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    Do you worry what the others say about you ?

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    Not at all, Could'nt care less as long as it's true.

    mycatsmom

    sunny, the prob is, when petty people talk about you, it's hardly ever a true statement, b/c they want to make you look bad.

    No, never.

    It depends on who is doing the talking. Friend know me better than to knock me, strangers can't be argued with but I'll steam some later from the sting.....

    No i don't worry what people think or say about me, it is not going to change who I am.Who are they to judge. No one is perfect.

    hector5559

    speak for yourself,
    pythonlover

    Moderator
    I am.I'm not perfect.

    Not in the least, life's too short.

    NO..."sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me"

    mycatsmom

    Daren, that's what my mom used to tell me when my brother said mean things to me. I wish she would have taken him in hand.
    Ducky

    Moderator
    But, sadly, name-calling DOES hurt! Nowadays, it's called verbal abuse.
    natasmai

    Sticks and stones may break our bones

    Bones Heal

    Harsh words cut the deepest and swirl around inside our minds forever.

    Wounds cut by words sometimes are unable to be healed.

    I dont care what people say about me, I have enough on my mind to keep me busy already. I have noticed in past, the people who talk about others, are thoes, who can least talk.,

    No.It's all true.Why should I care.

    Ducky

    Moderator
    The good, the bad and the ugly? lol
    Tommyh

    I just looked at your profile.
    All this time I've been thinking you were a bloke with insecurities.But you're not.You're a 14 year old girl (With insecurities).Cheer up Kiddo! Look on the lighter side of life for a while.This will change the way I answer your questions in future.I apologise if I seemed harsh in the past. :)
    Tommyh

    That's me! warts and all.Take it or leave it! LOL
    How are ya Ducky?
    Ducky

    Moderator
    I'm good thanks Tommy. :)
    mycatsmom

    Tommy , hasn't anyone ever said something about you that isn't true, so it really p----ed you off ?
    Tommyh

    @MCM No,not really because it usually is true.LOL.That's the kinda guy I am.
    Tommyh

    Actually,not many people would be bothered to talk about me.I'm pretty insignificant in the greater scheme of things.
    Ducky

    Moderator
    Tommy, you're way too funny to be considered insignificant here! It's all about the fun! lol

    Depends on the person. A criticism from my dad would floor me. A criticism from my daughter is usually to help me. Something like “Mom, you’ve got to find a new person to cut your hair.” (She means well and I take off to find one)

    Colleen

    Moderator
    Why do you let your father affect you like that? When do you stop being dad's little kid?
    itsmee

    I didn’t let it affect me for very long. I left home the day after I graduated from high school. I guess that’s when I stopped being Dad’s little kid.
    Colleen

    Moderator
    Oh, I thought you meant today, not years ago.
    mycatsmom

    itsmee, I thought you said your dad was deceased. I used to get hurt when my dad would say something critical towards me. I felt about 2 inches tall. And he did a lot of that.
    itsmee

    My dad died years ago. The things he said to me stay in my head. I can still see him in my mind ... sitting there at our round table staring at his black cup of coffee in the morning and his Sherry at night.

    The good stuff is great! The bad stuff, almost always comes FROM someone who barely knows me, TO someone who doesn't know me at all. It's hard to be disturbed by the gossip of a stranger, though someone will ALWAYS believe it, without question. That's not something that I can control, so no, I don't worry about it.

    No not at all,I  just put on a brave face,and blubber later,

    Ducky

    Moderator
    Awwwwwwwwww.... :(
    itsmee

    (((hector))) LOL. You are funny, man. I do like you and I think your little green blubber face is adorable.

    No...say what you like..so long as it`s true!....(Even then I don`t really care..people should just take me at face value!;-)

    Good question...It used to devastate me when lies and gossip were told about me.  I lived through a smear campaign started by my husband- It hurt a lot when my "friends" believed him...but then I realized that my true friends never doubted me.  Since then I'm a bit choosier about my friends and I no longer care much at all.  

    Ducky

    Moderator
    There is always someone who can find something to criticize and someone who WILL believe it, or at least, go along with it. We only hope that it's not someone that we "thought" was a friend.

    Meditating during a rain, the sound of drain pipes seemed like voices….a song….a message. Then I understood the mind interprets everything as if it should make a some sense….like a  voice of reality and meaning in everything rather than simply accepting such sounds as what they actually are…rain in a drain pipe.  The rain in the drain pipe is what it is, not what the brain would make it seem to be. I do not worry about what anyone may think…the rain in the drain pipe is just what it is. 


    I don’t worry about what others may say about me because I always hear them and know how to respond to them. If you were not aware of what others said about you, behind your back, you would not know how insecure and threatened, by your freedom of spirit, you are to them. That is why they may have un-kind or misleading things to say about you to others. Angelic people seem spooky to immature beings because they accepted the angel/devil dogma and are confused by that primitive belief system.  

    Ducky

    Moderator
    And the rain in Spain falls mainly in the plain?
    robertgrist

    Duck!….Here comes a tea-cup..crash-tinkle.
    itsmee

    I am going to have to read that when it’s not 3:33 A. : )

    yes always

    mycatsmom

    now there's someone who's honest! ^ 5, HAZEM
    itsmee

    HAZEM ~ My answer is YES ALWAYS too. ^5 Congratulations on your honesty.

    I may wonder, but I sure don't worry about what others say about me.  They will think what they want, and it's not my problem.  :D

    millie111

    Same here Bob!...How are you?..(long time no chat...How are the family doing/How are YOU doing with the family)?Xxx
    Ducky

    Moderator
    Hi Bob!
    Bob/PKB

    Howdy Howdy. My computer's battery conked out. I just got this old one hookedup to the internet. Hope you are doing well. It's good to be back. There were some BIG events (ROMOS hit the million, I've been told) and lots of good questions. :D Thanks for thinking of me millie and ducky
    Ducky

    Moderator
    You're welcome...nice to see you.
    millie111

    Yep Bob..ditto Ducky...always miss you when you aren`t here! millie xx

    Oscar Wilde: 'The only thing worse than being talked about is not being talked about'

    itsmee

    My writing teacher said that too. All the time.

    Sometimes what we don't say is more harmful


     

    itsmee

    Absolutely.

    No, can't and quite honestly, 'The bad thoughts', always seem to find there way back to me.  When that happens I have a little think and evaluate if there is any merit in the criticism and work my way forward from there. 


    In the case of my ex-husband and his family, "I gave it my all, now please let it go!" .... Seriously!


    My point is, there will always be someone who throws negative energy in your direction or thinks badly of things you may or may not have done.  It is for you to decide what you are going to do with the information.  Being brutally honest with yourself actually is the easiest way of handling things.  The bonus is, you learn a lot about yourself in the process.


    Best wishes, Fishie

    I used to when I worked. People always talked about me behind my back, and it was very vindictive. When you're smarter than management, especially  in the agency I worked for, one is perceived as a threat. I never bragged about it; the results spoke for themselves. It doesn't bother me much now.

    hector5559

    Thats my boy, dont let them get you down,
    robertgrist

    I have had a similar experience throughout my life. No employer wants to have employees who are more intelligent than they are because they feel their position is threatened by the more intelligent; that if they were so smart they would seek a higher position in management which threatens their own ascension in management. This leads to “ those, we got to get rid of this guy"…syndrome. I ended up running my own businesses and pushing time loaded jobs onto those who could do their part. Follow that lead and you can say bye-bye to what you wanted to do but don’t have the time to do.

    As human beings, in the beginning we are all programmed to be concerned about what others think and say about us.


    If someone can be bothered to even have an opinion or judgement of me I feel proud. I win, if they go home and talk about me, I win, I'm in their home as well as in their heads.


    I have a favorite saying "tell me what you think of me and I will tell you who you are".

    itsmee

    I think you’re brilliant and good looking. : )

    If someone says something about me, I know I'm making a point........

    Headless Man

    Not always a good point but a point.....lol
    FISH-O

    'Lol' is an understatement... I am rolling on the floor here! ... Good Times!
    Headless Man

    Point made......
    FISH-O

    All in good fun though ... :)

    Take a good look at me. What could anyone say about me that would hurt.



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