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    Do you remember clearly your first intense love ... say 30 years ago. What would happen if you went back to it?

    +9  Views: 1764 Answers: 18 Posted: 11 years ago
    itsmee

    We are playing a game of grown ups. I will wear the red high heels. You wear the business suit. k? : )
    jhharlan

    "When I am old, I shall wear purple with a red hat which doesn't go"
    and old poem I keep in my pocket book.....
    dowsa

    Thank you .Itsmee. I am very lucky indeed Very happy ,still hold hands walking about town ,or anywhere.

    18 Answers

    I was still with her then now on fifty two years .Hmm she must still love me !!

    itsmee

    This is wonderful. You are so lucky and you know it. : )))

    Yes, and clearly I had very bad taste.  Large mistake.

    Benthere

    Yippy u r back !
    dowsa

    "OH .But you must take the good with the "Bad Girl YOU have Memoirs more good than bad !"Not like me starting with "Tongue lashing now "Pan bashing.HI little Fishy missed you !!
    FISH-O

    Are you back from your sunny vacation dowsa? Everyone missed you! xoxox
    itsmee

    Uh, I spoze you wouldn't go back to it, fishlet. : )
    FISH-O

    Large mistakes are large mistakes. Going back would be a lesson in futility don't you think, itsmee?
    itsmee

    Well, that kind of heart break can only happen once. Such a situation!

    Nope...going forward now, not backwards

    itsmee

    Wise man I suspect. : )
    lindilou

    ...me three Doc...step..step..step...

    Im still waiting.  lol

    itsmee

    He’s right around the corner. I saw him peeking at you just yesterday. : )
    Dollybird

    itsmee. if he is like one I got, I dont want him lol.
    itsmee

    Huh Dollybird? Say it again, please.

    His kids would be wondering who I am and his wife would be recalling that she vaguely remembers me from high school. Then we would start talking about all of the people that the three of us know.  I can't imagine anything more dramatic than that....probably because "going back" is not how I live my life.  I am far too busy with the "right now" to bother.


    P.S.  He was a well-liked teenager and by all accounts, is a loved and well-respected man!

    Ducky

    Moderator
    I don't know...it isn't something that would occur to me to notice.
    Ducky

    Moderator
    Yes don...and no doubt the subliminal message is directed right at you. Please don't start stirring. We'll try to pay more attention to you...promise.

    First love? It would be way more than 30 years ago!  I thought he was so cute! (That's 60's talk) He was a brown eyed blonde.  Last I heard he had been married for years to the same woman! I'm sure she would defend her territory if I dared to venture there! I'm very happy where I am!

    Ducky

    Moderator
    Mine too...more like 50! Yikes!
    mycatsmom

    clu, they don't say a guy is " cute" anymore ? ! I'm still saying that.
    itsmee

    Yup ... so let it be, clu : )

    It will be 37 years for us this Nov!""

    Colleen

    Moderator
    That's a red velvet cake, isn't it? : )
    FISH-O

    So cool.
    millie111

    Wow...Watta cake!..Congratulations btw...;-)
    mycatsmom

    that's beautiful
    itsmee

    That’s great witchway. There are a lot of long-term marriages here.
    witchway

    This is a dummy cake I made to display in my bakery, so it's not red velvet Colleen, it's styrofaom and spackle compound frosting! LOL
    itsmee

    witchway
    I would like to get training and do that for a living - make dummy cakes -- oh, so much fun. My bakery has Noah's Ark (live) It's $100.00 and so well worth it. I'd like to go in half with the other set of grandparents and get it for our six-year-old. Wow ... Oh Wow!
    Colleen

    Moderator
    That's just not even nice :(
    itsmee

    Do you think the display cake isn’t nice? I think it’s an art form and takes skill and training.
    witchway

    I believe Colleen is refering to the fact that the cake is not real, especially that it's not a real red velvet cake, her favorite.
    itsmee

    Whew witchway! : )
    There's a place on the back of akaQA where you can tell about yourself and show your talent. Fishlet did a good one with lots of pictures. You could show pictures of your cakes and tell about this profession.
    Colleen

    Moderator
    Exactly. She couldn't even lie to me and say, "Why yes! It is red velvet with REAL cream cheese frosting!" :(
    FISH-O

    :D ..... I hear that train a comin'... rolling 'round the bend... I only want to ask... When is the world a gonna' end?
    I need red velvet cake... gluten free if you have it. :D Oh please!

    Yes and I'd leave her faster than I did the first time. 

    millie111

    :-)lol x
    witchway

    A lesson learned no doubt, but learned nontheless. Hope you are still searching for happiness. You deserve to be happy!
    Colleen

    Moderator
    I'm happy as I am. I'm more geared for the single life anyway ;)
    millie111

    Gets my vote!..Single life or long distance relationship...the latter works for me!:0

    I married him, I was 17. Live and learn............

    mycatsmom

    jh, you must have been deeply in love
    jhharlan

    I wanted out of my parents house. Figured it would be easier to get out of the marriage....But yes, I did love him for a while..........
    itsmee

    I got married the day after highschool graduation. I wanted out too! Mine lasted.
    jhharlan

    I'm impressed and overwhelmed. Congratulations on a life well spent....
    itsmee

    We’re an odd little pair of soul mates. : ) Thanks Julie.

    Yes I do, and that's what I said in a little chapel, It didn;t work, but I would be very financially secure had I stayed, we remain on friendly (distant) terms but dare I say he would have bored me into an early grave, intelligent man, double degreed but the most boring man on the planet

    itsmee

    Double degreed, financially secure ... Maybe we could pass him off to someone here.
    lambshank

    He's now spoken for again, oddly enough I really like the new wife, she smokes, drinks and uses the odd profanity.....what's not to like
    itsmee

    Our kind of girl to be sure ...

    If I had a choice of doing that or chewing my arm off...I think I'd go with chewing my arm off first!

    itsmee

    I shouldn’t laugh. Oh Shootah, I’m sorry. Maybe you and mcm should get together and trade war stories. : )

    Met my first love in the 7th grade (1967),we were together for our six remaining school years and we were THE couple at our prom.Thats all we talked about during those years was how we were going to get married and have a family and live life to the fullest,and it was her doing most of the talking.Well to make a long story short,she met someone else and we parted ways,she went on to marry this someone else,and I decided to go on a crime spree and landed in prison for a number of years.You know it took me a long time to get over her and I've seen&talked to her over the years @(high school reunions),and after all these years I've realized that I got the better deal in that relationship and she knows it too.  :)    A little like the song  (she was going to be a actress and I was going to learn to fly)

    millie111

    You are one of the good guys Rick!...(people say and I have observed)!;-)
    FISH-O

    It is never to late to get that thing. Hang in there. A lot of people here see you as you are.
    mycatsmom

    Hi Rick...Was thinking about you yesterday. Next time.....don't stay away so long.We missed you.
    mycatsmom

    broken hearts do heal, but they leave a large scar.
    itsmee

    My name so happens to be Sue.... but it twasn't me!
    Dollybird

    CleverlandRick, thank you for sharing your story. Did you learn to fly.
    itsmee

    Good one, Dollybird!
    ClevelandRick

    @Dollybird :)))

    Yes- - - my ex-fiance'  .  He was a socio path, and I didn't know it at the time. I was about 24, he was 27  and I was crazy in love him....my first real love......Couldn't eat, couldn't sleep, thougth about him all the time.. Was on top of the world--- on cloud 9. He ended up backing out of marriage twice!  It was all a big lie. He lied about wanting to get married, wanting kids, buying a house. He lied about it all to get me to stay with him. He wasted my child-bearing years. He's  67 and never been married. ...has no kids.He lived with his mother untill she died. He still lives in her house.

    clu

    That's a sad story- So have you ever married or been happy with a partner?
    mycatsmom

    yes, I married later in life to a super great husband. Unfortunately, he died in 2000.
    jhharlan

    How very sad for you. Talk about waste and learning late. I'm glad you got your good husband if only for a while.....
    nomdeplume

    He wasn't Jimmy Savile by any chance?
    itsmee

    Like Julie said, I too am glad you got your good husband if only for awhile.
    mcm: Would your recognize a sociopath if you ran into one now. They are supposidly very charismatic and good looking. I’m not sure I’ve ever met one but I do know they have hurt many people.
    Glad you’re here ... No Sociopaths allowed here. You look sweet in your red outfit.

    I married her, and we are still going as strong as you can after 37 yrs. married.    I almost lost her 3 yrs. ago as she was very sick!  Doc gave her 30% survival chances.   2 hospitals, 2 surgeries, and 34 days in hospital, months of home care.  She is about as strong as ever, never slows down though!  Nobody ever has a bad word to say of her, ever!  She is loyal and devoted to a fault.  We would like her to think of herself more, and of others less.  She is a gem, and lives to please everyone in her life,what a keeper!!

    itsmee

    Yet another long marriage. We are record breakers. Your good woman is most definitely one to keep.

    Baby you asked...my first REAL love was my duo partner..we were going to be wed...name our first girl after his deceased mom..3 years into it I came home to discover he and his 15 (yes..15) year old 'new girlfriend?' bouncing round on my side of the bed...devastated, I made the unconcious decision to drink myself to death, which nearly worked!! This, only after tossing everything in the apartment at them...including my iron and ironing board...had my father not been upstairs at the time I fear I might be writing this from a prison cell....I was almost 20 at the time and by the time I was 26 was advised by doctors to stop drinking/drugging myself to death...so I woke up. Been sober ever since..don't have a clue about men to this very day. My only successful relationships with men are 'platonic' and/or if they work for me as sidemen in a band.

    lindilou

    p.s. IF I were to see him now...he would likely want to get...down. (I am quite svelt for my jr.citizen years..haha!)
    millie111

    Platonic's. good!... There but for the Grace of God go many of us re the trouble we could have found ourselves in!;0
    lindilou

    ...it is strange mills, my father was and 4 brothers are most awesome role models and friends yet the 'men' I attract have all been totally and utterly incompatable with me...perhaps my solo performance has overtaken any 'need' for partnering...my plate is tremendously full already and I've yet to meet a 'man' who would do me more good than harm...now I'm whining...I know, I know...suck it up princess. :(
    millie111

    Lindi...yep I know where you're coming from! My
    and Grandpa and most of my bros the same!...Maybe a case of a tough act to follow?...or maybe I just went for the bad boys?!!;(
    lindilou

    omg...don't get me started.....oyvay!!
    millie111

    lol lidi..Sounds interesting!:-)..How long have we got?!;-0







    lindilou

    I attract terribly bent or destroyed men...ex-cons, ex-addicts and most recently a closet meth-head...who now resides on the curb...sadly as I really love and like him but my love does not fix addicts...so, I cut him loose....(again she whines!!)
    itsmee

    You're a musician!
    You look for passion it fuels your music but it get too hot.
    Yes, we ALL look for passion but musicians are just different. (artists and writers too)
    Do you write songs? What do you do as the frontwoman?
    I tried to play the guitar for years -- just couldn't get the right sound. I'm a fan. It's a bit safer.
    Congratulations on your sobriety and your sveltness. : )
    Sorry about your love that sits on the curb.
    If you and Millie got to talking, I'd surely listen.
    lindilou

    itsmee,millsie, the badboy thing is a product of my own self-parenting where-in I learned nothing really about healthy relationships...especially between men and women...sad but true...and reading books certainly does not cut it....but there was this one audio-tape called "Women who run with the wolves" by Clarissa Pinkola-Estes....wow...what an awesome healing thing that was...I recommend it highly!!
    itsmee

    “When I was stone blue Rock “n Roll sure saw me through.”
    Saved my life. Yep.
    I love folk, eclectic , blue grass, rock ... all of it. Let me know where to find you. I’ll be in cyberly in the front row.
    “Coming back from the dead” (Gotta love that!)
    Tell us where and how to find you on you tube ... (or someone like you) ;)

    My first real love ( Intense) was more than 30 years ago, she was 17 and i was 18, i still think about her occasionally  ------ Those were the days.

    itsmee

    nomdeplume and I most certainly know what you mean. I still think too. OMG. If I could only tell the story.... If only .............
    nomdeplume

    She got married, had two kids and found Jesus, so she has all she needs, and more than I could have provided.
    itsmee

    nondeplume ~ but she doesn’t have YOU. I sense she missed a great one.
    nomdeplume

    itsmee, perhaps my screen persona does not match reality.
    itsmee

    nondeplume ... who wouldn’t rave over that little blue square face and those crossed eyes. Marvelous, simply!
    nomdeplume

    itsmee,you say the sweetest things. Are you trying to 'pull' me by any chance?
    itsmee

    How could I not?! : D

    If I went back  30 years I think it would kill me, it was very intense and I could not perform at the same rate today.

    itsmee

    I know INTENSE. It can only be survived once in a lifetime.

    30 years ago I was in the waning years of a 9 year relationship that was not going anywhere and I was restless, sneaking out with someone from my earlier days.  Then I met Mr. Wonderful and married him, only to be left after 16, mostly unfulfilling, years. 


    Would I go back?  No...forward is good, even if I march alone to the beat of my different drummer. 



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