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    how do i know if my man is cheating

    +2  Views: 755 Answers: 15 Posted: 9 years ago

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    It's usually a gut feeling. And sweetie your gut is usually right. Been there, hope it's just a stomach ache.

    Vinny

    Sometimes 'gut feelings' can be wrong. Sometimes its those with the gut feelings that have the skeletons in the closet. I have been through that. It's painful on either side of the fence. Some one that has had an affair at one time becomes very suspicious of another. Ones Feelings of guilt can sometimes be misunderstood as gut feelings of infidelity.

    Sit down with him, in a quiet room, look him in the eye and ask him.  You'll know the answer.

    dowsa

    "What if he is "Sleeping?
    Ducky

    Moderator
    Might not work.

    If he invites you to go on the Jerry Springer Show!!!

    Ducky

    Moderator
    Well honey, you know I love you with all my heart BUT....

    If you suspect it, he probably is. 

    Vinny

    Common answer but not always true. a previous bad experience will bring on paranoia. The heart is scared.
    Colleen

    Moderator
    We don't know them from a hole in the wall. I was not about to put a lot of thought into this. The other common thought is a person who accuses another of cheating has cheated themselves in the past.
    Ducky

    Moderator
    In any case, it's ALL bad. :(
    dowsa

    IS it time for a "Song "YOU CHEATING HEART"

    When he can't look you in the eye and say.. i love you..

    If he is vague about his doings...or he cops out  the last minute prior to a planned event...if he is not where he says he's going to be...if he can't look you in the eye without flinching...if his usual scent is "off"...if the money doesn't add up...if he reassures you by telling you you're "imagining things"...if his phonecalls have become a little too private...if his paystubs are missing hours for no apparent reason...if he freaks out because you have his phone,laptop,etc....if you've got this nagging suspicion that something's just not right.....need I go on???

    He comes home bathed and smells good and he says he has been to a gym but isn't losing weight. Suggest you put an extra pair of underwear in his pants the next time to let him know that you are onto him :).  And he will have a lot of "Repeated questions" to your straight question. I think that was in another question here :). If he falls asleep by 9pm, that's a definite sign and if he complains of headaches, feed him some arsenic while pretending it is Disprin ;). Several other clues, 3 mobile phones, mostly kept in his car or office but the bills come to you. They slip up usually. Just bide your time, if you want to bide your time. By the way, Liz Taylor is my idol :). 

    A change in routine could be a tipoff. 
    Your sex life increases or decreases.  Affection, same thing.
    He is even less attentive to you when you talk than usual.
    Excuses for being late or not showing up for something you have planned, missing the kids' games or performances.
    Working OT without a paycheck to validate the extra time.
    He needs to have more time for himself...away from home.

    It's hard to have an affair with someone without making time for it.  Blocks of unexplained absences would be a tipoff. 

    fjoel

    good answer. Also increased cellphone usage.
    Bob/PKB

    You're right. I forgot about that. My ex used to spend a lot of extra time in his "office", which was in the detached garage. He had a separate phone line out there. Bastard!
    dowsa

    Sad to hear that Bob.You are better off without him.I hope all men in your eyes are not painted by the same "TAR brush.
    Bob/PKB

    Of course not, dowsa! Every man is painted with his own tar brush! lol
    Bob/PKB

    ..........and there are the few and far between painted with something else, of course.

    Have you ever followed him? Give him a cellphone with a tracker in it for a present. Then you can track him to find out where he's going.

    dowsa

    "OH you would not do that!! My "Wife she knows I blush If she asked me you took your time shopping . I said well the "Girl said theses "Knickers should fit .I will try them on as I am the same "Size! "What about the "BRA!S I stuttered "OH don't know the "SIZE!My wife "Cried "HOW did she know my "Knicker Size??

    Catch them together kissing.

    dowsa

    What if it was two men?
    Colleen

    Moderator
    It's still cheating no matter the sexes.
    dowsa

    "OH right Colleen Made an "ASS of myself again.

    Trust your gut but try to recognize that it's not plain old insecurities..............

    Here's one way: http://youtu.be/7TPBh3sd29w

    gloriafrmCal

    Oldie but goody.

    "When he always smiles .When going out to play !! pool with his friends.You can be sure he is "Playing but not pool.More than likely on a bar "stool with a Dolly bird.

    I think it is a truely gut sick to the  stomach feeling. Sex won`t feel the same.

    You can tell if a man is cheating if he leaves a 50 on the bed side table and is gone before morning.

    doolittle

    LOL!!! (I'm worth more- but in these hard economic times Ill make a concession) after all he is "My Man' according to the author of the Q.


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