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How to defuse a delicate situation when dealing with crazy people?

Now that everyone has actually realized that dad is going to die (and soon)... kids are coming out of the wood work wanting to speak at his funeral. Mom and Dad made plans for the service. There are 13 kids between them. If one speaks it is going to be a domino affect. Mom and dad desided that none of the kids would speak or sing or be pal barrers. It is our time to grieve.. But now 5 people have called to say they want to be part of the service, speak, preach,sing,ect.

Mom cant deal with this right now. It is up to me and my brother to handle everyone. What should we do? What would you do?

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Tommyh

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Further to my last answer Jenn,perhaps if you have a wake it may be a good opportunity for those people to say a few words then.

12 years ago. Rating: 3
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Jenn

Wow that is a great idea... We are usually just lookers and chatters at a wake around hear, but I like the thought of using it for speaking.

commented 12 years ago

Tommyh

We did that at my mums funeral.
All the grandkids & great grandkids had their moment,there were a lot of tears & a few laughs & it all worked out pretty well.

commented 12 years ago

Tommyh

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Just tell 'em straight!

It's not what Dad wants.

They can't argue with that surely.

12 years ago. Rating: 2
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Jenn

I couldnt but crazy people can... and we are talking CRAZY!!! My step brother died and they tried to pull him out of his casket to see his injuries. Then they fought over a hat... one would put it on him then the next would take it off... for about 15 mins.. My dad stepped in and told them the next one to touch him was leaving.
My mom married my "dad" he had 7 kids she had 6...

commented 12 years ago

Tommyh

Maybe the best solution is for you to get a little bit crazy yourself.
They sound like real charmers.
Good luck with it Jenn.

commented 12 years ago

Vinny

Bwahahaha! Jenn I am so sorry to come across disrespectful in this most serious thread but this one just got to me, 'Crazy people taking the stepson out of the casket and looking at his injuries, and then fighting for the hat.." C'mon now, that's just too funny.. sad but funny..
sorry....

commented 12 years ago

Vinny

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Jenn dear, i am with everyone else here on this, it has nothing to do with 'what they want' it has to do with what your dad and mom wants, they MUST respect this, you must tell them to just 'knock it off'.. Show some authority--

12 years ago. Rating: 1
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Jenn

Vinny it is terribly funny.. If I didnt have to be a party to it I would be rolling on th e floor laughing... I swear I live in the town deliverance was filmed in...

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