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There is never a right time to leave someone you still love, so waiting is fruitless. I did the exact same thing a few months back. It broke my heart but I knew it was going nowhere. I had to be honest and tell him exactly what I was looking for. I knew he wasn't willing to change those things and it wasn't my job to try to change them for him either. It hasn't been easy but I have to say , when you do, turn to this sight for support. You will be amazed at the caring you will receive here. You are both losing time waiting for an inevitable ending.

Leave. The "what if's" will drive you crazy. Don't look back, don't dwell and don't mourn (much)...

cut your losses and walk,i shouldve done that 15 years ago.Dont hope things will improve ,with hindsight youll regret not doing it sooner.Good luck

Don't look back...just walk away.

Do what feels right, use ur head more than ur heart..."the heart is treachurous".

i agree with jhharlan....dont regret the things u have done only regret the things u havnt.

You have recieved alot of good answers from our friends.

This is a situation that I have never had to face in my entire life.  I was left by my husband after 16 years and, though it was devastating for longer than it needed to be (I'm a bit of a drama queen), I am thankful he had the brains to leave.  We were both unhappy.  I used to stand at the door as he walked out to the garage, thinking to myself, "I just can't do this anymore.  I just don't want to do this anymore".  

I moved out of my own home to end a relationship of 9 years.  I was not in love with him anymore.....after 9 years, he still didn't want to marry or have children.  I numbed out. We continued to see each other until I began a relationship with the guy I married.  I talked with that guy about 3 years ago (after no contact for over 20 years).  He had never married and told me it took him about 5 years to accept that I could be with someone else.  I am still speechless.

I doubt I would have the strength to leave a relationship if I loved the person unless he were unfaithful or physically/mentally/emotionally/financially abusive.  I care about myself now more than ever. 

"You can't walk away from true love, and leave your feelings all behind..." http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pbB47M9pIFo