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You dont want to confront someone when you are angry and jealous. Go outside and hit a tree or a rock or something and jell and scream. You will  calm down enough to have a reasonable talk with the person you are angry and jealous with. Dont take a Xanax. It only makes those feelings go away temporarily and accompllishes nothing.

I would take the xanax and calmly "discuss" your feelings...

Sorry to hear this.  "a man (woman) covets what is closest to him/her" That being said, If u are jealous/angry over a thing- money, someone elses job, marriage, tv, pet back momba, etc. there's not much mouthing off you can do.  However, if your marriage sucks and someone elses is good you could ask them or observe the differences (however, your husband/wife needs to be motivated to change things too.  If a friend is spending all their time with someone else you could mention that you miss them and would love to spend more time with them. (if you are willing, you could suggest that you would even like to hang with their friend too).  I learned (the HARD way) that I have to look at my life and be grateful for what I have...even if it doesn't amount to many friends or belongings or money.  I also learned that I need to accept that, because of my physical problems and current situation, I may not be as "fun" to hang with because I can't be as active as most of my friends.  When you are jealous and angry it takes so much energy out of you- and no one else.  I happen to like screaming as loud as I can into my pillow, and crying sometimes to blow off steam!

Take the Xanax and work on growing out of these feelings. Work on your own security....

PS can I have a xanex too?

Talk is good, going ballistic is bad. As far as the XanaX goes, if that;s what it takes to keep you from pulling the trigger than by all means take it. Pent up anger will eventually surface. When it does it may be too late to have a civil discussion and your point may be lost.

itsme I am sorry that in what you are going through ..............We have all felt this way in one time or ornother they are horrible feelings and does stem from being insucure you must deal with these feelings soon as it will eat you up inside and your head will start making a mountin out of a mole hill I susjest you sit down and talk and you might be surprized that it was nothing in the first place ....I know this time of year is not a good time but its for your own good ...and the pills you are on will only make things work sorry you must face realality not hide under the drugs as they are masking the real problem and probely making it worse Please sit down and talk I wish all the luck and hope the outcome is good xxx

Xanax or xanax but keep quiet

I would be more concerned about being on XANAX for 25 years.  Hasn't any doctor suggested to you that he/she wants to ween you off of those?  What must the side affects be?

What is the "up" side of letting loose with your anger and jealousy?  
What is the "down" side of same?
Keep walking.  Take the xanax if you must.  
(I've been  somewhat angry and jealous for 5 months, incredibly hurt for 7....all in the same "friendship".  It relates to the first question I asked here, and I'm trying really hard to be "happy for you", when in reality, my black heart wants to see crumbling like a major earthquake....not that I'd be around to pick up the pieces.  I really hate this feeling. Fight it constantly)