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First of all it would be advisable to find out if he is definitely single P, then "if" he is it's time to bite the bullet and ask HIM out for a coffee, you're both adults now you know, if he says no don't take it personally and get on with your life as is, I hope he doesn't say no though, you deserve a wee bit comfort in your life, GOOD LUCK!

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11 years ago. Rating: 19
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As everyone else says, make sure he is single, and go for it gal. Hope it works out for you, you deserve a bit of fun in your life.

11 years ago. Rating: 19
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all of the above,good luck Bob,

11 years ago. Rating: 19
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As every one has pointed out, check to see if he is single and available, just say i don't like drinking alone would you like to join me, you got nothing to lose, if he is shy like i used to be when i was young you may be waiting a loooong time for him to make the first move. Good Luck, MsBob, keep us informed.

11 years ago. Rating: 18
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I think that first you need to know that he is indeed single. Try to gather information on his status, either through him or through other workers. If he is single, ask him what he likes to do for fun. I know it can be hard to do that (it is for me), but that's the way to be happy. Some times we must take chances. It's either this or loneliness.

11 years ago. Rating: 18
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Try this old trick. Make a bet with him. Bet a hamburger.  The loser has to buy the burger. Regardless, you go "out".....

11 years ago. Rating: 17
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Don't be shy Bob.(Providing that he is single) If you like him, talk to him.You strike me as the type of person who would not have any trouble in getting to know someone.

11 years ago. Rating: 16
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Marital status-check FIRST!!!  Then, "I'm going for a coffee later. Care to join me"? Seriously Bob, what's the worst that can happen? A coffee is not a commitment.     :)

11 years ago. Rating: 15
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Any photos on his desk, if it is a desk job, usually they tell a great deal of his personal life.  If animal photos, maybe no family connections, or if just kids, maybe no woman in the picture.  Maybe you have a "friend" who works in H.R. dept.  (I know it is not proper, but maybe they can hint if he is married, or not...)...  Good luck, you deserve a good thing! 

11 years ago. Rating: 15
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go for it bob,say you know a nice coffee shop and would he like to join you,its a cup of coffee!!

11 years ago. Rating: 14
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Go ahead and ask HIM out to coffee,. To have coffee with someone is not a commitment.
It will give you a chance to listen to him. Usually you get a gut-feeling about a person, wether they are honest or not. Of course if he is not single - you will know what to do. Good luck! 

11 years ago. Rating: 13
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Why don't you ask him? If you can establish with certainty that he is  single,give it a go Bob.You're a good looking,smart lady.What have you got to lose & what has he got to lose? No harm in a cuppa coffee for openers.Ya gotta start somewhere.Good luck!

11 years ago. Rating: 12
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Just chat in general with him, then you could say, Im going to visit some family member, sister, cousin over the week end.        Then just say, what will you be doing ? Depending on his rely, you may get idea, if he is single or not. This way, you are not pushing yourself, to make it look like, that you fancy him. After the week end, you could ask him, how was his weekend, this way you should get more information. If he asks you about your week end, you can tell him, that you change your mind and did not go. Good Luck. BOB. If he is single, you can suggest coffee another time.

11 years ago. Rating: 12
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Do not take his word if he says he is single. If he thinks you are interested he will obviously say he is. Men don't always tell the truth. Women always do(?)

11 years ago. Rating: 12
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Forget about obsessing over his marital status for now. Obviously you have no intention in pursuing a possible relationship with a married man. Meeting a co-worker for coffee is hardly a lap-dance. Relax, initiate, and if he agrees, you'll have all the appropriate opportunity to bring up the personal stuff like if he is now or ever has been married; legally or otherwise, has of hasn't children etc,etc.

If he passes the "unattached" exam, a second "date" could delve into the real nitty-gritty criteria like financial status. Not that money can buy true love but why start anything with someone who can't spoil you in reasonable luxury ?

Good luck and Think Big !

11 years ago. Rating: 11
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First try to find out about his life. Check to see if he is on local sex offenders list. Im not joking either. Just find out everything you can, You will make a more informed decision with more you know.

11 years ago. Rating: 10
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OMG, Bob/pkb I laughed so hard I had to dash away,  LOL LOL LOL ROFL  <--like that

You don’t have to worry about it. Say “Good Morning.” (if it IS morning, of course)  He will come alive to you. I see it in my crystal ball.

You’re a lovely lady and he will notice.

 

11 years ago. Rating: 9
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