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    What would you do if you only met your father once? And you are now in your 50's

    If you are 53 years old and you only met your father once when you were 14 would you search him out and find out why he abandoned you and your 2 brothers and started a new family? What if you had health issues that you wanted to know if they came from his side of the family?

    +4  Views: 1576 Answers: 20 Posted: 7 years ago
    mat21225

    If the father is serious and interested in a relationship, then make the opportunity happen. Could be a wonderful blessing for you both.

    169rebecca

    My father would come back because he loved his family so much. I once asked my mother this; also he really loved her and was very dependent on her as she was on him. Also he really loved his family. We were all together and when he announced it in church he was crying, However, if he really left us, I'd search him out to get health information for me and my siblings. He always believe when I was diagnosed with MS that it came from his family.
    169rebecca

    If my father wanted a relationship I would welcome it and seek to develop it. His reason probably would eventually come up but his return and reestablishing a relation ship would be primary.

    20 Answers

    You are thinking about it and probably carried that chip on your schoulder for a long time. Its time you looked him up and ask him the Questions you always wanted to know. Better late than never. Best of luck!
    leeroy

    T.u. Ann, nice and wise answer...
    Ann

    Thanks leroy.
    I believe that family is family no matter what, when you disown a family member it only causes you anger inside, it hurts you more than the other person. Forgive or try to forgive everyday and you will feel much better inside.

    I think you should try to get to know him, what do you have to loose? It will do you some good psychologically to know that you at least attempted to make an effort. Good luck, hope this helps?
    Go with what your heart tells you to do, not your brain.

    I know your pain, I'm sixty today and have never seen mine either.I found out at the age of 12 and not one day has gone by where I don't ask that same question. Why?

    matheneyg

    Thats why I strongly advise to try and find out I was lucky I found out before it was too late and today we have a pretty good relationship he's 88 I'm 63

    Yes I would I donot know of what the circumstances were , but there may have been some not all his fault you owe it to yourself to find out why befor it's too late and you will always wonder what was the reason then after its too late

    I'd immediately take him to the Phillies game(s). I'd buy the Hot Dogs too!

    Don't you think your mother or a closer relative can help you with your question regarding health issues?

    Don't want to hurt your feelings but if my father only saw me once at 14 and hasn't bothered since I would have long realised he didn't give a hoot if he knew me at 53 and moved on.

    If you really don't know the reason he left ask him. I've watch the reality show "The Locator" and in most cases, the mother either lied to her children or negated the father's existence by refusing visitation rights granted via the courts. And in one case the aunt and grandmother refused to tell the daughter the truth..............it was the mother's fault.

    I would takwe hin the the Phillis nezxt entire homestand and have a blast with my Dad. This time I'll buy ythe hordoags.
    marlen

    goforit

    why bother with him now,he didn't want to know then so what is the point of getting to know somebody that didn't give a dam in the first place.

    That means he dont really need kids sorry to say that.i feel the same way
    I'd want to know everything I could learn about him, his other children (if any), his parents, siblings...anything in HIS life that could impact my children and my life....and WHY did he fall out of my life?
    A relationship might be impossible, but I'd try to build one.
    Say it about time. Get to know one another. Start now a lot time wasted.

    Go in without any preconceived notion and give him a chance to open up.  Let him explain everything to you before you come to any conclusion.  Perhaps things are not as bad as you had been thinking for the las 53 years.  I would concentrate on enjoying each other's company rather than placing the blame on him.


     

    Forgive the prodigal father if he is sorry for what he did.

    Spend a lot of time with him, perhaps find out why he left you.

    mr. bill call me when u get my message. i cant find u on facebook

    WHat wou do if you just met your  Father, Just once ? and your at age 50.


    I would Proble be as nerveruw  as a cat in a tree.


    My Reaction would be a Question to my self .Will he know me.and that's the beging.


     

    If he would be 50 since I ever seen him then he would be 118 years
    old I am 68.
    TSC

    Not a good age to play "catch" with dad huh?


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