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    What do you think is an appropriate gift for a wedding in the U.S.? My cousin thinks

    that you shouldn't give less than $350 per couple. She goes to fancy weddings; one was for 2 doctors who got married on the waterfront in Newport, R.I. She and others, apparently think that guests should have to "pay for their plates." I say if they want to throw a fancy wedding, that's their problem, and they shouldn't count on guests to offset their costs. There's no guarantee that you're going to get what you think you're going to get. I'm going through a rough time right now, and have no qualms about giving $100.


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    +6  Views: 960 Answers: 8 Posted: 10 years ago

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    I believe that any wedding guest should feel free to give exactly what they can comfortably afford to give. Every year, weddings are becoming more and more extravagant, almost as though each couple is trying to out-do the next. However, the guests need not get caught up in any "gift giving competition".

    You give what you can afford without jeopardising your own financial situation.If you gift doesn't measure up to their expectations then the are not really your friends.Give the 100 bucks & don't worry about it.

    A toaster would be nice……….

    Clonge

    "Bread" would probably be more appreciated!
    Ducky

    Moderator
    LOL!
    Tommyh

    I agree totally.What ever happened to that custom? We specifically asked for "No presents" on our inviations & we still got 2 toasters.:)

    Just give what you can afford, sounds to me like weddings are all getting out of hand these days.

    Wedding invitations are requesting your presence, not presents. A gift is something you give and should be graciously received.

     $ 350 ? !  That is wwaaayyyyy too much. And it really should be based on what you can afford. When I go to my step-grandson's  wedding in late  Oct, I'm going  to give them  $ 100. And I've been saving for that since last March.

    A box set of gunsmoke,for them to watch,Prior to retring to bed, And a couple of coffee mugs,with a picture of Mr,Obama on to wake up for in the morning,

    This is a great question to which there is no universal or "American" monetary average. Wedding ceremonies differ drastically from one another. The well to do or wealthy wannabees, typically outdo themselves in their "once in a lifetime" ritual. Forget about the statistical reality that over 50% will end in divorce. The present moment is all about LUUUUV. 


    Most financially modest young couples (aka poor and broke) , order up a basic quarter chicken and baked potato dinner with a pay-as-you-drink bar. Guests usually know what to expect and stuff their envelope accordingly light.


    Either way, you need to know what to expect and gift commensurately. Always "cover your plate" or stay home. If you can't afford the appropriate price of admission, there's nothing wrong with abstaining and mailing in a nominal gift. By breaking this cardinal rule you will be committing the gravest social faux-pas of all. In Italian, it's called "Brutta figura"; embarrassing impression.

    Clonge

    I wouldn't give a gift based upon what it costs for a guest. If the couple wants to get married at the Plaza (NY luxury hotel) and pay hundreds of dollars per guest, when a beautiful wedding can be had for much less, that's their problem. A wedding should be made based upon affordability. Maybe invitations should include a suggested gift; How many people know what a particular wedding actually costs (lol)?
    Ducky

    Moderator
    I like to make a profit when I attend a wedding. Find out what's being served and hand over 50% less in value. Is that wrong? :)
    digger

    What a bunch of cheapskates ! Just because you're invited,you have no obligation to accept. If you feel it's too much pomp, stay home and enjoy your Kraft Dinner. BOTH OF YOUS.
    Ducky

    Moderator
    How about requesting Kraft dinner AT the wedding? If I kick in 50% of that meal, it'll only cost me a dollar to attend a party.
    Clonge

    Should we pay for your postage stamp too (for the invitation you sent)? What if you have really big bucks and get Lady Gaga to perform? Should we figure that into your gift too? Ducky and I will stay home and enjoy our mac & cheese, GOLD digger!
    Ducky

    Moderator
    Mac & Cheese at home it is! You'll have to go without us digger. :(


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