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I do worry. I heard a saying.....Today is the tomorrow you worried about yesterday

12 years ago. Rating: 5
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you tell her nothing at all is wrong!let her enjoy enjoy her childhood as long as possible. lifes moves to fast! she'll know on her own, all to soon.

12 years ago. Rating: 4
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WORRY HAS NO POSITIVE OUTCOME IT IS A WASTE OF ENERGY

12 years ago. Rating: 3
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Keep your chin up! It's too bad that you have felt so low. Do hope things look brighter for you! There are some very caring people on this site! I've found that out! :)

12 years ago. Rating: 3
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Thanks for coming back & telling us what you think. Very few people do and it leaves you wondering if they even stopped by to read the answers. I didn't pick up on the depression & I should have. Chronic pain certainly can cause it and you've realised that. Are you getting it treated? That is something the right medication can help. Take care.

13 years ago. Rating: 3
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If that is her attitude it's time to stop hiding the truth. (I am assuming she's an adult.) How can she help if she doesn't know you're in pain, or even be tactful? You don't have to whine... not a good idea... or tell her more than once... that is whining... but make an opportunity to talk to her and explain what is wrong, how it's being treated, and how you feel... if you need her help, say so... and with what... don't leave her feeling you expect to be waited on hand & foot if you mean will she pop round on Mondays to put the rubbish out. I think you'll get a good response. If you don't, and she tells you again that you worry too much the sharp answer is "Somebody has to, since you don't". Go for it.

13 years ago. Rating: 3
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Maybe you are, maybe you are not, what do you think?

13 years ago. Rating: 3
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How old is your daughter? My thought is that you can tell her anything its just how you word it according to her age, she will comprehend it according to her maturity .If you think by telling her that you are loading her up with pressure or worry then just tell her in a simple way and answer any questions she might ask .

13 years ago. Rating: 3
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nothing can be said yet ,but when she has her own family and her daughter turns and says to her "you worry to much" just grin and say now you know, then she will no how much you care

13 years ago. Rating: 3
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Hmmmmmm?

12 years ago. Rating: 2
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your answers gave me comfort-understanding. i said, "sure i worry. i worry double so you don't have to worry at all." i'll be glad when the family dinner is over. somehow i feel like i'm at the bottom of the pecking order. depression is a part of chronic pain - that's a given. thank you all.

13 years ago. Rating: 2
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I agree with dwayne that worrying is not good, my mom used to say someday you will understand when you have your own children. The reason I worry is because I care, If I didn't you would ask why aren't your concerned about me.

When you love someone you care, part of caring is concern and thought, naturally a parent has all of these things for their child. The trick is to not worry to much. Trusting your kids judgment is important, once you know that you've raised them the best you could, you have to let go a little. I know it's tough, but that's the empty nest syndrome thing. Hope this helps, sorry for your pain, I deal with the same problem, chronic pain and depression. Feel better, many people really like you here, you are amongst friends. Cheers.

12 years ago. Rating: 2
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Chinese proverb, if you think for three minutes how to solve your problem instead of worrying you could rule the world.

12 years ago. Rating: 1
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