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    how can I learn to trust my husband when he hasnt changed any of his behaviors?

    +1  Views: 1041 Answers: 5 Posted: 5 years ago
    Bob/PKB

    We could be more helpful if you could give information about what changes you need from your husband.

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    Good question, without knowing a little about the circumstances it's difficult to comment, but I do know one thing, it's not your responsibility to "learn" to trust someone.

    You know the old saying, A leper  never changes his spots, this sounds like your husband.

    mycatsmom

    leopard
    ROMOS

    Lepers are spotty too you know J?

    Trust is a choice. You either trust him completely or you don't trust at all.....

    My ex cheated on his first wife with their next door neighbor, and his second wife (me) with a co-worker. I suspect #3 would castrate him for even less, but the point is...


    If he has lost your trust, nothing will restore it completely. If you just have "a feeling", that's on you. If he doesn't think his behavior is a valid issue, he won't change. If it is, the changes will come when he decides to make them.


    And, trust IS earned,  IS a choice, and is NOT learned, as my friends have said. 


     

    CaCa Hill - - - -The best  predicter of  someone's future behavior is  his past behavior

    ROMOS

    Or hers, works both ways!
    mycatsmom

    Well, she asked about HIM


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