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    How do i tell my dad i dont like my stepmum

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    0  Views: 718 Answers: 3 Posted: 12 years ago
    Quita5060

    Why do you dislike her? Do you live in hte same household with her? Are you a minor and she is responsible for your upkeep and your future? If you are an adult child then answers will be different than if you are a minor and under her care and custody. I would love to offer some advice cause I am in a situation similar to what you describe but without the answers to those questions whatever I tell you will be one-sided and not very much good for you.
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      its hard to get connected with your step parents i have a step dad . you just have to give them a chance to prove themselfs dont put the brakes on right away just give a little at a time keep in mind that your dad fell in love with this person you didnt . just take one day at a time. the hate or dislike you have for her now can turn around.im talking to you from what happened in my life , YES ITS VERY HARD just keep your head up and do your hardest. dont suck up but just let the ice melt. my step father which i call DAD now after 30 plus years is more of a dad than anyone can ask for. and just sit back it was not your fault your mam and dad fell out of love.DO NOT BLAME YOUR SELF and you have to love yourself. if you want to talk more My Email Mailman1957@austin.rr.com and if dad is understanding he will hear you you have to say, you where here before she was
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        Very carefully. And be ready to itemize the "why" part so that he clearly understands.
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          I'm SURE she already knows you don't like her. Women can sense these things without you saying a word. She probably also feels in competition with your biological mother. First, talk with your dad and ask him what she thinks of you and how you can make it positive. Let him know he can be honest and you can handle anything he says - but be READY for anything! Remember, he also knows you don't like her and is feeling trapped in the middle of you two and trying to make both of you happy.

          Also, try spending some time with her one on one. You may be surprised to find she is a great person. She is probably struggling to fit in to 'your' family and is not sure how to. Show her you're trying and let her in turn, show you how nice she can be also.

          You are both competing for your dad's time and attention. Suggest scheduling family time as well as (equal) one on one time for both you and your dad and her and your dad.

          Secret: (Ask for her opinion on something...she'll see you value her and probably start being nicer to you.)

          Overall, be a good kid. You know what's expected of you (if not, ASK!). Do good in school, your chores, your homework, etc. Don't give her a reason to be upset with you. COMMUNICATE with them!! Parents don't always do the right things either, but they try. Regardless, they love you very much....even your step mom loves you. She's probably just not sure how to show it. She would not have married your dad if she was not willing to accept and love you as well.
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