think JDB is a wonderful dad, cherish and enjoy your daughter because she'll be all grown up before you know it. I wish you well my friend.

    in my day it was to be seen but not heard I am afraid this does no apply to children now a days I mean that I dont think we should bring children up strict as I was but hey it never did me any harm I think the problem now a days is that the media and parents look apon thier children as little prima donnas and princes and princess this should not be they are a gift from God but I am sure God did not want them to disrespect thier Parents I am afraid we have done this
    Spaceghost

    I really love your comment, thank you so much my friend.
    melandrupert

    Thanks spaceghost I do think its lack of gratefullness

    they have no parents to teach them how or who to respect. They have friends that happened to spawn them. My kids are amazingly respectful. I am BLESSED!

    Spaceghost

    Jenn, YOU ARE BLESSED, I'm so happy for you my friend, I have kids and grand kids and they were brought up right, respectful and so far they are making me proud of them.

    When I was a kid growing up my mom and dad taught us me and my sister's the basic's about GOD etc and they taught by example I never remember my parent's ever being rude or showing disrespect to any one to senior's etc.One time in public I heard a kid I wont use the cuss word's he yelled at his father.When I was still growing up I would never do some thing that horrible I would rather cut my right arm off than ever do that even know.Common manner's has seemed to have died many people overlook senior's and disabled which is a shame while many are helping seniors the disabled and the poor which balance out the rest
    whovin

    Thank you for the thumb ups

    I have 11 children and they were taught to respect mom and dad.They still respect dad mom died a couple years ago.

    Spaceghost

    Way to go papa peg, sounds to me like you did a wonderful job of raising those kids. That's great.

    Why? Because they can get away with it. A slap in the mouth is usually enough to get their attention, and once you have it remind them who you are, and what minor role they play in the family. Disrespecting our parents was non existent in our house. Not because of fear but because we loved them.
    Spaceghost

    Thanks ed, I agree with you, disrespecting our parents was non existent in my home also. Thumbs Up for you.
    franklin5

    ed you are a 100% on that....

    society teaches what the market will buy.  look at movies and television, which demonstrates what we are teaching our young. not too much of it pushes for respecting elders or respecting anyone else for that matter.

    terryfossil 1

    yeah,,"the Simpsons" come to mind,,as disrespectful a show there is,but you should see the class of people that watch it,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,

    The "laws" do not allow proper disiplin for kids that NEED it...rendering an adult useless in raising a child..the government wants to do that..then, in a few generations....the people will be forced to       1}: become a :Government Family...                                                                                           2}: become the Enemy of our own families(as government disrupts it to a point of no return)           3}: Learn to accept being told "When and WHY to express your emotions as an adult..".but let the aggressive young child with an obvious attitude problem simply continue into adulthood with the improper influence.........I COULD continue...however...I know you know how it is...yet...I Wonder..'cuz I'm the "Wonderer"!...

    terryfossil 1

    keep wandering wonderer................

    Because elders have allowed it to happen, along with laws that enable the children.

    I think that a lot of parents, for whatever reasons, are afraid to discipline their children. Also I believe that basic etiquette in general has gone by the wayside. I live in New York and when riding the bus or subway I can't begin to count the number of times I've seen people not give up their seats to elderly, pregnant or disabled persons. People don't always say excuse me or thank you. They don't hold doors open for people with packages, etc. These were considered basic manners when I was growing up.

    Born too late

    I have to echo my surprise in agreement with Colleen's comment. I too am truly amazed when someone thanks me for doing something I thought to be nothing more than a common courtesy. Most recent example: I was parked next to an elderly gentleman helping his wife get into their car parked next to mine. He actually apologized to me for "being in the way." My response, "You were NEVER in my way." Despite his courtesy, I could not help but feel deep down that something important in life has been lost forever.

    Colleen

    Moderator

    I agree, this new world is a very self orientated world. I am considered tall, 5'8" & when I'm out shopping there's always someone trying to reach something on a top shelve. I'll go over & get what they're reaching for & I'm always amazed at how shocked they look that a stranger was willing to help them. Now I've held doors before for people only to have them walk on by without a thank you. It doesn't stop me from helping others. I've had friends say that because of one instance like mine, they'll never hold a door again. All inclusive thinking seems to have changed how we treat each other.

    Ms Sinclair

    I once saw an old man drop his cane on a bus and not only did the kid sitting in front of it not give him a seat but he didn't even pick up the cane. How rude is that?

    Spaceghost

    Ms Sinclair, Colleen, Born too late, you all have true statements and I want to thank you all for your input. I wrote an article in my local newspaper about how people don't say THANK YOU OR COME BACK, WHEN I went to this place of business, paid the person and they slammed the money on the counter,didn't say THANK YOU and when I looked at this person in SHOCK she looked at me and said " WHAT". I have seen elderly people not have seats, because the younger people are sitting there and not even THINKING about the elderly.

    Spaceghost

    VERY RUDE.

    I agree with papa peg, if parents teach their own children to respect elders, they will do so. But I also believe most children do respect their elders, but unfortunately, the children most of us see are either television shows that depict children who have smart mouths, or are the trouble makers we read about in newspapers. As a teacher, I see the good ones and the bad ones, but the good ones far outnumber the bad. Take heart America. You are not doing a bad job raising your children, but you are being convince otherwise by boob tube shows and horrible movies that do their best to depict our young as horrible beings. If you want to see the truth, go to any boys and girls club and volunteer. Or go to schools and volunteers as hall monitors and lunch room monitors. Go to your favorite religious place of worship and get involved with the youngsters. There are all kinds of ways to see our youth. 4-H anyone? How about being a Big Brother or Big Sister? As I said, the young people today are wonderful. Just don't look for the rotten apples because they will sour your pallet for the really good ones.

    Spaceghost

    Very good,bluedeath, first of all thank you for being a teacher, and that is good advice about being a Big Brother or Big Sister. Thumbs up for you.

    First of all, Elders must be respectable.
    Part of being respectable is teaching the young how to behave.
    Parents (many of them) have not been doing that.
    You don't have to beat the kid. Just let them know
    from the very beginning -- like age 1 1/2 -- that
    that is, or is not, the way to behave.
    If you start early, you don't have much problem.

    Spaceghost

    Exactly right, disciplining them at an early age will reap good benefits. Thank you Eddina. T.U. for you.

    tabber

    Aman!
    Mostly because of poor upbringing.They don't respect themselves let alone anyone else
    Spaceghost

    Thank you flhrci, sad but true, appreciate your input.

    Children of the baby boomers, myself included, were very coddled on the whole. Parents thought that is was their undying duty to give them a storybook life. Each generation wants more for its offspring, that is natural. But we took itto a new level, So worried about their self esteem, parents were afraid to have high expectations of their kids. God forbid should they grow up feeling disappointed, experience failure or rejection. It is not good to protect them from the realities of life. How will they handle these experiences when they are adults? So I suspect that the children lost respect due to our fear of being unpopular with them, few consequences, so whom DO they respect? Their peers, unfortunately. We were afraid to be tough. I was called the strictest mother in town, and I said thanks, I am doing my job. However, as they enter their late 20's and so, their sense of entitlement persists. It is never too late to demand respect. I got a smack from my Dad just for giving Mom a dirty look, and that was good, and I am not a violent person. But the message was quickly received. And I due respect my elders, because most of them have wisdom that i have not attained.

    Spaceghost

    JudeKS, thank you so much for the info, it sounds to me like you had WONDERFUL parents and you are a WONDERFUL parent, that's good that you were the strictest mother in town, I know your children are glad to have you as a mom.

    this was posted 3 years ago,so kids are 3 years worse than they were,,the only thing that changed,,,,parents give them more slack than 3 years ago,,,,The parents of today seem to say,,"my kids are not going to grow up like i did, They are going to have the freedom to do the things i was not allowed to do.."I think that about say's it all.....................................always nice talking

    hector5559

    Thats about right Terry,dont matter how bad they are just tell them to sit on the naughty stair,

    uh, the new generation of kids, these days, like spaceghost said; SO SAD, SO SAD, SO SAD.....
    i remember mum telling me, if her mum told her something to do, she MUST do it, there is just NO other way,
    these days, some even push their mothers when she tries to hit him on the ears......
    BUT I"M A GOOD ONE < LOVE MY MUMMY AND DADDY AND RESPECT FOR ALL< ESPECIALLY ELDERS :D

    Spaceghost

    Way to go doublehelix, I like that, thank you.

    Because maybe the elders or a lot of them have not taught them to they are given everything and most do not have to work for anything I think more people try to buy their love instead of spending quality time as the world is moving at a faster pace and more people have to work to survive sad but true I think we should stop and take the time to listen and spend with them and teach them the right way to treat others and also we have to be an example of what we teach.
    Spaceghost

    Thank you Darci, I think you hit the nail on the head. Good answer, T.U.for you.

    IN ANSWER TO YOUR QUESTION HAVE A LOOK IN ANY LOUNGE ROOM IN "ADVANCED" COUNTRY, HAVE A LOOK IN MOST CHILDRENS` BED ROOM IN SAME AREAS AND YOUR ANSWER LIES "HIDDEN IN PLAIN VIEW" IN BLACK PLASTIC BOXES OF VARIOUS SHAPES AND SIZES.


    HOW CAN RESPECT BE THE NORM WHEN CHILDREN AND ADULTS BRAINS ARE CONTINUALY BOMBARDED WITH DISRESPECTFUL "ENTERTAINMENT" DISRESPECTFUL ACTIONS ARE FOLLOWED BY "CANNED" LAUGHTER TO SHOW HOW HILARIOUS IT IS SO WHAT CAN YOU EXPECT> PLANT WHEAT YOU GET WHEAT> PLANT DISRESPECT YOU GET WELL I GUESS YOU KNOW BY NOW. A VERY RESPECTFUL GOOD-BYE FOR NOW.

    PEOPLELOVER

    THANKS SPACEY BUT HEY WHERE IS THE THUMBS UP. REMEMBER I WALK WITH YOU THE CHOSEN.

    Spaceghost

    Thank you PEOPLELOVER, very true statements. Looking forward to hearing from you some more.

    Spaceghost

    GOTCHA COVERED, Thank you P.L

    Wow SG...just asked a similar question! Great minds think alike. I think that the kids don't appreciate what their elders have done to make their lives better for them. Unfortunately it's common in every generation but I agree, it's worse now more that ever. Maybe I see it more because I'm an elder...Lord help me! Ha ha!

    Coach

    The weird thing is they try to talk back to ME because they're used mouthing off to anyone and everyone. Don't worry...after a few "coach pointers", they know where they stand and believe it or not, there is a mutual respect that develops. I've also learned that I wouldn't want to go home to the lives that they are going to. The old "Walk a mile in his moccasins" saying.

    Jenn

    Peas in a pod...

    Ms Sinclair

    When I worked in a department store I once saw a child of about four curse out his mother and she did nothing about it. Had I done that when I was a child I would have gotten my head handed to me. It's mandatory to take lessons to learn how to drive a car. Maybe the same thing should apply before becoming a parent.

    Spaceghost

    Coach, great minds do think alike my friend, I see we both love football also that's my sport. This generation of kids really is bad, they talk back to their parents and I've actually seen some curse their parents out. SO SAD.

    Spaceghost

    Coach you are SO right,it's a shame and you wonder how can these parents allow their children to talk back to them, as well as to other people. Man I just heard on my local news that a elementary school student brought cocaine to school and SHARED IT.

    In my experience it's the elders that close their minds to change and therefore treat young people like they are rebelling against all that's good in the world.. disturbing their sense of normalcy. My own grandparents are a good example.. always blaming young people for this or that.. All the while it's the system that's targeting the young people to seem like criminals and disturbed people that need to be corrected. Kids are targeted by the system to be indoctrinated in to a stupid.. sustainable future. Wake up!

    Born too late

    Ummmm...please excuse me. But there are basic tenants of decency that transcend both age and time. Life changes, modifies and improves as it should but respect and courtesy never go out of style!

    Ms Sinclair

    Rebellion is one thing. I believe the young should rebel. That CAN BE a very healthy thing. And I agree that sometimes youths are unjustifiably targeted as criminals and misfits. But common courtesy is another thing altogether. As Born too late said people should show others a certain level of respect regardless of age. Many children never learn this and I think that their parents are at least partially to blame for that.

    Spaceghost

    Respect and courtesy should always prevail.

    anonymous_sender

    That was my point Ms Sinclair. I'm saying how do you blame a kid for something when they were never taught any better.. we're coming in to an age where families are no longer together. The school adopts children and society adopts them as well.. a child was once taught by their parents, but now 'most' of their learning happens elsewhere, and parents are separated from the children as early as age 5.. elders; while i agree deserve respect; children need their understanding even more..

    Watch television and movies, like children and teens do, and you'll notice the idea of respect for one's elders isn't in the script.  PERSONALLY, I think the problem started with the "Love Generation" of the 1960's, which would be the middle baby boomers. A lot of those folks brought up their kids without boundaries. They grew up and had kids who were raised similarly, if not even more liberally.  The kids today are the grandchildren of those '60s young adults.  Moral values are lower now, too, as evidenced by TV shows like "16 and pregnant".  WHY would we want to encourage that?
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    bulletman

    MsBob, we must be on the same wave length, took the words right out of my mouth, my grand kids are absolute bratz.
    almost all of the qiestions about kids can be anwsewered this way.1 ask thier thier lazy parents.2 ask thier fat ass parents...parents ia the key word.
    tabber

    funny funny true true 'parent' is keyword.

    because they are morons , if their brains where made of dynamite it wouldnt blow
    their hats off

    Spaceghost

    LMAO, thank you for your comments sprocket.

     


    This is a big problem in the school district. The kids have no fear of authority, or any adult, b/c their parents let them say and do whatever the h----   they want.



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