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Like the women who become sexual pen pals for cons? I think they're very sad and lonely and maybe have mental issues or a complete lack of self esteem.

Colleen

That's fine but I was speaking of the ones who end up in romantic sexual affairs with these criminals solely because they are criminals and known to be evil. There is something wrong with a woman who would take herself to that level.

Colleen

The ones who become pen pals in my opinion have to be desperately lonely and feel a prisoner is their only option for companionship. Or they are overly sensitive and think they can fix the criminal through kindness and caring.

Colleen

Your disagreement is noted. Personally this is not an important issue to me. You asked for opinions and I gave mine. I would never correspond with a prisoner unless I knew them personally or did not know they were an inmate. I wonder about some of the people here on akaQA if they are not incarcerated people. I take my chances with this forum.

If they feel comfortable doing it, sure

matheneyg,  you cant judge anyone, just because they correspond with prisoners. You dont know people.

Depends on the circumstances.....Family members who go to jail or your partner,it's only natural to keep in contact.But women who just for the sake of it,no i don't agree. God knows what these crims are all about ,they would only tell you what you want to hear and the majority would only be using you so they can get through their sentence.Once they are released i reckon you wouldn't see them for dust.

offenders need social contact with outside , Kairos , a religious group , goes to prisons and gives offenders cookies  and other type of little goodies. I have seen it three time when female kairos volunteers get involved with an offender. The offender and female fall in love and get married when he gets out.  Never lasts long. The female is no longer allowed back on prison when relationship gets discovered. Thus disrupting  the intentions of kairos goal.

They are lacking something  in their mental makeup  I think.

God bless them, prison is a boring, lonely place and any change in the structure is welcomed....

they are are people as well ,maybe not all are guilty and need compasion as well, so whats the problem..

It takes a special kind of person to correspond with letters placed in envelopes and postage paid.  To put that effort into corresponding with a prisoner whom one has never met, is an extreme act of kindness.  Correspondence to a prisoner out of kindness is commendable.  The content of the letters are chatty, general, benign, and not personal in nature.

Corresponding with a prisoner one has not met (or has met as described by chance in the prison system) for the sake of having a relationship with that person is more than a little creepy on a number of levels. 

Corresponding with a prisoner one has a relationship prior to the incarceration is completely acceptable. 

Did I miss a scenario? 

they're lonely and they want to avoid real contacts with real people. And I think the reason some women want to marry long term inmates, is that at least she'll know where he is every night, and that he's not going out with another woman. And some women take up with male inmates, so they don't have to get involved in a intimate relationship; but still, he says I love you ---to her and tells her she's pretty adn that she's the only girl he'll ever want.

ed, Im so happy, your getting on with your life, and a lesson learned. Not sure if all prisoners are mentally unstable. At the time of  the crime, some could of flipped. Not sure, what you mean, If there strangers their mentally unstable. To many people, you were also a stranger, does that mean you were mentally unstable also !

A loser.

If there strangers, their mentally unstable. I had the misfortune of spending some time in the County jail while being a 17 year old idiot. I had no visitors, letters or any communication with anyone for six  months including family, friends. Made six months feel like six years. Never went back.