17 Answers

121 vs 21.... Bad for his heart.

Still attending school?  Teacher?  Age difference?   Hmmm....Be very careful that the two of you are not simply "enticed with each other" due to that very exciting aspect of being "forbidden".  You already know that though, don't you?

If you can't legally take your date out for a drink, perhaps that should be a deciding factor..

It depends on the real biological ages and compatibility of the two in the relationship if intimate/sexual.  No limit for platonic relationships.

Who cares about the frown . Things to consider there is a professional code of conduct for teachers . Morals clause and all that . This may cost her everything including her licence to teach to say nothing of the opinion of her peers . When in doubt dont go there is the advice .Lots of other women to play with . The down side for you is :you are sad for a bit and move on . Downside for her is :she loses everything and all her education is out the window . For what ? You ?     7 years is not a lot later on in life here its huge .   Maturity wise .                                 Bill

Does age matter, once people are happy.

Consenting adults  who is to say ? Things are changing and old norms no longer apply. I have no input here thats constructive or helpful .           Bill

I've always called it stops at 20 years...........

It's not the physical age so much as it is the emotional and intellectual compatibility. Of course, the physical plays a big role, but you need to have a little more to keep a real relationship alive.
AS FAR AS THE TEACHER GOES, the age difference is immaterial.  
YOU DO NOT DATE OR GET INVOLVED INTIMATELY WITH A TEACHER WHILE YOU ARE A STUDENT AT THE SCHOOL.  PERIOD.  END OF DISCUSSION.  

Oh, wait.....unless you want to get him fired.    And here's another thought.....with the remaining months you have in school, work on getting all your grades up at least .5gpa.  That should keep your mind off the poor teacher whose life you want to destroy. 

Ducky

A guy? Samuel? Samantha?

If its consenting adults i dont think it matters.But,for what its worth,my late husband was 16 years older than me.My currant other half 5 years younger though i swear ive got a younger outlook on some things than he has

Ducky

Chronological age sometimes means nothing at all.

I would once have said that age was irrelevant, but now I'm a little older and see friends widowed whose spouses were 20 or more years older spending their twilight years alone and lonely it makes me wonder if huge age gaps are maybe not so good, especially when it comes to the later years when I know they would give anything to have someone to share with, I know there are things out there, but they still go home to an empty house. But do keep in mind I am only talking about substantial age difference

Ducky

I know a widow who speaks of exactly that...she is so involved in life but says that going home in the evening, when the "busy activities" are finished, is the most difficult. :(

If its consenting adults i dont think it matters.But,for what its worth,my late husband was 16 years older than me.My currant other half 5 years younger though i swear ive got a younger outlook on some things than he has

I am so confused by some of the answers that I need to pose a question back to you- How old are you and how old is the person you want to date?

Ducky

See SammyJohnson's comment under bluesman's second response. (Student, still in school, wanting to date a teacher.)

If both are over 21 there isn't one!

Ducky

Student and teacher. :(

If you are over the legal age, age does not matter.  However, usually many other circumstances come into play that do matter, like teacher/student relationships.  Like someone here asked, 'do you want to get the teacher fired?'  If a relationship does not hurt you and/or others, and it appears to be good for you and your partner, go for it.  If not, run from it.

if they are over 21. I don't care about occupation. Its the maturity of the individual.

Ducky

Ethics and morals!! Student and teacher!! There is an indication (if you read the comments) that SOMETHING is already happening here. Teachers can and do LOSE THEIR OCCUPATIONS over this kind of thing. It's only worth it if the teacher is prepared to have a different kind of job.

Ducky

Oh you did it too? (instructors = more than one) Then Sammy doesn't have to ask us if it will be "frowned upon" because it won't be, in your opinion? (I didn't mention the word "rules" and not everything has to be legislated to be against someone's better judgement). In my opinion, many 19 year old girls, do not make sound decisions, and flirting with your teachers is an example of a poor one. At least she's asking for opinions. I'll bet you didn't!

If they are consenting adults, it's not my call. Let the cougars roar, and the old geezers run until the battery in their pacemaker quits, or the bank account is empty. Just none of my business!