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    what to do if you love somebody but hes abstinat?

    abstinat means that he/she does not want to hug kiss do anything you do in a relashonship till he/she meets the right girl or boy

    +1  Views: 2349 Answers: 10 Posted: 9 years ago
    Colleen

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    I'm confused about the he/she you put. Are you talking about your boyfriend or do you have a boyfriend and girlfriend and both are abstinent?

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    U LOVE THEM                                                                                                                                               .AS FAR AS WHAT "YOU" DO IN A RELATIONSHIP,OR WHAT "THEY" DON'T,OR WONT DO          ( UNTIL SAID TIME ) IN A RELATIONSHIP.IS PART OF THE UPS AN DOWNS IN ANY TYPE OF UNION. FIRST THING IS TO STEP OUTSIDE ONE'S SELF AN LEARN WHAT TYPE OF RELATIONSHIP THAT THIS IS,AS OF RIGHT NOW.SEE IT FOR WHAT IT IS.NOT JUST WHAT YOU WANT IT TO BE,OR WHAT IT'S NOT RIGHT NOW. ALL OF OUR INTERACTIONS WITH OTHERS ARE RELATIONSHIPS.AN THERE ARE MANY  TYPES.  SHALLOW OR DEEP, CLOSE OR CANDID. THE ISSUE  COMES INTO PLAY WHEN ANOTHER PERSON IS BROUGHT INTO THE MIX,AN EVERYONE DON'T MIX. HENCE THE TYPE OF RELATIONSHIP THAT IT'S TO BE,COULD BE,OR MAY NEVER BE.AS FAR AS ALL PARTIES ARE CONCERNED. BUT YOU SAY YOU LOVE, THEN DO JUST THAT.CAUSE IF YOU REALLY DO LOVE THIS PERSON."THAT'S WHAT LOVE DOES,AND IS" UNCONDITIONAL. .. ...     

    Well obviously your not the one.Why waste your time if he/she does not show you any feelings.

    figtree3

    I'm not sure it's obvious is it?
    I mean maybe he twitches of makes faces of something.
    Colleen

    Moderator
    It's obvious if "he does not want to hug kiss do anything you do in a relashonship till he/she meets the right girl or boy", as stated. It's right there figtree3, "till he/she meets the right girl or boy" It's obvious ceselover is not the right one.

    You've got the wrong person in your life. Way to many nice people out there to waste your time with a dead beat.

    Maybe wait until you are older and just get to know the person as a friend

    Sound like an episode of WILL AND GRACE. Either love him w/o the physical aspect of a relationship or move on......

    If you like this person as a friend then respect his/her boundaries and enjoy the friendship.  Say no more................there are a lot of fish in the sea!

    Enjoy his company... If it works out there is planty of time for the rest... Be greatful you have someone with such respect for himself and you.

    Marry them. But only if he understands that once married, he is expected to enjoin in physical relations. Otherwise, he is not commting to you or giving of himself.


    If you are already married, seek help. In that case he is either gay, is not suppose to be married (with deep emotional issues regarding his previous vow and commitment ot GOD)  or is infected.

    lambshank

    I thought marriage was the sure way to put a lid on affection,I plan the best shopping lists in my head when we...

    Just relax and feel free to be yourself.


    They're other ways to receive and give love, Snooky.

    Well if you can accept the fact that he is a certain way.  There you go.  If you cannot accept it, you should go. I would not try to pressure him to change.  Love and relationships come in many packages, but the two involved should agree about the package.  Who knows something might motivate him to want to change.  Accept him.  Accept yourself.  Be open.  You never know.  And if it does not work out, how many fish are in the sea.



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