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Give him a choice, you or internet. He cant have both. The more you let him away with it, the more he will keep on. Hope you are able to stand your ground.

If you do not trust him and can not trust him, why are you staying with him? 

Colleen

He's not your best friend if he's cyber cheating. You might love him but you need to love yourself more.

I wouldn't let it go.  It's bothering you enough to ask on an international website. 
If your husband's internet usage is supposed to be confidential, you are going to have a bit of explaining to do.  Why are you snooping around?
If not, tell him up front that you are concerned about the friendships he is developing on the internet; tell him you are really uncomfortable with the time he is spending and that it is a precursor to an all-out affair.  Ask him to please stop using the internet to communicate with other women.

If he is not willing to acquiesce to your wishes or gives you a bad time, I would see a counselor AND a divorce attorney.  I know that sounds harsh, but asking your husband for faithfulness and fidelity on and off the web is not too much to ask.

The same goes for you. 

It depends on what you would do about it if you could prove it. There are ways to see what anyone is doing on your computer, but if you are not going to take steps to stop it (should you find it true), then it may be better to just let it be. Once you found the answer and accuse him, he would then know how you found out and block your attempts at keeping track of his activities.

Facebook is not particularly confidential, t's out there for all to read and scrutinise,I think if he was seriously interested in another woman he might find a more discreet way of communication.is there a reason you feel the need to check on him?if so it would suggest you have doubts about his fidelity anyway, though my husband does access my rarely used facebook page to catch up with family on occasions I don't have any qualms about him doing so

You are pretty sure that he is cheating.  Even if he isn't (or hasn't yet), is this the kind of relationship you want to be in?  If not, tell him why you are leaving and say goodbye.  

"communicating with another woman":  What does this mean?  Before we proceed to castrate him, let's hear what you did uncover 2 months ago.  At this point, it's only fair to him if you reveal what you think happened.  Thank you.

O.K...Maybe not really a good thing to do...but you could "Honey trap" him..ie...set up a female profile,that he might be interested in if he`s cheating on you...and sit back and see his response to this "O woman`s profile"!...(Men do it too)!...Not nice..but all`s fair in love...etc!

Good Luck!

Why live with uncertainty....? What do YOU want?

If I have a relation and I was not free to communicate to whoever I want to talk to, I think she has to explain to me why this mistrust? She can sit beside me and watch what I'm typing and hear what I'm saying, but no way that she may forbid me to talk to anyone. She would have the same freedom.

So the talk your writing about must have some reason, not just the talking. Do you mistrust him because of one talk a few months ago or is there more to it to mistrust him? Sorry if I see things wrong, but thats what I think right now because of what was written.

Greetings Puran.

My opinion: If you think anything, you should find out... Get on his facebook & check it out. Are you just gonna back off cuz he tells you to? NOT! Put your big girl panties on & get to the bottom of it NA matter what he says..First of all, SHOULD you be suspicious???

20 years with your best friend and you want to ask total strangers what we think you ought/should/might do? Well...you could tell him that your last 'talk' (the one where he stonewalled you? Yes..that one)was not satisfactory for you and that you wish to converse (versus confront) with him again about your interests and concerns within your relationship! Deal with this honestly and with an open heart...push light and love toward your husband...not the darkness that suspicion so loves to spread! Ask him about it forthright...do not think about it..do it. Peace.

Seems to me like he needs an new aversion.  Time to use your womanly charm  to lure him away from the tube and into your bedroom.  Don't worry about what you think he is doing.  Think of ways that will make him more alluring  and attractive to you.  It can be enjoyable for you as well.  No need to fight, accuse or argue.  Think of positive ways to get his attention and away from the computer.   As the expression goes " you catch more bees with honey than you do with vinegar! Good luck! wwwsecondmarriagesucesscom