jhharlan
I opened Facebook to a minutes old photo of my niece, nephew, and their kids (along with other relatives) (I’ve never laid eyes on the children) riding on a kiiddy train located at a popular park here in Austin. I wasn’t told let alone invited. They live far, far away....
How would or should I say anything? Let it go? Keep the invitation to my party in August open to them still?
8 Answers
Ducky
Go easy. "Sure wish I could have visited with all of you when.....Looking forward to the August....." I think this has happened to all of us jh. It feels as though someone is rubbing it in your face, I know, but don't retaliate. :((
| 5 years ago. Rating: 9 | |
Whoops, this went in the wrong comment space.
Write the letter, but think twice about sending it.
Do you want an apology, a response at all?
Think it through carefully.
Bob/PKB
There are lots of scenarios, Julie. If this was MY family, I'd have to question the family dynamics. I have cousins who are sisters who can barely be in the same city of 500,000 together.How is/was the relationship between you and your sibling who is the parent/in law of them?
Are you in contact with them beyond FB...calls, emails? How about the other relatives?
I would be hurt, too, and on Facebook would "love" their photos and comment something like, "What a fun day! I'd love to see you all if you're going to be here awhile. PLEASE call me!"
Sigh. I empathize with you.
| 5 years ago. Rating: 7 | |
Their loss, Julie. Except for your political views, you're pretty awesome.
country bumpkin
Your niece and nephew may have been on a very tight schedule so they could not include everyone during this visit.
Did the other relatives who were invited have kids too? Perhaps they thought you would be bored hanging around a bunch of rowdy kids.
You mentioned that you sent an invitation to them for a party coming up in August. They may be planning to play catch-up with you then.
You also mentioned above that you have never seen their children before because they live far away. Have they not sent you pictures? Unless I'm missing something here, it doesn't sound as if you guys have ever had a close family bond. Kinship does not always mean friendship.
| 5 years ago. Rating: 6 | |
Benthere
terryfossil 1
Roll with the punches JH..all the best..>>>>>>>><<<<<<<<..
| 5 years ago. Rating: 6 | |
sunnyB
I think it may be as cb said, they may not have thought you would want to be surronded by noisy kids, I know I wouldn't. Don't take it too personal, I do that sometimes, and then discover I've made a mistake. Keep your August celebrations open to them and everyone, let them see your the grown up.
| 5 years ago. Rating: 6 | |
clu
Is there any neural member of your family? My sister told all of her relatives to F@#$ off a couple years ago. The rest of us still have a relationship! If you open any contact with a relative who is willing to let the rest of the relatives know You are interested in their lives this may help.
| 5 years ago. Rating: 5 | |
mycatsmom
This goes on all the time in my family . My brother ignores me and so do his kids ......( my niece and nephew ) His wife has something to do with that. she always tried to drive a wedge between Ron and me .....and she succeeded. She even tried to drive a wedge between me and the kids!........which wasn't good for them b/c I am their aunt and they identify with me.
| 5 years ago. Rating: 3 | |
