desert_prencess
I'll start to give an example
I'm a woman ,
10= tells the same stories about his past over and over again.
9= exaggerates time ( you were gone 2 hours when its been 1 hour)
8= tells me everything I didn't do or did wrong; leave the light on etc. but when you do the same to him he blows a gasket.
7=He gets so bent over the simplest things and then says things like "Oh of course, cant anything go my way fir once) Everything is against him.
6= He doesn't let people do things and then complains about having to do EVERYTHING!
5=He avoids any confrontation with everyone except me .and then could care less how hurtfull his word are.
4= He's a habitual liar
3= He tries to tell me what to do in front of people like I'm a little kid. Like "get over here "
2= he embarrasses me in public because he's always in a hurry, and he's always saying "come on come on" but its his little comments and fits that get me.
1= He gets very mad over everything. When he cant find something he will accuse me of loosing it.
And throw a big fit . When its found Usually by me he doesn't even say he's sorry.
So that's my messed up relationship. and writing it down gave me a whole new perspective.
I don't back down, or cower, or become the timid girlfriend In fact the harder I'm pushed the more rebellious I become. It seems to be a balance lol . I was honest and would like the same from everyone else it for a paper I'm writing .
9 Answers
jhharlan
Ducky
Wow....I won't really be answering your question, just commenting. If a person can find that many faults with his/her partner and worse still, write it all out on a public forum, I'd guess that negativity has probably become a daily habit. Look for something good instead! :(
| 10 years ago. Rating: 10 | |
clu
Vinny
-- I would LOVE to hear his side of the story and the 10 things that irritate him about you. Nobody is perfect.
| 10 years ago. Rating: 7 | |
itsmee
When I get dressed for the day, my dear husband peeks around the corner and whispers “Good morning, girls” It used to make me mad and now I laugh, laugh, and laugh some more.
That answer should could for ten. You think?
| 10 years ago. Rating: 7 | |
PS I think we're having language/translation difficulties Itsmee.LOL
robertgrist
You and your man are just what CODA was made for. CODA...
https://www.coda.org/meetings/‎
Co-Dependents Anonymous, Inc. (CoDA) Meetings. To the left you should find the Meeting Menu. Walking you through finding, updating/adding or maintaining ...
| 10 years ago. Rating: 4 | |
witchway
nomdeplume
Bob/PKB
Truly, I'd rather be single than have the relationship and attitude you two have towards each other. Ten irritating things?
1. Not taking out the trash when I'm not home to do it myself.
2. Not giving the dog FRESH water.
3. Not wiping up the whiskers from the counter/sink after shaving.
4. Not rinsing off dishes, cups, utensils
5. Not wiping the stove, cleaning the burner trays after cooking.
6. Not telling me when opening the last roll of toilet paper, paper towels, etc. so it can be added to the shopping list.
7. Putting an empty, or near empty, container of milk or juice back in the refrigerator.
8. Not wiping the kitchen counters, or leaving crumbs/bits of food in the sink
9. Failure to flush
10. Not turning off the lights or TV when leaving the room.
These things are IRRITATING, causing a minor inconvenience to me. YOUR list could have stopped with one item: "He's a habitual liar". Who cares what's irritating when you're dealing with THAT.
| 10 years ago. Rating: 1 | |
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Wow so many opinions and only a few partial answers. I guess I should explain to the self righteous and judgmental that this poll was for a paper being written (and not even my paper). If you read.it , it says I'll start to give an example . Maybe I should have reworded it to say here's an example. It was comprised from three people 2 females and a male.
I wouldn't air my dirty laundry over the internet because a list like this would only make me look like an idiot for sticking around. I agreed to do it because it struck my interest to see what people would have on their list. How many men said the same things and how many women said the same thing. It wasn't a jab at my guy.
It's just a poll my friend needed to gather information on. .Take deep breaths its gonna be alright.
I just didn't think I needed to go into that much detail but Thanks anyway.
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Although I stated it already , it is not my relationship that is like this , but I will admit years ago when I was 21 I was in a relationship just like that. And of course it didn't start that way but before I knew it was. I want to say to those that jumped quick to tell me not look at the faults and consentrate on the good DID YOU BUMP YOUR HEAD? No one should ever ever tolerate being treated like that ever!!
Never ever should anyone stand for their partner making them feel that way in public or behind closed doors. There is never a reason to say hurtful things to he one you are suppose love but yet suck up to everyone else that treats you like crap. If you think that forgetting about the way someone continuously hurts your feelings and treats you like they are your Daddy or your boss , then you need some self esteem classes.Would you want your mother , daughter or sister treated that way? Yes people fight, yes no ones perfect but No one needs to be some ones door mat. And Bob/PKB you're right The lying is a number 1 reason to get out. I did just that in a very short time . I stayed longer than I should but there was a kid involved and money was an issue. But I saved and left as soon as I could.
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most defenatly one mistake that I wouldn't repeat again