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When it comes to commitment, your head is only part of the equation.   Your heart has at least an equal "voice", and it sounds like, with this guy, neither your head nor your heart is sold on him.

I have a fear of commitment, too, and I am almost 60.  I am so hopeful that I will meet and marry someone who will love me as I am and who I will love (and KNOW that I love him).   When I meet somebody, I am always wary of him and feel like I keep everyone at arm's length.  When I DO let someone closer, it seems to be someone I KNOW is not right for me and that the relationship will not last.  Knowing this, no problem with commitment!

 Don't blame yourself or think there is something wrong with your head or your heart.  He's not wrong and neither are you.  It's the combination that isn't right.  You probably are off with him when someone else catches your eye and back on when you are going solo.  ???  If he loves you, this is hurtful to him.  Think about it.