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    what will make him change his prenup to make it more fair?

    +2  Views: 1918 Answers: 10 Posted: 10 years ago

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    Oh siwren, you want him to be fair to you, change the pre-nup and he refuses! I want YOU to be fair to YOURSELF and walk away! You are starting off, not together, but already apart, and on a serious, major issue. He will remain in control, as he currently is...trust me on this. Sadly, this is the predictor of your future.

    Ducky

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    Hey ROMOS! Happy New Year to you too!

    Tell him you can not marry him because you can not agree to the prenup. If that does not make him change it, walk away because he apparently values money over you. Then  again, why are you marrying him? For love or for the money he has?

    siwren

    not for the money, but the prenup IS unfair, basically there will be no community property.
    Colleen

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    Community property happens after the marriage. At least that's the way it is here in the USA. If you feel he is trying to cheat you, do not marry him.
    siwren

    in the prenup, he states that everything that he buys, goes back to him, and anything that I buy goes back to me....basically, I will have no furniture IF there is a divorce...
    He makes way more $$ than me, and it will ALL go to him...no community property, it is based on who PAYS for any item acquired in the marriage...it doesn't make any sense.
    Colleen

    Moderator
    I think prenups have to at least match the laws of the state you are getting married in. Check the laws. I think he is not ready to get married. Tell him as the man, he is suppose to be the breadwinner and supporter of the family. He needs a mommy, not a wife.
    siwren

    Oh yea, it also states that I get nothing that he contributed to the marriage in the event of his death...we don't even have to get divorced for me to get screwed!
    Colleen

    Moderator
    Why are you even questioning this?

    Pre-Nup, She-Nup...  What did we do without them, maybe trusted and made a long term commitment?

    Maybe let him have some of the medical catnip from your avatar picture! That might loosen him up!

    siwren

    ha ha...yeah.

    In India, prenuptial agreements are very rare and do not have any governing laws. However, with rising divorce rates people are showing increasing interest in prenups. Some lawyers are of the opinion that prenups don't have legal sactinity in India. However, some form of contract is signed in some cases, usually among affluent citizens. However, the agreements need to be reasonable and not violate pre-existing laws like the Hindu Marriage Act. Indian courts allow a memorandum of settlement to be signed during divorces. But, no court has yet been asked to enforce a prenup.[3] These agreements may come under the Indian Contract Act 1872. The Section 10 of the Indian Contract Act states that agreements are to be considered contracts if they are made by the free consent of the parties.[4] However, the Section 23 of the same act states that a contract may be void if they are immoral or against public policy.[5] …Wikipedia


    In my opinion the need for a prenup is to protect personal property rights primarily. Neither party should consider anything not specifically shared as part of a contract. That is your personal property is your own and no one else. Your clothes, jewelry, money, life is your own. Your life, love, loyality and responsibilities should remain as your own. The choice of friends,acquaintances, manner of speaking, household duties and the sharing of mutual pleasures, benefits and indulgences should remain a matter of mutual choice and respect. Wealth may be given, received,  rejected, denied, delayed, or redirrected  but not taken as an open opportunity. Laws to be legal, binding and fair have never been written. Remove all conflicting potential and you may have a friend, comforter and confidant with or without a marriage contract. Thus there is no marriage or giving or receiving in marriage in Heaven.


       

    Oh sweetheart, empower yourself and don't enter into this union. The fact that you know he is asking for a pre-nup should make you want to run in the other direction. Always make sure that you can provide for yourself and you will never have to count on someone else for financial support. I've instilled this concept in my own daughter and she is doing well. Seek out other strong women and ask for advice and help. Good luck.

    It doesn't sound like you are in for a trusting marriage, I say no thanks If I were you.

    Sounds like you don't think this marriage is going to last in the first place.  Why bother?  Get you own place and buy some furniture at a thrift store.  You don't need a selfish man who doesn't trust you (or care about you very much) and he doesn't need a woman who is more concerned about furnishing her apartment after the divorce.

    Have him buy all the catnip.

    i don't know


     



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