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Arri, I'm very sorry to hear this.  Are you sure she cheated?    Ask yourself if your marriage and wife are worth fighting for.  If they are, I would let her know that you know about the affair.  Don't be mean or violent.  Ask her what made her cheat?  Will it stop?  Is she sorry?  If you want to work it out you will have to go to counseling.  How about children?  Do you have any?  What would a divorce do to them.  If you guys are fighting all the time and not getting along, that is sometimes worse on the children than an actual divorce.  What about finances - divorce splits everything down the middle (usually).  What about custody of the children?  You have a lot to think about.  I'm sorry that I can't wave a wand and work it all out for you.  Good Luck.  I'm sure my colleagues will have something to say about this too.  So listen to them.  Regards/yvonne57