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    why leaving one's marriage used to be frowned upon in the old days?

    +3  Views: 618 Answers: 8 Posted: 12 years ago
    GNAMA1974-13

    when I asked this question..it was because I have noticed a new trend where people now seem to not frown divorce and also more people view divorce as something that is done when ever;the slightest problem and "i want a divorce"as if not taking marriage,relationship,life actually as serious...People tend to have so less patience,compassion and endurance as they used to in the old days...The old days seem to have more people really caring for the welfare of the family..maybe I am not seeing the big picture:-(.Now people get a divorce online,by fax,by texting etc...it is crazy...broken families,unhappy kids...we see more and more single parents...children suffering because of adults who refused to compromise,because of adults who were selfish etc...

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    the purpose of marriage is so that kids can have both a mom and a dad. God designed two parents for a child, in case something happens to the one.  The problem with divorce is that many times, one party will move out of state, leaving the chlldren with no  other parent to come to his events,and give him overall  guidence. It's very scary for kids when their parents split up - - - - especially when he knows he won't be seeing his other parent for a long time.  Then, after the kids are grown, the purpose of marriage is so you won't get a STD by whoring around. And so you will have someone to keep you company and help you and take care of you in your old age.  God said for this reason, a man shall leave his mother and his father and cleve to his wife. What  God has put together, let NO man put asunder.

    Divorce was considered a couples failure to work out their differences. Divorce is psychologically painful for everyone involved because the couple is tearing their emotional bond apart and ending their union. Having been through that, I would rather be shot or stabbed than divorced…it is harsh and memorable.  

    GNAMA1974-13

    amen!!!!!!!!Amen!!!thanks...yes divorce is very painful..i can relate:-(((but there is always good in all painful situations:-))

    Take a look at some of "today's" broke up family's and that should answer your question...

    I think it is sad that you dont think it is frown upon thise days... I think that domestic abuse is talked about without shame now and there is an understanding of the victims plight. Other than that or infadelity I think it is still frowned upon.

    GNAMA1974-13

    I do believe that marriage is the right way to go and start a family,a happy,harmonious union and I also believe that divorce is very bad but when one partner is abusing the other(in any shape and form,physical or mentally abuse)it is VITAL to leave
    GNAMA1974-13

    after re-reading your answer I understood that you assume that because I asked this question I am pro-divorce...I am pro-marriage and pro-harmony and pro-happiness..As long as a couple can resolve their issues and there is no abuse(physical or mental)a woman who loves her husband should not divorce him unless he is having extra-marital activities...
    Jenn

    There is No excuse for any type of abuse... I would hope that the abused partner would have the strength to leave the marriage...
    Yes when I read the question I did think that you were rationalizing divorce.
    I see so many ppl just grow tired of one another or just not willing to work together... It breaks my heart.

    You gotta remember the Vows, They use to mean something , For Better or for worst. People go through a lot in the years, They change, If one cannot change with the other that's when problems arise. I took my wife way back then for the rest of my life ,{that was 25 years ago} and still counting. Now a days it really doesn't seem to matter.

    It used to mean that a woman was a man's property when she married a man.   She was typically uneducated, thus was left at home to take care of the house and the children.  A woman today is dynamic, ambitious, and often subscribes to the ideal "what's good for the goose is good for the gander".  She now can take care of herself, thanks to education and the demand for women in the labor force.  In short, she is independent and does not feel she needs to be a man's property any longer.  With education and money comes respect.


    People in the old days just didn't know how a woman was going to survive after a divorce.  That fear is now greatly subsided. 


    Often times a divorce can also be very profitable for a woman. 


     


     

    Because Prostitutes were Stoned those days. The fear kept the woman to hang on with one man as allowing the 2nd man was constured as prostitution!.

    That's because the christians had their snouts in the government.

    mycatsmom

    Knock it off. You are being offensive to Christians. At least I didn't give you a TD. Colleen taught me not to do that.
    There is marriage in every culture, no matter how primitive or how acient they may be. We are hard wired to want to make a relationship legal and permanent . Some people are mis-- wired.


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