jeweldelight
I divorced from my ex and am single now for over 3 years, But my son tries to interfere in me dating men, and tries controlling me and asks me continual questions about who the man is I may be dating.. My son's fiancée gets involved as well and adds fire to the fuel and makes me out to be a whore..
All I want is happiness and to get on with my life, because I was in a miserable marriage for 20 years, and I believe I deserve to be happy..
My son ridicules me and asks me so many questions like, where did I meet the guy how long have I known him etc..
I'm too afraid to go out with my new boyfriend incase my son see's me and causes trouble, because he's the sort to destroy everything I have..
I'm 54 years old and my son is 34 years of age.. I have my rights to do as I please and where I please without the ok of my son..
That's my belief anyway.. But how do I stop my son from interfering in my life.?
10 Answers
Ducky
Fifty four and your son tells you what to do??????????
Have you ever responded with an answer such as, "Listen here my dear son. I love you BUT....what I do with my life, is absolutely none of your business. Stop questioning me because, as of today, you will get no answers. If you don't like that idea, you will just have to do without my company! Is that clear?"
Why do you let your son, walk all over you?
| 10 years ago. Rating: 8 | |
pythonlover
Maybe your son is just looking out for your best interests and shows concern with the path you are currently following. Just ignore him he can't tell you what to do unless you want him to.
| 10 years ago. Rating: 8 | |
lindilou
Ask them for money every single time they come by...and if they call first, ask them to make purchases for you as you've run short on cash...etc. This'll work I tell ya....pretty soon they won't be so active in trying to wear your shoes....
| 10 years ago. Rating: 7 | |
Hope it helps you, J.D.
Tommyh
robertgrist
Go to CODA Group meetings in your area….and after a few meetings bring your son and daughter in law along as well. http://www.coda.org/meetings/index.php
The answers to your question are in CODA. Welcome to CODA.
| 10 years ago. Rating: 5 | |
Bob/PKB
Most likely, no one will ever be good enough for you. My sons have a step-mother, but when I call her by that title, each one (26, 25, 23) adamantly insists she is "only Dad's wife". They have all told me, individually, no one will ever be good enough for me. I am not all that and a bag of chips, so this is just a thing that my sons have about their mom being involved with someone else. It just doesn't sit right, nor does their dad's marriage.
Your son has this problem, except he is rude and insulting, and his fiancee needs to mind her own business. I suggest next time you are bombarded with questions and snide comments, you sweetly tell your son, something like, "I know you think no one will ever be good enough for me. I agree, I deserve only the best. But if I enjoy someone's company, that doesn't make me a bad person." The fiancee should be told something along the lines of, "I appreciate your efforts to support my son, but it would really behoove you NOT to do it at MY expense. You should be aware of the fact that, as far as I'M concerned, NO ONE will ever be good enough for MY SON."
| 10 years ago. Rating: 4 | |
Ville Meister
Unfortunately, some people never grow old. Besides, most kids treat their parents as functions, not people. You are his MOM, and he is too selfish and stubborn to understand that you are also a WOMAN.He's jealous and doesn't want to see you in any other role. Let his read this
http://www.askwiki.net/How-to-Deal-with-Jealousy
And never listen to him.
Although your son's behavior is pretty understandable, I don't understand his fiancée's bahavior. Probably, you should talk to her first.
| 10 years ago. Rating: 4 | |
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