close
    Sisters boyfriend

    If your sister was going out with a total loser,,would you give him or her a black eye ??????????

    +6  Views: 958 Answers: 11 Posted: 5 years ago

    11 Answers

    No, I would make sure they know how you feel Terry. Don't give anyone a black eye though, that would probably make them even more defensive and together.

    terryfossil 1

    You are right Sunny,I gave them both a black eye,and they then went and got married,two kids later he found a younger woman,,,keep in mind this all happened 45 years ago,,i always knew he was a low life,he went on to prove it,,,,,,,,,,,,always nice talking Sunny,,,

    I don’t hit. I’d probably make my feelings known and leave it at that. Steam alone……...

    No, I don't give black eyes.  She will then run to his defense anyway. You probably can't make someone do what YOU think is best for them. 

    Of course I wouldn't.  Here's a tough thing to consider, though.  
    My son spent nearly 6 years with the loser who is the mother of his three children. I couldn't understand why he was so hung up with this person; she beat on him, nearly cut off his ear with a garden hoe, used drugs, was destructive of his property (still is), is an alcoholic, ignorant, just "not a nice person" in general (which is what a classmate of hers told me five years ago). What on earth was my son doing with such a low life example of humanity?  (Icing on the cake is her parents, abusive, domineering mother, alcoholic father)
    It dawned on me one day, and has bothered me since, that if my son were so attracted to someone I considered a "loser", what does that make my son?  I'm sure HER parents thought my son was a "loser"... 
    Let your sister know how you feel, POLITELY, and be ready to pick up the pieces when the relationship disintegrates.  
    ""

    I have witnessed this with my adult sister. Not much anyone can do when she is head over heels in love. Her choice, her life.


    As for black eyes, as long as she doesn't get one, I can't see any punches getting thrown from me.

    My sister married one.(And yes...I did).

    terryfossil 1

    as did i Tom,both of them,,

    Tough one terrey,you could be done for commom assualt,just fill his hat with crap ram it on hes head,and kick him up the bum,not to hard though,

    terryfossil 1

    I dont kick softley Hec
    hector5559

    Dont get your foot stuck though terry,O.L.L,

    It depends upon how big he is and if he can fight. If I don't consider this to be an option, giving my sister one would be a possibility, but only if I kept her in my dungeon for awhile and she refused to waiver.

    You can try to help by expressing some advise, however, it is usually not taken.  That's about all one can do. 

    terryfossil 1

    Your on it Bustie,my advice was forceful and not taken,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,

    Keep your hands to yourself. Using fists will lead to more problems. Your sisters affairs are her own, not yours. 

    terryfossil 1

    Witchway,that advice might have been good 40 years ago,,then again, i was not very good at talking advice back then,,,,Always nice talking Witchway
    witchway

    Very sad terry. Nice talking with you also.

    Terry, you can't do anything about it except talk to her and I'm sure you have. She'll probably just keep on doing her own thing untill she reaches the breaking point. She's lucky to have a bro like you who cares about her.

    terryfossil 1

    thanks MCM,this happened 40 odd years ago,they both got whacked,they married. and 2 kids later he left her,i have not seen her or spoke to her in 40 years....................................


    Top contributors in Family category

     
    Benthere
    Answers: 12 / Questions: 0
    Karma: 15945
     
    jhharlan
    Answers: 141 / Questions: 3
    Karma: 15860
     
    Bob/PKB
    Answers: 109 / Questions: 29
    Karma: 13505
     
    Ducky
    Answers: 64 / Questions: 0
    Karma: 10425
    > Top contributors chart

    Unanswered Questions

    443135
    questions
    713487
    answers
    535393
    users