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One of my theories, too. I say I never make the same mistake twice....I make a new mistake. (Sometimes it's hard to tell them apart)

Only one was a spouse thank goodness, and I think I must have reached deep into a cracker jack box...lol.

I actually understand what you are saying and so...(this might sound just a little bit abrasive)...but,(and this worked very well for me)...if you are sitting across the table or anywhere at all from a man and he triggers one teeny tiny thing (seriously)...one single smidgen of a thing that does not feel right...(vibrates wrong) walk away.
If you take this advise, you will never be with the wrong man again.
I am not joking...I once had a man make a joke about Converse running shoes after I had just bought a super cool pair (saying that at 50 may seem odd but these shoes are still fantastique...I wear them only for the right occasion which hardly ever happens) Any way!
...back to the small mind and slightly 'it's all about me' man...Half of our dates were paid for by his business because every time he paid the bill he asked a question and that question pertained to his business...
Then the shoes... He had a few 'not so nices' to say about the shoes, without even seeing the shoes in real life! (I know! Right?! Seriously!) and well...what happens next?... no phone call back from me and...
(Oh my goodness! How could I forget this part?) He also did not like that I was re-decorating my own home... (I know! What the heck is that???...I am supposed to fill my free time with what when I have a creative block? A can of paint is $30.00)
He was so offended...he had just bought land. Good land. The kind anyone would be impressed by.
I must be an idiot!
My point is that he was over the top wrong for me and it only actually took about 2 weeks to figure it out.
If a man is wrong he will show his colours very quickly...The right man is there for you and probably very close....
Stop dating the ones that wiggle against your nerves and definitely don't date a man that does not understand the shoe.
Or you.
Don't make excuses for the man.
I took my own advise and it has worked for me.
You are your best council.
Listen to your voice.
You look and sound like a wonderful person. The right man deserves you and you deserve to be treated like a queen because that is exactly who you are. A Queen!...( I am not making this up. Obvious is obvious. Sparkle and Shine!...in a very tasteful way...)

Side bar: To the men that read this... it's just a 'fit' thing...the man who did not like the sound of me wearing a pair of super-amazing Converse running shoes was not the man for me...He, (I hope), is the man for someone with far more conservative taste. (Bland with a capital B... bless her soul)

I wouldn't believe that coming from anyone but you.

hi spacey sorry to hear this if thats the case your better of with out them love ya mel xxxx

You're right Mel, I am better off without them, I have two GOOD friends in Pamela and you. LOL.

It makes me sad whenever someone who is "supposed" to be a friend turns out to be otherwise. The betrayal and the hurt kind of paralyze me and put me in a tailspin. I try really hard not to be angry; anger was my "trademark" for such a long time...I get some pleasure out of being able to tell a total asshole that I am NOT mad, and that is solely for me.
So I am sad to hear about your incident here. Please know that, although we are not acquainted outside of this place, I feel that we have a friendship...if I ever have an issue with you, I'll take it up with you directly. Sneaking around and lying are unacceptable in my world.

Thank you so much for the very wise words Bob. It is sad when you think you are friends or close to someone and you find out different, I'm coping very well with the situation though.I don't let anything keep me down.