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    Do young children need their toys organized?

    Or can the wooden blocks live with the Seven Dwarves? Can the Barbies live with the trucks? Can the stuffed animals live with the swim fins?  (Stuff like that) I have debated this question for MANY years and have no answer. What's YOUR best guess?

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    Colleen

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    itsmee

    Welcome. Welcome to akaQA!
    sunnyB

    itsmee, can you tell me what it means when colleen just puts a line and no comment, does' that mean she has nothing to say, or that she's just watching us from above.
    Colleen

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    I can tell you sunny. It means I moved the comment below mine to where it belongs ;)
    sunnyB

    Thank you colleen, that's put my mind at rest.

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     Seeing my mother take all my treasured toys and throwing them in the garbage after her repeated attempts at telling me to pick my toys up off the floor made an impression on me that I have carried into my adulthood.


     My son had separate storage containers with lids for each category of toys he owned. His Match Box cars went in one, his Legos in another etc. 


     My grandfather built my son a very nice toy box for him to cram his excess toys inside to hide the mess.  Teaching children how to be neat and organized should be taught at an early age.   


     My son recently turned 20 and I see my efforts to teach him while he was young how not to be a slob has paid off.


     IMO, Itsmee, it's never too early to show children ( or your grandchildren) how to be neat and tidy.

    itsmee

    I honestly think you have the right idea, cb. I tried to do this for 20 years and it just didn't work for me. I blame it on my ADD and that could really be. I rolled out of bed very early this AM and started organzing. Ooooh there are so many little pieces. MILLIONS. Argh.
    Montessori training is like your method.. Kids learn organization skills. Kids who passed my way learned to try to organize. They were creative and that counts.
    It's too late for me to teach my grand kids. They are 8, 6, and 4. I think you have to start them at TWO.
    My 6 year old said, "Grandma, everytime we start to do something you have to look for your scissors or your scotch tape." (Maybe she is learning. huh?) OK, Ducky there it is. The G word.
    Ducky

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    @itsmee...You said it!!! lol
    Bob/PKB

    How similar our answers are, right to the part about your son NOT being an adult slob! :D
    My youngest is so disorganized...can't even fold his laundry.
    My middle one DOES take very good care of his things and is conscientious about organization.
    My eldest goes in spurts, but mostly keeps things under control (now that he is single-yaaaa).
    country bumpkin

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    @ Bob. Very interesting about our answers. You made your point much clearer than I did. My son had so many toys and most of them had several pieces to them such as his Power Rangers, by knowing where to look allowed him more time to play and have fun instead of crying his eyes out or me having to turn his room upside down to look for one particular toy.
    Bob/PKB

    Hi CB! It just made sense to have toys organized for exactly the reasons you said. Also, I need organized, even if it's messy. This mess is this. That mess is that. The mess over there is the other thing. .. you know what I mean?

    ""That's what toy boxes are for.Just chuck em all in.

    itsmee

    country bumpkin: I agree with you. I do NOT live that way. I've just always wanted to. I wanted to teach my preschool kids in the Montessori way but it's not in my nature no matter how hard I try.
    We are in the process of changing the living room furniture also. Getting ready for the tree, we are.
    country bumpkin

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    You taught preschool kids! I bet the kids loved you and they had a lot of fun in your class. I was a KDO caregiver for a couple of years. I didn't think much of it at the time, but I miss all those toddlers. I think I'm growing into that Grandma mode.


    Young? Not really, that will come in time……...

    itsmee

    Well, I agree with you too. I agree with cb more. I just can't do it.

    Toys are for fun!  If you have a room for them do what you will!  A box  to store them! Give a kid a break  Let them decide what goes where! I hate the idea of organizing toys! BLAAAHH!

    itsmee

    LOL ... I wish they would just hop in the correct box all by themselves.

    You can try to train kids in all areas of life. Sometimes it "takes", sometimes it doesn't. Just look at the differences in people who have come from the same family. I'm not sure if being neat and tidy can be taught, or is simply something that comes from within....like being motivated, ambitious, honest, etc.

    Who knows for sure!  My children's home was loaded down with Rubbermaid containers that had labels on them.....GI Joe, Happy Meal toys, Legos, K'nex, Batman, Hot Wheels, Soldiers, Play Food, Crayons, etc. etc. etc.     Believe it or not, when it was time to pick up stuff, they were really agreeable about putting things in the "right" container.  They also had individual toy boxes that were for their personal toys, and they were very conscientious about taking care of their things.  I think having "a place for everything and everything in its place" made it less frustrating when they wanted to play with something.   It also condensed the amount of space needed for their stuff.  
    My grandchildren have stuff everywhere, and it overwhelms them as well as their parents.   
    Books were, and continue to be, on shelves where everyone has access to them.  The little one (18 mo) needs supervision, but the girls are respectful of books. 

    I was taught to put things away, if you wanted to keep things in good condition it was the only way in a large family. They made an impression on me for the rest of my life, it didn;t do any harm. I tried to teach my children the same, I don't know if it made much difference to them I have one son who is the tidiest person who ever lived, and the other who lives in a house like a tip.

    Ducky

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    "like a tip"??
    sunnyB

    English way of saying, his house is like a junk yard, rubbish tip, ducky.
    Ducky

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    Thanks. I like to ask about sayings from other countries, that I don't understand. I still don't get "rubbish tip" though. :(
    sunnyB

    It's where people dump thier rubbish ie garbage.
    Ducky

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    Ahhh...the garbage dump. :)
    itsmee

    : ) Glad we got that straight. Sometimes the nursery looks like a tip!

    Yes. It's good preparation for organizing others things that will come along later.

    Organizing things neatly  will do nothing to instruct that behavior in others. As a child I did learn many important skills from my parents but neatness was not one of them. That skill did not seem important to me until I choose to make it important to me and for me. Motive….that is what gets you going and keeps you going. Telling a child to clean their room every day of their life with you can easily become a source of resentment, delaying their finding reasons and a willingness = motive for their own choice for neatness. Your purpose for the daily clean-up is why you do that. A child can self-motivate by understanding how they can develop their own self-motivating choice. 'When you choose to make up your bed, you can get out of bed and then make it up as neatly as you like. Before doing anything else.” Telling a child to be a good little parrot and do as they are told makes the robot child perform as mindlessly as the program drives them. The child that chooses to do a task because they choose to do it, as their own free-agent  of self control is on the high road of personal discipline . Free will choice is very important to everyone.    



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