Tommyh
My Brother just phoned me.His son in law committed suicide this morning.He left behind 3 lovely little kids.Twin girls (5) & a boy (9).My first emotion was rage.How could he do this to those kids? Thanks a lot buddy.You selfish,weak SOB!
9 Answers
lindilou
Good Lord Tommyh...this is not good at all...a suicide affects 35 people not including family or friends beginning with Medical Response, Triage team and nursing staff, Police, Victim services staff and whomever they need to share the traumatic event with...suicide is after all murder...of self...but still very traumatizing to all involved...what a rotten mess to leave behind...you and others have every right to be angry....just know you are not alone....sadly. peace xo LL
| 10 years ago. Rating: 14 | |
jhharlan
Suicides are a personal problem that take one away from reality. They just are thinking of the rotten world inside their own head. I know, I've been there myself many times. Too bad he didn't seek out help and medication. It IS selfish and leaves others behind with horrible thoughts, how selfsish can that be? Wish I could have talked to him before the final plug......I am so, so sorry for you and yours...........
| 10 years ago. Rating: 12 | |
Ducky
So sad Tommy. Unfortunately, suicide is the ultimate result of depression, which is extremely difficult to cope with. Reasons are many and varied and those left behind, want to KNOW the reason and they sometimes blame themselves. If a person decides to take his/her own life, there is NO ONE who can stop them. I'm so sorry for you, your family members and all who are left to grieve. For whatever reason, he felt that he could not live any longer within his messed up life....leaving his family, forever changed.
| 10 years ago. Rating: 11 | |
Thanks for the response Ducky.Mery Xmas to you.
Tommy, my thoughts are with you and your family. Suicide of a close friend or relative would be so very difficult to cope with. Impossible for a child? I don't know. Sorry.
pythonlover
bustieone
Tommy, such a tragedy! Your poor family, and yes, he must have had taken the cowards' way out! Those poor children, old enough to know what is going on. No good time for this sort of thing, but much worse for all at Christmas. Regards to you and your family, you are in our prayers all.
| 10 years ago. Rating: 11 | |
My brother seems to have things under control.They're his grandkids & he loves them as much as I love mine.More importantly they look to him for guidance & love.I just can't get my head around this.
Bob/PKB
Along with all your friends here, Tom, my very deepest sympathy to you and your family. There is never a good time for someone to do this, and my heart especially aches for his children.
Anger would be my first reaction as well, I'm sure, and I hope you have a good chance to funnel that and then give the love and support your brother, his grandchildren, and the rest of the family truly needs from you. (You can vent here as much as you want and I, for one, will listen as your friend)
I know you aren't a religious guy, but please accept my prayers for all. Phyllis
| 10 years ago. Rating: 10 | |
No matter, this is a horrible tragedy for all those left behind. Do be careful what you say as little ones have big ears. (I know you will)
clu
Sorry Tommy My partners son committed suicide in 1990! My partner has blamed himself all these years! I keep pointing out how selfish his son was! I am still angry at the son! Suicide leaves the survivors in a horrible position! Blessings to your brother and don't let him feel guilty!
| 10 years ago. Rating: 10 | |
sunnyB
Really sorry to here such terrible news Tommyh, what an awful thing to happen this time of year. A young family friend of ours did the same thing a few years ago, and my first thought was as yours, how could he be so selfish. But as another family member said at the time, he just was not thinking straight, he must of had some problems that he just thought he couldn't cope with. The only way to deal with it must be to try and understand how he was feeling, and do what you can for the rest of your family. My thoughts are with you Tommyh .
| 10 years ago. Rating: 10 | |
mycatsmom
So sorry for the kids,Tommy . Suicide leaves a legacy on the kids that is hard to shake. Studies show that the children of a suicide victim are more likely to commit suicide when they're older, then if their parent wouldn't have done it. That's what happened in the case of Hemmingway.
| 10 years ago. Rating: 8 | |
