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    Afraid of Offending a Contributor "Friend" ?

    Do you shy away from commenting honestly (or at all) on controversial AKAQA questions because you don't want to disagree with a "friend" ? Taking a position that opposes that of a fellow Karma-giver can spice up a debate but may surely cost one some TU's. Do you tread lightly or full steam ahead ?

    +19  Views: 1901 Answers: 22 Posted: 10 years ago
    Bob/PKB

    Damn, you are just so good-looking!
    digger

    Must be the reindeer antlers.
    Bob/PKB

    That must be it... yes, that IS it. Real turn-on, antlers...
    digger

    I raised the question because I've noticed that on some questions, certain regulars are conspicuously absent. That's their choice, to be sure, but their participation would only make the debate livelier,in my humble opinion. And "humble" is my middle name;-)
    Bob/PKB

    IMNTBHO: This is a really good question; the answers are, too.

    22 Answers

    No. I feel I am entitelt to my own opinion. I try not to puposely offend anyone., Karma points are not the most important thing to me, but beeing able to express my opinion is.

    I tend to keep my religious and political opinions to myself and "rarely"get involved in heated debates, but I'm game for any other subject, if I feel someone is in the wrong or has given a crappy,rude, or wrong answer I'll tell them,Karma doesn't enter into it.

    itsmee

    You kinda said what I said. You just said it better.

    You know me. I say what I need to say. My friends understand me even if others do not. I have no worries about karma. I'm here to do a job. ;)

    doolittle

    I put myself in the tardy corner on your behalf. Pfffttt.
    Colleen

    Moderator
    lmao!

    I like that I can edit myself because sometimes what I write initially and what ends up on the screen have different "tones" or "attitudes" (both of which people often misinterpret with me).  Anyone who regularly reads my answers and/or comments knows there are a couple of people who often rub me the wrong way and I'm OK to tell them so.  I have to remember, though, that I have to be ale to take it if I give it out.  
    Only on religious issues do I tread lightly; I try to state my opinion straightforwardly without antagonizing people.  

    itsmee

    How do you edit yourself, Bob/PKB? I’ll have to try that. I thought that once you pushed ‘SEND’ that that was it.
    Bob/PKB

    When you click on the "Edit this answer" under your answer, the whole thing appears in a conversation box, like when you make a comment. You can scroll or space through and add, delete, and correct. Then you select "Save", just like "Add new comment" and, voila, you have edited!
    itsmee

    Hmmmmm ....I’ll try. Thank you.

    We all have different opinions about EVERYTHING. I would rather people answer honestly.


    I've pissed off a few people here over the last year, but hey, life goes on. If we were all the same the world would be a very dull place.


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    itsmee

    That’s an Ashley Brilliant card, huh? I love his stuff. Haven’t seen it in years. Of course, I haven’t been to San Francisco in years.
    Bob/PKB

    The best thing about people here is that we tend to "let it go" and move on....agree to disagree.
    TSC

    @itsme: Ya know, years ago (30) I was in Frisco and spent an hour reading all the AB cars on the rack at a store near Fisherman's Wharf. I bought up a bunch of them and started sending them to friends. I recently thought about those cards and Googled AB to see if I could lift some of his work for free. His site is limited to what you can "right click" but an IMAGE page from Google can supply you with a enough laughs to hold you over. LOL Enjoy.
    itsmee

    So ... You spent time at a rack in a store near Fisherman’s Wharf thirty years ago You read Brilliant just as I had. When I read your post I got a whiff of the bay, heard the seals bark, and wished SF was my home. Thanks TSC. I’ll head over to his site and look up his autobiography. Oh. what the computer brings!
    TSC

    I LOVED IT THERE. I'm 3,000 miles away now. :(
    Colleen

    Moderator
    rtkyler, there is no such thing. Please do not present yourself as a co-moderator here. I, as a moderator would have been notified if there were a co-moderator.
    Colleen

    Moderator
    If you are going by the write up on what akaQA is all about, it means we are a community of members who help to moderate the forum by answering questions as they should be answered and helping new members learn how the forum operates according to the admin's and member voted standards. Site moderators wear a moderator tag. I was just kidding about the junior moderator bit. We don't really have those either. ;)

    I don't care for political or religious questions! I surely would not change anyone's mindset on these!  So they are avoided!

    I have no problem disagreeing.  For a nice akaQA, I would take the time to explain my position gently and with tact (if there's such a thing with me).

    itsmee

    I like how you do.

    I stay away from really hot issues. I’ve reported “abuse” twice since I arrived here. The second time I worry about and think maybe I was wrong. I dont know.


    When people get in a big political tangle, I bow out but usually read - same with religion. I find that the people i disagree with wouldn’t understand what I have to say anyway. I just get more angry.


    I don’t worry about Karma so that’s not an issue for me. So anyway, I don’t “tread lightly” I leave. We need spice, I just add a small amount of salt.

    I don,t have a problem taking a stand for what i believe in but i do belive in doing it in a tactfull way.Be polite about it.

    I also tend to avoid political debate (partly due to the fact they are in the main not relevant to me) and my religious beliefs are my own, I will comment on anything else but generally try and keep my comments positive,I tend to by pass anything that I find personally offensive

    itsmee

    “Positive” is a good word to keep in mind here.
    lambshank

    Absolutely

    I often wait to see if I've offended anyone but so far so good. Colleen jumps me a bunch but I don't mind....

    itsmee

    LOL. I do. You don’t have offensive bones in your body, Julie.
    Bob/PKB

    I'm trying to get her to be more outspoken :D
    jhharlan

    Great, "it's be mean to Julie day" (that's what my family always said to me....)
    Bob/PKB

    Oh, hardly, my friend; you know I love you! I don't want anyone pushing you around.
    jhharlan

    I feel much better now........
    Colleen

    Moderator
    I don't jump you or jump on you even. I make suggestions. I jump on trouble makers. If you're not a trouble maker, then I don't jump on you. It's not like I target you Julie. I say something if I see something. I do it with everyone. I even removed one of fishlets comments the other day because it was a bit over the top. She understands why.
    jhharlan

    Well said. I don't take offense. Given enough time I accept......

    I come on the board for a laugh and to possibly 


    learn but certain topics don't interest me, so I


    don't bother participating in them. 

    I've never been accused of being "afraid to offend", in fact, being too outspoken is the usual accusation.  However, I do find that the older (I like to think, more mature) that I become, the less interested I am in arguing, debating and especially, proving my point.  I think what I think, and to attempt to back it up by the "so called" experts, the recent studies, the current research, the up-to-date medical research, the psychiatric society, etc etc means little.  Most things end up changing within a decade or two and the "experts" routinely make a different statement.  "We no longer believe, as we did a few years ago...."


    I also think that whatever a person believes on ANY topic in the world, there is a group that will believe right along with them.  So in answer to your question......No.

    I try to put my opinion politly as most people on here do. If someone is being offensive I will give them as good as they give. All the regulars on here seem to be polite as far as I can see, I always give my opinion if it's something I feel I have an opionion about. But I always try not to offend people, I know not everyone understands the English ( sometimes daft) sence of humour, so I try to be a bit careful.

    itsmee

    The faces help people to understand what we mean.
    : )
    : ))
    : D
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    : (
    : ((
    : O
    You, no doubt, know those but I wanted to amuse me. : )

    No!!!!

    ROMOS

    Short, and to the point.
    LOG IN

    Yep!!!!
    itsmee

    I love your cat. I just noticed it. Beautiful eyes and I can see her whiskers!
    lambshank

    I think it's a firefox cat,used to have it on my screen
    millie111

    @Romos..."Laconic"!!;-)LOL!!

    Im,electrified at this question being asked, Full steam ahead ideed,

    You know me..shy n retiring!!!:-)..lol!

    Dardaigh

    And funny, too Millie!:))
    millie111

    @Dar..WOT U SAYIN???!!!(HAHAHA)..i just tell it as i see it!!;-)
    millie111

    @RJ..YOU know I`D NEVER ANSWER ANYONE BACK!;-¬

    Brillaint question I try to answer truthfully but I must admit that I have very strong views on animal welfare and I do loose my rage on those occasions then on the end I am a bit of a people pleaser as I hate rocking the boat by the way good question

    Colleen

    Moderator
    Come on...be honest! You're a butt kisser!! :D
    melandrupert

    Colleen Ah OK then haha

    FREE the CHICKENS!!!  RUN SEAMUS RUN!!!!!  Yup.  I keep all of my opinions to myself!  Eloise, the elephant blows it wide open when I walk away from the computer...she types quite well with her trunk.  She doesn't spell well.  Public Schooling.

    digger

    WTF ?
    doolittle

    I'm sorry digger- please define WTF using your dictionary!! ROFL!
    digger

    Latin for Carrot.
    doolittle

    I see. This must be the "New" Latin... LMAO (Latin for celery)

    positive comment that adds to the debate is always the best way to reach a balanced answer.you cant please everyone all the time..

    A lot would probably depend upon the topic, and whether or not I felt energetic enough to get into a full-blown debate with someone. Over the years, I have found that life is to too short for fruitless adventures, and now follow the path leading to where the fruit of wisdom grows in abundance...with only the occasional flying monkey swooping in for distraction.  


     

    I like to answer what ever question I can, I also like when I get comments, reguarding my answers, let them be funny, or maybe that some one, has different openion than I have. It is nice to interact with other people on the site. If I disagree with someone, I will let them know, but in nice way, by giving my reason why. Karma points, dont get me any thing, I dont even check them.



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